I am 24, been a geek forever. Discovered this forum, moved to big city, made cool friends, observed how the game works from them and now getting quite ok. BUT (shock and horror) still (kind of) a virgin and do not feel comfortable sleeping with girls as afraid they will find out and I will look like the biggest loser. Also girls generally get to know buddies I go out with before it gets to being in bed with them and worst fear is that buddies will find this out. Current girl very keen to fuxk but I have been making excuses for some time and afraid I will lose her soon. One solution is to go to certain places and get "trained". But I don't like going to such places. What would you recommend? Thanks.

Hey man.

As guys, we don't have a hymen, so our virginity is purely psychological. My point being, why even tell her? There's plenty of advice out there on cunnilingus, so I recommend reading up on it. "She Comes First" is a good read, I had a Turkish girl squirt up my arm using one of the techniques from this book (first time I've ever seen a girl squirt, and I hope not the last!).

So, if you get her off with your tongue and fingers, I'm sure she'll forgive you if you throw your old-chap inside her and shoot after 10 seconds.

After sex, *if she appears to have had a good time*, tell her you just lost your virginity. She'll flip out in a good way. If she acts anything less than cool about it, really, dude, she has issues that require therapy.

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You can also try the opposite - announce that you are virgin, and be proud of it. Tell the girl that you are waiting for the "special one", and make her think she is the one (just don't tell her, it has to be suggestive like everything else in game).

Yet another way to go about it is to announce that you are a virgin with total confidence and calmness, not nervous at all. Done right, she will not believe you and will probably say "no, you're not!". You can play ambiguous for a while, "maybe I am, maybe not... If I am, can you teach me?". If you do everything right, you will have planted the idea in her head, more or less consciously, of teaching you in bed. When in bed you can continue acting as if your insecurities are just a part of the game.

Remember that everyone wants it different, so there is no chance that even the most experienced lover does it right the first time with a new partner. So you may as well ask her how she wants it.

Don't say you're a virgin. Don't even mention it. Don't even THINK it. Forget that you are a virgin. From now on, you will create a cool, funny in a "cant believe I did that" way and DHV story about how you lost it at age (pick 14-17, thats the average age in Spain-USA).

Why? Pre-selection. If no women has EVER considered sleeping with you, for her to do so will lower her value to her friends and she'll blame you. If you do cum in the first minute or so, just genuinely smile and tell her that no girl has ever excited you so much, that she radiates this positive sexual energy which is amazing. Obviously, as mentioned before make her "reach there" first.

But seriously: Dont. Say. A. Word. EVER.

Enjoy mate, it gets better as you practice.

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This should have been posted in General Questions.

To the OP, just have sex asap. 24 is way too late to still be a virgin. Masturbate 2 days before your expected sex date to make sure you don't come too soon and make sure you wear a condom to make you last longer. Watch instructional videos on how to make women come.

Don't stress, it's just sex. Keep calm and fuck her brains out.

If you do decide to tell her before hand, then I'd tell her that you've waited this long because you're too picky, that you like the best things in life etc etc. If she's a sweetheart, then you could tell her that after all this time you've chosen her.

Overall, to relax, get a sense of humour about the situation. It does have a funny side and you're going to get a good story out of the experience... which we expect you to post here

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Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
- Mark Twain