| A mistake I see a lot of guys make is the following - they focus on one chick at a time instead of going berzerk and doing mass approaches. What you guys don't understand is this: you learn pickup by mass approaching, by becoming a person who is interested in the social dynamics of pickup, who wants to get the most out of it, and who has an internal drive to become the best. If you really want to become good at pickup you have to approach like it's your job. When you go out just approach everyone. People always ask what someone's success rate is. "Out of 10 approaches, how many girls do you fuck?" WTF? This is the wrong mindset. Why? Because when you approach everyone there are no single approaches, single sets, you're approaching everyone and then some girls like you and some don't, and then you pull the one you like most. It's not like "Oh I have to increase my batting average" every time you go out. No.
And the mistake guys make is that once they get a girl interested they stick with her. They might kiss her, get her number, then stop approaching and start "gaming" this girl. Why are you stopping your approaches? Why are you really doing pickup? The game isn't over when you get one girl interested. Hell you'll probably fuck it up because you're only focusing on her. Start focusing on the mass approach, of doing this for life. Set some ground rules that you'll go out at least 4 times a week (if not 5 or 6), mass approach every night (or day or whatever) and then you can worry about all the other shit. If you set these ground rules guess what? If one girl flakes or it just doesn't work out, it's all cool because you'll go out tomorrow, and the day after, and next week, and next month, and next year...there is an abundance of women, an abundance of approaches, an abundance of opportunities, an abundance of learning experiences, and abundance of successes and failures. An abundance of successes. You see? Just go out enough and it'll happen. Even if your game is shit, it'll happen at one point or another. But the ground rules have to be there. They have to be set. Set yourself these ground rules and it'll all work out and it'll all start to make sense.
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