Sup guys..

I just came out of a 2 year relationship with the women of my dreams, and she pretty much left me for another guy that lives in her dorm. I dont know how things are going to be down the road, but i know she is getting semi-serious with this new guy. Id do anything to get her back but i get the feeling its not gonna happen. Im just wondering how to deal with this bc we were each others first. Id prefer she be my only one, but right now it doesnt look like shes coming back. How did you guys get passed your first? Any advice?

hang in there, we have all been there,


the first one is the hardest to get over, but i can promise you this, YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN! YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE! you may not think it right now, i know i didnt think i could ever have feelings like i did for anyone like i did for my first, but it happened.


best thing you can do is move on and forget her, remember the bad times if you have to, remember the hangups you had. you have come to the right place, this is a place where we all help each other.

here is a link to a online book that a friend sent me when i got out of my last relationship http://www.mcwilliams.com/books/sur/srtoc.htm its a great book and can be read in like 20mins

another thing you can do is get out of the house and be social, meet new people, expand your social circle

you will be fine

hang in there

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Skittlepimp

Hopefully this will help you. I'm going to list everything I did wrong with my one-itis when she broke up with me - the more of these types of things you avoid, the better the chances you will have of getting back together with her. Some of them might be too late, but do your best.

-I actually got MAD at her when she broke up with me. I fucking straight up flipped out. I cried in front of her.
-I apologized for said flip out the next day, and proceeded to practically beg and plead with her to get back together with me. I tried to LOGIC her to death. hahahah so stupid of me
-When I called her after this, the next day, she said "hi" and I managed to get about half the letter "h" out of my mouth before promptly bursting into tears. She asked me if I was ok. I said no. Then I asked her to hang out. Obviously she was going to say no, and she did. I think I cried some more.
-After this she just stopped talking to me period. I must have called her like 5 times a day.
-We didn't talk for months upon months because of my actions.

Learn from my lessons, please.

It was all so stupid, and really, common sense dictates not to do ANY of those things... but I was just so fucked up by it that I clearly was not thinking straight.

lol i know what you mean man, but right now it doesnt matter what i do, she pretty much fell for this other guy, and transferred all her feelings away from me. right now im fucked in terms of getting back with her anytime soon. the thing is i dont want to fuck another girl if there is half a chance ill get back with her.. but at the same time i dont want to not fuck other girls if theres no way im getting back with her.

This one's gonna be hard to replace.. most of the time after a relationship its like w/e i can do better, but even half my friends are like.. sucks dude, shes one of a kind. bleh

this is harsh to say but you need to just realize shes gone, there is no chance in hell of getting back together. there are millions of other women out there, and you will find someone else, these feelings you have are nothing new, it happens to all of us, you just cant see it right now cause your head is elsewhere,

im only telling you this to save you more grief and pain

once you hook up with another women all your feelings for her will go away, i was 19 when i lost my first gf and few months later i was seduced by a 29 yr old woman, it changed my whole perspective.

embrace your new found freedom and get out there and sarge!

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Skittlepimp

I'm going through this now for the 2nd fucking time, and it sucks. I just made a post about it, I would do anything to get back with this chick.. but who knows what will happen.

It really does seem like there'll be no one else but then that's how i felt last time and then the other one came along.