Brothers, I just began work at a jazz club here in the Big Apple. I've been gaming this one HB 8 there, doing some freeze-outs on phone calls and text messages, generally putting theory to practice.
After work on Saturday, I did push-pull, although not consciously at first. It was only when I did it consciously that I begin to get IOIs.
We went to a bar for some drinks. I surprised her by ordering a cranberry juice, after telling (not asking) her to go out for some beer. I try not to drink whatsoever when gaming. You really learn more when you don't.
Anyway, I was too excited about going out with her, I gotta admit. I was talking her head off, and she told me so. It was that a voice told me, "who is she but one of millions of girls in this big city?"
BAM! I just stopped talking altogether and just relaxed in my chair and looked around. Like a charm, she began talking my head off. I started negging her, and found out that this shit works as good as they say it does.
We left, and she expressed a desire to see a movie. I told her I was down, but it was too late. So we parted ways, and I got a kiss on the ... cheek. Alas, I didn't have the balls to get one on the lips.
Question: At that moment, when you're about to go your separate ways, what should a guy say or do?
Anyway, I texted her the next day and said that she still had one of my pens from work. She replied and called me "dude." Hmmm ... I froze her out, and then saw her at work the next day.
I was negging her left and right the next day. Generally, I made the conscious attempt not to let ANY anxiety creep in when I was around her, and was "Rated R" through and through, as Trent says in "Swingers."
But we've made plans to go see some movie in the Village. Where do I go from here? The yawn-then-put-your-arm-around-her routine is too funny to work.

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Rated R!

It's unfortunate that she wanted to go see a movie, cause going to the movie is pretty much one of the absolute worst places you could ever go on a date. At the movies, there is no opportunity to DHV, to neg, to joke and be playful, to get to know each other, or absolutely anything else, because all you are doing is sitting in a big room with a bunch of other people, watching a movie and you can't talk.

Seeing as you are already locked into the movie, I HIGHLY suggest hitting up the nearest mall (often that's where the theaters are anyways, so it's convenient) before you go to the movie and walk around. Go into random stores, stores you like, stores she likes, just goof off and have fun doing all sorts of random shit and make a connection. Even if you already think you have a connection, from the sounds of it, it isn't good enough to let you put your arm around her in the movie and if you can't do that, then going into the movie is gonna be incredibly uncomfortable. For some more tips on mall game, check out my thread, the link is in my sig.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

What would be wrong with just going straight in on her in the dark room? This is what a friend told me.
Next time I see her, go straight in for the kiss, at the greet. If she doesn't go for it, I tell her that maybe she's right, maybe I'm taking it too fast. (What is that called again? Stealing her frame?)
That's the signal. If she likes it, I'm in. If not, who cares? She'll become a friend instead, and I'll know how to treat her in the future. Plus, she herself might have some friends herself.

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Rated R!

Why would you prefer to take the high risk, route, when there are ways to go about it and not take such a gamble. If you just establish attraction, build comfort, show that you guys have shared interests and a few other fairly easy things, you can have a 90% chance of success instead of more like 30%.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye