So I have been going out a lot lately really focusing and working on my game, experimenting, trying out different styles not to get a result, but to get one thing: consistency. I have put results on the backburner and really focused on what works and what doesn't work and pushing my game forward. I have been getting a high consistency in a few aspects of the game so far, unfortunately not a high consistency with lays yet, however I have only been at it this way for a month or two and working my way up slowly. There are a few key principles that I have come across that WORK. That right out WORK. I have not been rejected by girls, I have always managed almost in every single set I open to build comfort with the girl and arouse the girl, I have been getting a high consistency in numbers (albeit a lot of them are foreign girls who are here only for a few days), basically I have figured out for myself this part of the game so far. I have started from scratch since I used to go direct (telling them from the open they're cute) but ever since I went to Alex's hotseat I decided to go his way which was something new, a challenge, and I really had to work on it. A lot of this stuff does come from Alex, or is inspired by it. Some of this stuff may seem obvious, but it has allowed me a consistency in my sets, something I didn't really have before, it was more hit and miss. Here it is so far (will be updated as I go out more):

1) The undercurrent: underlying all other principles this is the most important one. You must, with every girl you meet, want her. You must want her from within, therefore don't play hard to get, disinterested, or any of that bullshit. Just want her, this is the most important part. Why? We will look at this again later, but you must want her and this is you frame.

The dynamic of a pickup is different than the dynamic of social cirlce or high status game. In social circle/high status game, the girl sees the high status guy and wants him just because of that. In pickup YOU are making the first move. She does not know you, therefore you are setting the frame right off the bat that you want her. That you make all the moves, that you show interest, that you are there to lead, because you made the very first move, even if this move is a simple "How long is this band playing?" Therefore you must want her all the way throughout the pickup, even if for some reason she doesn't hit your standards in some way or another, she's human, you are attracted, you want to pick her up, therefore don't waver. If she hits you with a shit test, don't waver, keep your frame. This is the most important part of it all, you must want her, and she must excite you.

2) You are already enough: taken straight from Alex from RSD (credit) there is proof to this. Without even saying a word, without doing anything, you are already enough for the girl. Would you two be stuck in the dessert somewhere surviving, at one point or another, because you are a man and she is a woman, you would have sex. It would be inevitable. You both have sexual cravings and therefore, over a matter of TIME, comfort would be built naturally, and you two would hook up. Therefore you are already enough. You do not need to build attraction, you only need to arouse. Forget attraction. She's already attracted, and she will be throughout, WHATEVER you do or don't do, however you are in the moment. She is and will be attracted. There is no reason you're not enough. Absolutely no reason. So stop worrying about whether she likes you or not, because she already does. This means that you can be completely and utterly congruent and completely trust that you are enough, because you are. So if you are angry in the moment, be angry, and open, haha.

This even goes for sets that don't open up straight away. It's not that they're not attracted, they're just not COMFORTABLE yet. Therefore your only aim is to build COMFORT. They already like you, but you are a stranger. Therefore you must build FAMILIARITY with them. Why? Because girls will only fuck guys they KNOW. And guess what, just by standing there, her seeing you around the bar, you being near her, for a longer period of time than any other guy, she is most familiar with YOU. Therefore your only aim should be to be NEAR her. STAY IN SET. STAY IN THE FUCKING SET. No matter if she gives you the blank stare. She already likes you, remember? Just stick around and she'll be more comfortable.

3) Since you are already enough, verbals don't matter. Well, they do, but not like you think they do. Verbals are an excuse to stick around her. Nothing more. And if your verbals are AROUSING, as in you express yourself freely, have fun with her, play around, talk shit, whatever, she will enjoy spending the time with you, allowing you to build more FAMILIARITY with her. Forget attraction. She's already attracted, because you are already enough. I had a set I opened and when I asked for her number she REFUSED to give it to me. I tried again and again playfully, but she refused. I left, came back later and spent more time with her talking shit, roleplaying, building more comfort by sticking around and by talking about her life and my life, etc. and voila we went on a Day 2. I genuinely thought this girl didn't like me, but she really did, she just didn't show it on the surface.

4) You need to build physical COMFORT. Stop escalating, build physical comfort and rapport. Another great Alex concept. He doesn't worry about escalation, he only build physical comfort and rapport, from the beginning. The girl must be comfortable with you touching her. You get closer and closer to her, touch her more and more, because she needs to be more and more comfortable with closer and longer physical touches in order to have sex with you at the end of the night or on the Day 2. Therefore set the frame that you are a physical guy, right off the bat, and just build this rapport with her. It's a game, a dance. It's up to you how "aggressive" you wish to be. The other night I was literally clinging to a girl after the first five minutes, hugging her and not letting go. She backed away and I just hugged her again and continued to look deeply into her eyes. We kissed not shortly after haha.

5a) Be vulnerable: since you are already enough you can just be you completely and entirely. There's nothing to live up to, there's no attraction to build, and you can solely focus on building this comfort and rapport with her, both with your presence and with your touch. That same girl I was clinging onto, I was also completely vulnerable with. I walked into the bar with still my jacket on and my umbrella by my side and gamed her like that. No need to show off anything, no need to prepare, just be completely vulnerable. This can even be your body language. Best of all, no need to be "Alpha". Fuck that. Fuck your alpha body language, fuck your alpha behavior. Be vulnerable.

5b) You are having an effect on girls: You know how when you walk into set and you might be scared shitless? Well guess what, girls are too. Often times girls say stupid shit...because they can't think of anything else to say. And since you are already enough, there is no reason to act alpha, because that will only scare them away. They already like you, so like them back. No need to "tease" hard or any of that. Literally just have a good time with them. You are on the same team here. Pet her, take care of her, often times she's scared because you're a stranger, so calm her down. Girls like to be liked by guys they like. Haha.

6) About anxiety: I will say very little about approach anxiety and anxiety to make big moves. Why? Because it doesn't deserve consideration. The best advice I got was, again, from Alex, to which he said, "Grow some balls". It's true. Anxiety doesn't help you, so get it out of the way so you can game properly. Get physical anxiety out of the way as well, so you can game properly. It's not a part of the game. So get rid of it early on in the night.

7) About the first few minutes of a set: the hook point was always something inconsistent for me. Now it's consistent. What do I do? In the first minute or two of a set I RAMBLE like an idiot about the thing I just opened. I talk and talk and talk about it, sharing my opinions, etc. and the set will open up. Remember when you walked into a set, opened, and got a one line response, and walked away? That set could have easily opened had you just kept talking like a machine. Learn how to ramble, it will get you far.

A little more about congruence: however you feel in the moment is the right way to feel, because you are already enough. Therefore, if you do not feel like dancing on the dance floor, go somewhere else where you can talk. If you don't feel like talking but dancing, then go dance. Go where it excited you, and game there. I've had nights where I was on the dancefloor and sets weren't opening up because I wasn't on the same energy level and I felt completely incongruent, but then I went to the smoking area and had a chilled conversation and had an awesome conversation. Look, it's not you who's doing something "wrong". It's either that the situation you're in is one you don't want to be in right now, the girl is not on YOUR energy level or wavelength, or if the set really isn't opening up, that the girl had a bad day or broke up with her boyfriend or some other issue out of your control. You are enough, therefore you can't do anything wrong.

9) Staying in set: Staying in set builds familiarity and comfort. Even if there are awkward silences, or if she talks to her friends, don't abandon the set. Too many times do you abandon the set because you think it's over. It's not over, it's just a PASSIVE test of hers. Can you endure the awkward silence? Can you endure her not paying attention to you for a minute or so? Stay in set, show her you like her, arouse, build comfort, build physical comfort, go for what you want. Don't waver. Staying in set also AUTOMATICALLY shows her you like her, because why else would you be there.



So here are some of the key principles that have really garnered a consistency in my game. More to come as I progress.