| First of all I know some of you are going to bash me for being in long distance relationship but I truly loved the girl and wanted to be with her someday I had already made plans with her to marry her in two years after I graduated but anyways here's how it goes...
I was in a LDR for a year and 3 months and she ended up leaving me for somebody else. I had met her in mexico around 3 years ago she started texting me I knew she had a bf but I was 18 and I didn't really take into consideration that much. For two years we texted each other almost every single day, and I never asked about her bf again. Finally about a year later I was finally going to return to mexico and a month before that she tells me that she does not want to hurt me, and after 2 years reminded me about her bf. I told her that I was not going to talk to her again and that she should try to fix things with him, we stopped talking for about a month but I could not take her out of my mind we had been talking non stop for 2 years. And I decided to contact her again. Finally I get to mexico and want to meet this person that I had texted for 2 years and I finally meet her at this park. We start talking and everything seemed good then I asked her would your boyfriend get mad if he saw us? And she said he shouldn't because they had just broken up a week before I asked them how long they had been going out and she said 4 years. I was shocked at first but then she told me that they had been on and off and she finally decided to end it for good. So we started going out and everything was awesome there was an instance where her ex saw us and caused a scene but nothing happened. In about 2 weeks she tells me that she is falling in love with me, I wasn't really in love with her but told her that I was feeling the same way because I did not want to hurt her. I return to the US
and everything was going awesome as well we texted constantly and once in a while saw each other on SPAM. When I return in Christmas she surprises me at the airport and we go to eat at a restaurant where she hung up a huge sign saying welcome back and our faces painted on there. She also decorated my apartment filled it with things she had made and gave me a lot gifts. December went awesome as well we had a lot of fun and bonded more. When I return everything keeps going awesome as usual she is very attentive always sending me messages we see each other on SPAM everythings awesome. Until about march She starts to become very distant and almost seemed as if she was going to a depression sometimes she would not text me for hours she would just come home from work and go to sleep. She would sleep almost everyday. She also seemed to become less affectionate. She just tells me that she is not feeling well but to not forget that she loves me I thought about ending the relationship as it almost seemed as she did not care, but thought that she was worth it and wanted to prove to her that I wanted to be with her so I put up with it all.
May comes and on the 31 her birthday I return to mexico and surprise her at night she had no idea I was returning and take a mariachi to her house to serenade her. She was really surprised and we just hugged and kissed each other after not seeing one another for a couple months. This start going as usual we hang out we go out a lot and two weeks into it her ex bf appears again. He causes a huge scene he posts some pics about them on facebook when they were still together she goes to his house to ask him to take them down and he ends up snatching her purse I get mad when I find out and we almost got in a fight it was just a huge mess her whole neighborhood saw their families got involved, and my dad saw her as problematic and from then on never liked her again. Things calmed down but she remained distant and not at all affectionate. I started wondering why after I almost got into a fight for you I have put up with a lot from you wont she at least be more affectionate. She was a very reserved and at times could be cold. She did not like to show a lot of emotion. I also started to wonder why her ex bf was so crazy, her ex bf before him all of suddenly had turned crazy too, I asked myself these things and the relationship just seemed to be going down.
I then thought about it and decided that she had good qualities she was humble hard working did not look down upon anybody plus she had gotten me so many gifts and decided to try to fix the relationship. I talked to her about it she realized that I was not happy and she made an effort to change, the following month after that everything was great I felt happy the relationship was going good we went out a lot we hung out with each other every single day. on our 1 year anniversary she decorated an apartment bought my favorite dinner filled it with flowers and balloons and poster and we ended up having sex for the first time. She was not a virgin I was and honestly the sex was not that great. It was my first time and she knew it. But that did not stop the relationship from going bad we still were happy and did a lot of things. I return to the US and again things seemed to be going well she was very attentive we did not see each other through SPAM that much this time because I was always busy studying or doing homework or sometimes her internet would not work.
and Last month she all of sudden starts doing the same things she started doing in march. She doesnt text me that much she sometimes would not text me for hours, she stopped being affectionate she stopped telling me I love you. I get fed up and ask her whats wrong. She tells me that she is not feeling good she is going through a lot and just want to be alone and have time to think things over, At first I am shocked but ended up giving in and tell her ok that fine Ill give you your space but how do I know that you will not end up finding someone else during that time? She gets mad at me and asks me is that all you care about she made me feel really selfish and egoistic, I aked her if it was somebody else and she got even more mad at me and asked how I could think such a thing? She assured me it was not anybody else but she really made me feel like crap and guilty for thinking those things and just decided the best thing was to just be nice to her and give her her space maybe she would return later. I kept being unsure of why she had decided to end things or what her problems where and decided ok I will wait a month I wont talk to her and the reason she left was because of her problems than she should miss me and want to come back and if it really is somebody else in about a month I will probably find out about it.
So a month passed by I contact her once in while and ask her how she is doing and she just talks really cold to me like if nothing had ever happened between us as if we were just people that knew each other. Then I get word from my cousin that she is seeing somebody else.
That hurt alot, I went through so much for her put up with alot from her spent 2 and half months down there with her worked my butt off over here to go see her and then my cousin tells me that she has a new boyfriend, another American who she had not seen in a long time they were former friends and had worked over here and returned in september.
But I knew I should have seen it coming and I probably deserve it because I did the same thing with her ex and what does not start good does not end good. She came from a very problematic family her dad would always get home drunk and was known around the town for cheating alot on her mom. He had a really bad reputation in the town. Her family life was very troubling. I then later found out why the her 2 ex boyfriend went all crazy for her always looking for her and threatning her, it is because she did the same thing to them she started seeing someone else while she was with them and then all of sudden would just leave them. She was very troubled but she just seemed to care alot about me so I still am wondering why she did what she did, was I too nice, I treated her like a princes did I do something wrong? I just want to know why she acted like she loved me so much and then just completely change and leave me? What do you guys think?
She just gave me so much and did so much for me and seemed really mature why would she do that?
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