I don't really go out and try, because I feel like it's not worth it. What are the advantages to having a girlfriend? I'll spend more money, I'll have to deal with all of the whining, and if I'm not interesting enough, she'll just leave me anyway. I don't really know HOW to be interesting. I lead a very simple life. Work, school, and home on the computer. That's it. Plus, it's more work for the guy anyway. I have to go out, do all of this WORK, just to get the girl in the first place. I don't know. Part of me still thinks its a little bit unfair that the guy has to do all of it. Girls just don't approach because they have the mind set that "All guys want is sex." What does that say about girls? It just shows that they are being very narrow-minded. Sex is desirable, but that isn't the reason I would have a girlfriend. But they don't see it that way. Also, supposedly, that rejection is harder for girls than it is for guys. Give me a break. So its okay for guys to have to feel the pain of rejection? Screw all of it. I'm 22, still single, never had a girlfriend, kinda don't care that much.

You have to open, neg, tell a bunch of stories (I don't have any stories to tell). What it really sounds to me, is nothing more than one big mind game. Why need to bother? I can't stand stupid people as it is. I'm not trying to be ignorant or arrogant about this, but its just the way I feel about it. And the whole Mystery Method just seems "un-natural". I guess I won't ever have a girlfriend, I guess...

Does anyone else feel the same way I do? Does anyone else agree with me with some points? I want to know if there are people out there that are like me, in my shoes.

I think a lot of people feel that way . . . until they get their first success. Then the danger of the flip side becomes that you become addicted to sarging, and end up neglecting the other more crucial aspects of your life.

As Neil Strauss said, sarging should never become more than a glorified hobby. It's a fun hobby, and one that makes you a richer, more well-developed person. If you never do it, you'll miss out an an important part of living which is socialization; humans are just naturally designed to be social. If you always do it, you become one dimensional.

The point of the stories are just to provide the girl with an interesting experience so that she can lower her guard and give you a chance to show her your true personality. I know a lot of people get caught up in the whole alpha male lifestyle, one true path nonsense. Forget all that; this is a hobby, not a cult.

In terms of it being unfair, I always like to flip the subject around. Would I be weirded out if some girl I barely knew suddenly came up to me, threw flowers at my feet, and asked for my number? Yes, so I shouldn't do that to a woman. Would I appreciate it if a random stranger came up to me and gave me a unique experience? Yes, I would.

Is it the end of the world if I crash and burn and fail to get her number? No, because this is a hobby. It isn't the end of the world if I die while playing Final Fantasy or fail to break fourteen minutes on my two mile either. In those cases I either reload or come back the next day and run again. Likewise with pick-up. Just go out and have fun, and then see what results await you.

Other people have different opinions, but...

I spent quite a bit of time thinking about it, and considering it, and decided that, for me, the answer to your question is "No". It wasn't (and isn't) worth it.

I don't have any great need to have sex, and I couldn't care less about random HBX who has given me no reason to want to talk to her.

As for the rest, well, getting a girlfriend isn't that hard. If you actually want one you really shouldn't have much trouble finding one in a few months, if you're hunting for it. Of course, whether or not she's right for you is a different matter.

Getting more stories is something you'll have to do on your own, and is probably something that's applicable beyond finding a girlfriend. I'd suggest you start finding more things to do, but it's really up to you. If you think you know where you're headed, and you like the destination, then you really have no reason to make a change.

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And I lift my glass to the awful truth
Which you can't reveal to the years of youth
Except to say it isn't worth a dime