You cannot control people. Even if you are a good person people don't have to treat you right or fairly. Loving someone, wanting someone, being attached to someone, or even just liking someone when you guarantee how they will behave can have devestating consequences for your emotions. Especially with dating. People are so hopelessly romantic and they often feel like its the end of the world if someone doesn't like them. Rejection can be devastating to your confidence and self-esteem. You can feel uncomfortable talking to women, taking chances, or just fall into an overral depression and lose a lot of energy. Self-esteem wise you can no longer feel like you're no longer the prize. You can start feeling like its okay to beg, to stalk, to obsess, to get rejected, to lower your standards and its hard to correct all these thoughts. How do you come back from this?
#1 Prevention- Protect your emotions by not opening up to people and getting attached before you know you can trust people. If you trust people with no evidence you really can't blame anyone but yourself when you get let down.
#2Realism- Romanticism is a bunch of bullshit. Women bitch and moan, they spend your money, they are often insecure, emotional, irrational, and selfish. See these things. Notice these things. You fall for a girl because you place entirely too much value on her.
#3 Respect Yourself- You are entitled to being treated prorperly. If a woman will not then fuck her. She ain't shit.
#4 Get help- If you're really down talk to a friend or family or a pro. Don't just worry and obsess and stress and let this eat you up. This is your life. Emotional and confused is no way to go through life son.
#5Hobbies- Focus on hobbies to focus your energy off of whats hurting and into something productive. Remember You DON" MIND IT DON't Matter.
#6 Rebuild Your Confidence and Self-Esteem- You got to start from scratch. Start dressing your best and being the best you everyday. Tell yourself nice affirmations. Maybe just date causually or just make friends.You're trying to have some positive experiences with women to reaffirm yourself.
#7 Understand why it happen? Why you got hurt? This way it won't happen again. you must understand why it happen.
#8 Step Your Game, Up- The next woman will get better. The only way to ever get the girl that dumped you is to carry on with your life and to show you are better and more valuable without her. But fuck her anyway. Your upgrading yourself and shooting for better and better dates.
Now as a new man, matured by the scars of experience go get these broads
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really motivational for after bad break ups in some points,really good post man