| Confidence is some bullshit. You can't really expect a newbie to understand what confidence is. Telling someone to be confident is the laziest thing I ever hear when it comes to things in life. I tend to think of confidence coming from a feeling that is derived from an experience. Your confidence will come from that.
Courage on the other hand is all action. You do something despite your feelings or your experience. Man, I can't tell you how many public speaking situations where I felt nervous as fuck. I wouldn't call myself confident, but I would give myself a push and do it anyway. Midway through such situations I just enter the fuck it, I am already halfway in it, keep going anyway zone. For me, those are the most memorable experiences. If I mess up, I learn from it, and try again anyway. Maybe breed a little confidence along the way. If I do good, I just learn that just going for it will have some reward... In my opinion, courage is more important to get things started despite feeling a little fear. Feeling fear will never completely go away. You will feel it and it is a part of human nature, just remember to act despite it.
To add on to more courageous moment, man, I also remember one time I hit on a girl with her boyfriend in the vicinity, even when the boyfriend came over and told me he was her boyfriend and walked away, I stayed and chatted with her for a bit. Of course he came back and gave me a little lip, but the girl was enjoying it. To some of you it may seem like it was out of stupidity on my part, but I took a risk into the unknown because I never tried that before. _________________ ~ASmooth
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