I have found throughout my long journey with PUA is that once you stop coming online to seek validation, you have made it. It was one of my biggest flaws when I would ask questions such as would a beautiful woman who is blonde get with me and hope that people would say yes as much as they could because somehow this would temporarily lift me up. Struggled with this for a while since I grew up in a fairly sheltered area of the USA where I was one of the only kids of my background in the place and felt alienated throughout most of my teenage years, not a fun life. Although this should be obvious, the reason I bring it up is because it is so difficult to achieve.

Then at the age of 18 I found this forum, lost my virginity at the age of 19, went on a wild streak at the age of 20 (late 2012) and hit a roadblock in 2013 which made me go through loads of limiting beliefs in my head. Broke my dry spell in May when I ended up having sex with my neighbor who was this gorgeous woman and then got laid 2 more times after that. I realized something.

When I got laid and had success with women, I did not care who was what in the world because I was not looking for thumbs up from strangers. If I had sex with a gorgeous girl and put up the story online, I know quite a few people would fail to believe it without pictures of the girl but due to me respecting the girl a lot I would never do that.

I struggled, and struggled, and struggled, and struggled with this. I was hoping that I would come online, you guys or some users would pat me on the back and say "good job champ", and see that as my growth. Yet I found that growth and success with women is all relative. A guy living in NYC has more options when it comes to getting laid as compared to a guy that lives in Alabama or Mississippi.

I know that given my situation, getting laid about 15 times is A LOT (I haven't kept an accurate count past 12). Also, I come from my unique situation in which my success actually means a lot to me.

Once you can accept that what you have done is good and you don't need the world to tell you it is good, you have finally made it. Now you are comfortable in your own skin, you can finally relax, you can now post online just to offer an experience, and nothing else, and now, you have finally made it.

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.

Agreed man. We all have our goals and well, whether its (around) 15 lays or 55 lays, if you're happy, then I guess this board has achieved what it was meant to do.

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"Paramount, you are total virginal freak. You have no understanding of women at all." - Tiffany

me and the boss over at sedfast still talk to each other a lot

guy has a lot of good advice and experience to offer, one of the most amazing men I have ever met on the web, has given me golden advice!

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I just come on here these days to give advice and read interesting threads. Gone are the days when I came to seek advice and validation.