Quote:
For what i understood, is a emotional state problem... Which can be brutal speciallly with night game, one rejection, cool... 5 rejections and it starts fucking with your emotions, confidence etc...
This is by Tony D(zardoc)
Quote:
Fear, joy, fear, relief, fear, anxiety, doubt, joy = Exhaustion
Most people are unable to control their emotions. This is one reason women are so easy to manipulate. You can pump their emotional state up to the point they forget about logic and hook up with you. (Sad but true.)
I believe that what you focus on is what you attract. If you dwell in the darkness, holding hands with loss, despair, anger and frustration, you will attract more darkness. Realize that it’s in human nature to wrestle with pain. We tend to forget the good things. We love to party with angst. Don’t do it.
Maintain a stable emotional frame. The first step to emotional mastery is to become self-aware of your own emotional state.
The next time you find yourself falling into pain, halt the momentum. Try to view the game for what it is: a game. You’re not meant to win all of the time. Try to enjoy playing and put less emphasis on winning. When you reach a Zen like level of emotional balance, great things will happen.
You attract what you feel, as long as you take action towards what you desire.
When a woman sizes you up, she’s testing for your emotional stability. I’m not saying you should act like SPAM, cold and emotionless (even though I would love to be SPAM)–enjoy your emotions, but be self-aware of them. Don’t let them blindly drive you into the abyss. If you can learn to control your own emotions, you can learn to guide the emotions of others, which is a very useful talent.
Balance is the key. If you can have a girl kiss you on the cheek and another scream at you, yet maintain the same happy balance, you’re doing it right.
And when you do meet a hot girl, do not run fantasy scenarios about how awesome it will be once you hook up over and over in your head. You’re asking for a brutal state crash if she flakes on you. Just be happy that life is grand, you’re alive and working on your goal of creating an awesome life of adventure and joy and girls and freedom. You’re working on it. That’s all that matters.
You are working on it, right? Of course.
This is very awesome information. I'd say in all my years in pick-up, one of my greatest issues is control over my emotions. I'm a very eccentric and colorful guy. So when I try to get a bit more control over my emotions it shows. My mom cuddles me too damn much, and my sister gets upset when it happens. Perhaps because I do go to the extreme and attempt to be SPAM sometimes, or even worse, a Vulcan.
More and more every day, I am convinced that I have to leave my house to grow as a person, but my financial situation isn't very permitting.
My emotional state control has gotten a lot better, but I still have a reasonable amount of work to do. I'm a very passionate guy, and very emotionally tied to the things I love to do. And sometimes, when you're out in the field, it does hurt when you mess up on some approaches. Last night I just couldn't find my rhythm. Tonight was a much different story. I guess disassociating yourself from results is key huh?
CHAT
