Just what I've picked up from the community, compiled into a simple guide.

Okay here it is, if anyone asks how to get out the friend zone again then link them here.


1. Keep away for the girl for as long as possible, cut off all contact, the longer the better, at least a week, but the longer you leave it the better it will work (I did a month), you can use any excuse, holidays, internet breaking and busy, anything. Just do it, and don't talk to her at all unless you absolutely must, and make it quick.

2. When you first see her, give her a hug, and keep touching her. NO NOT LIKE THAT. I mean hugging, put your arm around her, keep esculating your touches, over the space of a few hours, until you comfortably hold hands or anything. Be creative about it and make excuses if you are nervous, but this is a MUST. If you're friends then it should be easy, and even if you feel stupid or nervous do it, trust me it works. If she gives any bad signs then slow down the escalation and go slower, just make sure that you do escalate I can't say exactly how fast because it depends on the girl, but the key to making the girl like you is touch.

3. Make jokes about her liking you, "just cause you fancy me, right?" ect, once again be creative, that just gets her in the right mindset.

4. Don't talk too much about random subjects, if you build up too much comfort with her then she will begin to see you more like a friend again.

5. Talk about fancying other girls, even if you are obviously doing it to make her jealous "Jesus Christ did you see that girls ass!" and imply that you like other girls "Amy is looking canny decent lately like isn't she?"

6. Talk about other girls liking you, escalate touch with girls that you don't fancy, it'll make you escalating touch with her less of you saying "I fancy you" and being more like "this is who I am" This is a extremely important step, she MUST think that other girls fancy you, tell stories about you getting with girls when you were on holiday, make up stories that aren't true, if you are out with her then say "did you see that girl check me out there!? I'm not some piece of meat! wow!" (act all angry so it seems like the emphasis was on how dirty she checked you out) I can't stress how important it is to make her think other girls like you.

7. Don't show interest until she shows interest in you, don't ask her out, don't say she looks pretty, until she starts being sexual with her DON'T be like that even if you have told her before. If she thinks she already could have you if she wanted then she will think "look at his *** has changed, and he fancies me, I must be able to get even better lads!" Give her a challenge.

8. If you are going to complement her, even after she complements you, always bring it back with a insult. Don't be too harsh though, "you look canny fit today, too bad your a year younger or I'd totally be into you" Even if it's playful like that. This is called push-pull and it can be confusing for the girl if she picks up on it, however it generates massive attraction once you master how to use it. Tease the girl as well, its funny and will give you something to talk about while creating attraction, if your always nice to girls then they will see you as too easy to get, this is why girls like dickheads. Tease them about anything, don't tease them about things they are self concious about eg height if the girl is really small, tease them about things that aren't true.


9. (Optional) If you dress bad, or you don't dress like the guys she fancies then change, become more confident, and take note of recent fashions if she is a typical girl. Because you haven't seen her in a while then you changing clothes wont seem a big change, wont seem different and she won't even mention it as much as if you randomly just changed. I did this in sequences, started wearing chinos, then Hollister gear. Obviously you don't have to do this, but a good dress sense will help. Get a good hair style, be well groomed, go on sunbeds even if you have to, just keep looking for ways to improve.

10 (very optional). I just thought I'd add in this tiny tip, if you have any imperfections on your face, a tiny tiny amount of foundation can make a massive difference, hell, steal your mothers/sisters when they are out the house if you are embarrassed to get it yourself, squirt some into a old hair-gel pot, just use it, it really does help incredible amounts.


I'll keep updating this guide when I think of other tricks, each point has psychological reasons behind them which you can figure out yourself, if people want me to explain each step then I will if there is enough interest.


My final point: Girls are only interested in guys for looks at face value, it gives them initial interest but that is all. Looks do not matter a 1/10th as much as it does to guys, simply because they are evolutionally developed to prefer different things.