I was reflecting with a female friend, Sarah, about how I was talking to another girl, Rachel, about online profiles of women that say stuff like "must be over six foot tall", specify dollar amounts in "salary", or say something like, "must be objectively attractive."

- and how Rachel replied, "She's looking for her type." (In the tone of like a mother explaining something about the world to a little kid.")

- I reflected to Sarah, "You know, when you go to a speed dating event, where at the end you're supposed to write down the name tag numbers of all the girls you were interested in, and they do the same with guys;

... let's say a 6' 2", ripped, GQ, dude with a chiseled jaw walks in, he had driven up in a brand new Mercedes, and had it valet'd; he's a corporate lawyer or something, and in his 20's. And every girl writes down his number."

"WOW!", I said, "If 'types' are legitimate, That guy must be A WHOLE LOT of girls' 'types'."

Sarah replied, "What do you want to come out of this discussion? I mean, what do you want me to say?"

She knew that I had a point, and had exposed these girls for the materialistic, superficial bitches they are, and that "types" of course aren't a valid reason for a girl to give.

She continued, "You do yourself such a disservice, and destroy everything you've got going for yourself, that makes you attractive when you complain about girls like this and talk about how unfair it is for guys."

"You know", I thought, "I think she has a point."

"Of course every girl wants the 6' tall, hot, ripped, rich guy with a 12" dick and'll fuck her all night long, we're all fucking each other anyway, might as well get in and enjoy it", she said.

Stuff like this really reminds me that we as guys really need to give ourselves a fucking break from time to time.

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So you go for the ugly girls as well?

Huh?

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It's the same with guys. Most of us want to fuck Jessica Alba or Scarlett Johansson.





However, propinquity gives us higher chances to fuck that University professor/teacher and her students so we work on those that we can easily f-close.

Girls, likewise, will fuck the guy who can escalate with them than the jaded hot lawyer who is sick and tired of fucking all of those beautiful women. He might not even want to fuck anything below an HB8.

It's not really about breaks but rather putting yourself out there and creating lots of opportunities for yourself and those women who are craving for a fun dick.

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Yeah, that's what I was thinking.

I think the "so you mean you like ugly girls?" is a cheap shot/comeback.

Girls have so many options and get approached so much, that you won't see them single, and when they do make the decision to pick somebody, many of the ones that only choose superficially say, "I'm looking for my type." That's why DC is full of pretty attractive single-and-looking women who remain single well through their 30's.

Most guys have to take what they can get. You give an average looking guy in his late 20's a shot at a nice girl who's merely "cute", he'll jump at the shot and won't look back.

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Talking about self-limiting beliefs. I don't get these kind of mindsets.

The point is: yeah, maybe some guys in their late 20s are going to settle for any acceptable girl. And vice versa. Not all girls end up with 6ft tall ripped rich guys, most end up with someone decent enough to start a family with. It's up to you whether you choose that path. Anyone CAN be picky. You can choose not to need a relationship, thus you won't have to settle for anything less than perfect.

Maybe 40% of women get approached a lot, the other maybe 60% is in about the same situation as regular guys, and they can choose whether to accept anyone acceptable or live it up.

there are plenty of girls who are actually fairly sexually frustrated, it may seem that the stacks are tilted in an unfair way but the difference is between a desired outcome and relationship vs the ability to obtain casual sex

and when possibly squeezing a water melon sized object out of your vagina is on the table for you, it's unlikely that casual sex is the most appealing thing in the world, now OTOH sex with someone you find attractive that you can trust with some form of safety net, a true sense of security, that would likely have some appeal for you

it is likely girls have easier access to casual sex then men if we are to generalize, but lets be fair here, average women have it just about as bad as average men, and women who are superficially unattractive likely have it worse then men who are superficially unattractive,

why is this?, because it is socially acceptable for a guy to attempt to meet as many women as possible, all that stands in his way of meeting hundreds of new girls a week is his ego and self esteem, if anyone catches on he could be generalized as that weird guy that talks to alot of women all the time, or that party guy that hits on everyone, or that sleaze or that... or that... it doesn't matter, what ever label he acquires likely holds no actual social weight and as long as he is comfortable with himself it will pretty much not have any negative repercussions at all unless the guy in question has no common sense and is practicing borderline harassment, in fact often guys who hit on a lot of women are glamorized as confident and bold and looked up to (take simple pickup and vitalyzd.tv on youtube for example)

OTOH, imagine a women trying to go out and meet 100s of guys because the only guy in the world that even talks to her is fred, the creepy overweight 40 year old guy from work who constantly smells like piss, if word got out she was meeting guys like that for casual sex it could possibly ruin her life, because that is the social standards that are often imposed on women, a girl can seriously be socially ostracized and harassed and in some cultures even killed, just for being promiscuous and proud, it's a weird double standard

this generalization is fairly unfair, maybe attractive women have a fair abundance of men to choose from, but the same works in a roll reversal, most attractive men also have their fair share of options but plenty of people are still unsatisfied no matter what is in front of them, after all the grass is always greener on the other side and the GQ model guy isn't happy, if he could just get that one girl who could make him laugh and had fake tits, why is it that the only 3 girls he knows with fake tits that will sleep with him are not funny at all?... oh boy life sucks AMIRIGHT?

and it works like this for most people, a constant state of needing, needing more, dis-satisfaction, there is a void that will never be filled, you can crush that void by just realizing you are going to be fine, and life is good, you can even make it better, you can even feel good right now as long as that is what you choose

Yeah... Women are materialistic and greedy. But lets face it... How are we any better? I don't see any PUAs going and trying to wife the sweet chubby girl in the nerd corner either. Everyone wants to score as high as possible, men and women alike.

I agree.. Its human nature for us to want more no matter how good we already have it.. And while those girls all want the GQ model, they're all going to settle for much much less. Perhaps they're trying to demonstrate their own value with such high stated standards.

I keep getting smacked in the head over and over with this quote. I liked a lot about your post; I agreed with the stuff about never being happy, etc.,

...but that whole thing about the promiscuity double standard, and women going out to meet guys being frowned upon, that's total hogwash!

This one girl I dated for instance, her and all of her friends would commonly say, "Date like a man so you don't get fucked like a bitch." You've heard that before, right? I'm sure you've seen it on a MySpace profile or Facebook status update. She, what a surprise, ended up kicking me to the curb once a hotter orbiter of hers began moving in and showing interest. Then she lost some weight and ended up looking way more smoking for him than she ever looked when she was with me.

The girl in my first post, Sarah, I referred to, she's hot, thin, blonde; regularly stages these group dinners with total strangers, set up through her blog.

When I first met her, I told her that doing this must be awesome for her socially and she must meet a ton of people. She replies, in a boastful tone, "Well, my dating life isn't exactly quiet."

Women constantly indulge in massive scale flirting, hooking up, and dating/meeting tons of guys, easily trading up as soon as a richer, more attractive one comes along; in fact, they even get cheered on for it the whole way.

Oh, and that orbiter... he was 6' 2", owned a good sized house, and 8 race cars, and was 26. If you're gonna lose out, may as well lose to a guy a girl would write home about, lol.

It's always my hot female friends who complain about "Men are pigs! They all cheat!"; funny it's never ugly girls you hear saying that. And this guy, he treated her bad, screwed around on her and left too.

Why? Because this guy had options. Attractive girls who have options are pretty much just going to consider attractive guys who have game, and these guys in turn, are the ones who have options. They have so much in their favor they're able to be womanizers. And the girls who limit themselves like that are surprised when the guy sleeps around and moves along!

When Sarah said "We're all fucking each other anyway" she may as well have said, "Hot girls and hot guys are all fucking each other anyway."

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It's true that this happens, but in places where a woman doesn't get killed for it, should she then just stay at home and remain a virgin so later in life she can say: "i never had fun, but at least I got the respect of some hippocrytes". I certainly don't think so. Bad options are still options. Life's what you make of it.

I wouldn't disrespect anyone for trying. It takes some guts to get out of your comfort zone.

Girls aren't expected to do that, and they certainly don't.

I'm saying that double standard doesn't exist, or if it does, girls certainly don't pay any attention to it. So I they get frowned upon by a handful of hypocrites, there's no social fallout whatsoever.

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it takes a lot of courage to stand up for something you believe in when others are telling you to sit down, a lot of western countries are starting to become more relaxed on their views regarding sexuality, especially since the 60s and the feminist movement, and some other countries have been more liberal for a much longer time then the west regarding their sexual cultural/social norms, but the same can't be said for the entire world

the girls who go against the grain, challenging social norms, the girls who go ask that guy they like on a date that are the girls who will eventually change things, it's the girls who just ''stay home and remain a virgin'' who help keep the status quo in place

so really, if you or any other woman would want change to take place and are living in a repressed state of being, it starts on an individual level, you have to be willing to be the next ernesto "che" guevara, you have to be willing to storm the sexual bastille and realize you could become a casualty of your own revolution, and that is why it takes courage

this almost makes me ask

how common are those guys who have the looks?

6 ft tall
chiseled
etc.

I sometimes think of myself as one of those guys but then ask if I am being too cocky.

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