There really is no replacement for learning game.



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PostPosted: Sat Jun 01, 2013 9:04 pm 
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So yesterday night was a blast for me (hooked up with this cute brunette, will post the story on my blog soon). Even though it has taken me a while to realize this and no matter how much I have denied, I noticed thinking back to the past that there is absolutely no replacement for learning game no matter how we put it.

When I first joined this forum, I had this gorgeous Lebanese girl give me all sorts of signals and even take the initiative with me. She would come up to me and talk to me, she would tell I am good looking, she would poke me on facebook, etc. I messed it up, came on too strong, touched her in the wrong places, and all that because I had no game. Needless to say I lost her.

Few months later I meet this cute Italian looking brunette in a class of mines (back in 2011), we hit it off, she gave me her number and added ME on facebook. I do not escalate, I keep fantasizing about crap (daydreaming), etc. Well, one day she tells me "you seem sad today, put a smile on jeez, you are too good looking to be all emo!". I smile but I didn't have game, so I ended up losing her.

Then I decided, it was time to change. At parties I had some ONS, then I got my first actual girlfriend (Latin/White mix), started reading more and more material relating to game, and more and more and more.

Earlier this year I hit a major dry spell (as many of you may know) and it resulted in me whining on this forum. Well I feel that now I am out of this dry spell.

I mean I have read stories of doctors and engineers struggling to get laid while guys who are almost broke are getting laid.

Now if you are a guy with 9/10 looks (I am a decent looking guy, not a 9 by any means though), a very high salary, and a celebrity then you don't need game. But for the most of us, even if we are above average looking and make a decent salary, we still need to learn game.

I have had friends who were constantly told they looked good either settle for women way below their league or end up as loners because they had no game.

Now we can debate facial aesthetics all day, think that the good looking guy doesn't even need game to get laid, run into girls that find us attractive before we even open our mouths, but unless we have game, we are going to go home empty handed.

Thanks to MPUA and RSD Nation, I learned game. Sure, I might not get to score with blondes on the regular yet, but maybe one day that changes.

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PostPosted: Sat Jun 01, 2013 9:09 pm 
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I feel like you load your head with too much theory and you don't apply it enough to actually benefit from it... I could be wrong but it is just an observation. I feel as if you have overwhelmed yourself with knowledge.

There is a replacement for "learning" game.. It's going out and practicing it.


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 02, 2013 2:06 am 
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I feel like you load your head with too much theory and you don't apply it enough to actually benefit from it... I could be wrong but it is just an observation. I feel as if you have overwhelmed yourself with knowledge.

There is a replacement for "learning" game.. It's going out and practicing it.
I was trying to imply that, you learn from practicing.

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PostPosted: Mon Jun 03, 2013 9:46 pm 
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I've had many ups and downs in PUA. The best pieces of advice I can give anyone starting PUA:

- Work on your inner game before anything. This takes a while. But worth it.

- Only do natural game

- For every hour of reading you do, sarge for at least 3 hours.

- Don't read too much. All you need to know is, walk up to a girl and be fun and flirty. If you need help being flirty, then read up on it. But fuck all the opening, and comfort zone stages whatever. Men are programmed to find women, it's the only reason men are on the planet. It's just things get in the way like what your mum used to say about being really nice to girls. Everything should feel completely natural, don't force it or be a try hard.

What I'm basically saying is, give the middle finger to PUA. Just close your browser and go out and have fun. I go clubbing without thinking of finding a women, I just enjoy myself and starting talking to them. Come back to this forum when you need advice on situations, or you have questions about other methods. But don't spend days reading through the forum and planning your night in advance.

I always stick to being natural. Recently, for some stupid reason, I planned something to say to this girl a few hours before I saw her. Needless to say I over thought it and it looked really forced and yeah I lost her.

I like the way I turnt out to be, I just hope any newbies reading this won't do what I used to do. Which was think I was some legend after discovering PUA, but spent about 10 hours reading about game for every 30 minutes I would do it. And it's a vicious circle, the more you approach the more new openers you will want which takes you back to the forum. Natural, natural, natural.


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