So we know that caring about what other people think is considered "beta" behavior. Yet, the truth is, we actually care a SHIT TON about what people think -- we are on a "pick up" site after all. What does that mean? We seek methods/techniques/mindsets that will attract women to us enough to the point that they will want to sleep with us. Thus, what other people think of us is vitally important to our goals.

The distinction lies here -- by ACTING like you don't care what other people think of you, you will create the perception that you are confident man with a strong view of reality. The man with the strongest reality and most decisive actions will be victorious -- this is a maxim we must live by. It is as old as Sun Tzu's Art of War. We may care what other people think of us, but we know that if we act as if our words and actions are the strongest and the right ones, others will sense this and follow us. Eventually, through repetition in the field, we internalize this mindset. It's important to realize that everyone else is usually too busy worrying what other people think of them to worry about you. Thus, if you appear to not worry about this and simply live in the moment, others will assume that you have the strongest reality.

For example, you enter a room with ten people and only one other person you know. The rest of the people in the room know each other. You feel atleast a little awkward at first -- everyone, even the most confident guys, would. But you know that if you APPEAR comfortable and at ease, people will subconsciously notice this. You sit down on a couch, stretch your right arm out behind you over the back of the couch, and prop your right foot up on your left knee -- you consciously assume this relaxed position, even though you don't completely feel that way. Whoever is sitting next to you -- HB, ugly chick, dude -- you engage in casual conversation. Soon enough, you break through a little of the awkwardness you've felt, because you have established a small amount of rapport with someone else in the room. You've warmed up. Your mindset starts to feel more at ease and you feel more comfortable engaging more people. Eventually, everyone in the room knows who you are, is comfortable with you, and likes you. You've turned an awkward situation for you into a relaxed one, you've made new acquaintances/friends, and have likely generated a decent amount of attraction. But more importantly, you have established a pattern for your brain to feel at ease in these situations in the future and it gets easier and easier over time. You care what other people think, but by knowing the right ways to show that you don't, you can easily generate rapport in any situation and will reach the state where you will act relaxed and comfortable without thinking about it.