Ok, first let me say this is a post about a specific girl, but she's not 'the one' and I am not solely after her. She is just someone I am interested in right now.

So I've known this girl for around 18 months. We live far apart and we speak on the phone sometimes and keep in touch over the net from time to time. I've seen her a few times at parties, etc. when she is in town but even after 18 months we aren't at the LJBF stage I don't think (or whatever you call it when you are in the friend stage). Course I could be wrong and I guess people are gonna post so. :S

Recently I thought I would like to hook up with this girl. We both split up with our former gf/bf's a month or so ago. But now I don't feel so close to this girl, and I'm thinking she fancies someone else, blah, blah. Normal bollux, I'm not letting on though.

So I'm thinking how should I play it now? I've always played it cool with her and we get on great. She's a HB9 and I reckon we would be good together but maybe we should of got together before. Thing is we always were seeing other people before, and we sort of float in and out of catching up so I reckon I still got a chance here. Other than letting me know I'm a dumbass and I should move on, anyone got any other thoughts?

I would start flirting with her more, demonstrate higher value, send her some IOIs- Basically, let her know your interested in a romantic sort of way.

After 18 months, it is very likely that she will not be making the first move. But of course, if you're already tossed in the "friends" category, it may come across as a little strange if you try to escalate the relationship into something more.

Let's wait and see what others have to say. . .

Groovy, should say also that we are mildly flirtatious with eachother so maybe a good sign :0

try to see how she responds u talking about other girls, ask her advice about someone else(maybe even a made up girl)
jealousy is a powerful thing, but u hsould watch her reaction to that, so has to be done face to face

What if she is a good actress? . . .

Don't you think that is only going to push her more in the friends category? She will take it that your not interested in her. Then she will lose potential interest herself.

I don't know, but that is just how I perceive it.

Ok, if YOU escalate kino, AND game other girls around her, you will be sending mixed signals, which is actually a GOOD thing.

By you escalating kino and DHVing and sending IOI's you are showing her that you want more than friendship, especially if you also use a sexual frame.

Then, you flirt with other girls, or ask her advice about other girls, which could actually be more powerful than outright flirting in front of her.

She will have attraction switches flipped, and you should be watching her body language, because no matter how good of an actor she is, or could be, her body WILL show you things.