I have been gaming for 8 years now and I have learned a lot. I have had my valleys and mountaintops. There's something I want to share with you guys that I think will improve any cold approach. I went out with a buddy a couple years ago and we were in this club. Girls that were 7s and 8s were rejecting guys left and right. My buddy was like this is ridiculous, those girls aren't all that. Then I articulated something to him that I learned intuitively, but never really put into words. I told him those guys have no meaning to her. What I mean by that is that not only do those girls not know those guys, they don't know why they are valuable. I just don't mean a conceptional understanding of why those guys are valuable, but actually feeling like those are great guys. On the opposite hand, the guys and us included were looking at those women as highly valuable because of our sex drive. We ere projecting our sex drive on them and sometimes our pride too. The desire for sex with them makes us put a high importance on them.Its all a matter of perspective. They're hot and we are horny, but to them we are just random and sketchy. You see the mental game at work.

Attraction is all mental really. Its a composite of beliefs, thoughts, and feelings that make someone seem great. When you think of your mom why do you get a good feeling because When you say mom you think of someone taking care of you when you're sick, going to your soccer games, and always having something kind to say. You don't think of a vague concept. In contrast, when you think of work why do you get a bad feeling? when you think of work you think of long hours, people you don't like as coworkers, and following orders you hate. When you think of Michael Phelps you think of this spectacular athletic and you get a good feeling about him immediately. You got to be something to this girl that you approach. Your name has to be something to her.

I was watching a documentary one time. A celebrity was talking about one year he was a regular guy and the next year he was famous. When he was a regular guy he couldn't get a date, couldn't get a dance, and could barely get a conversation. Now, a year later when he became famous he walk up to girls they would recognize him and suddenly love him because of the thoughts they project upon him. When you approach a girl you need to go from random to Awesome really quickly. For me, I use my stories to get the girl to know me and like what she knows.

Then really after you are something valuable to her you really don't need to do much else. She's inspired. She likes you. There's no need to tell she's so beautiful and to push her for her phone number.Just keep being valuable. YOu know. But, if you project FANTASIES on her and are too aggressive yourr going to an aggressive AFC. So put your dick in your pocket. Learn to control your sex drive. This is the importance of not masturbating and not looking porn and not looking at every hot chick. You practice controlling your sex drive. Its kind of like fasting. Until she wants you like that. You can have all the game in the world but if you put the pussy on the pedestal by focusing on how hot she is, how horny you are, and how much you want to prove to the guys you can pull her you're going to fail. In fact, you'll fail shit test too because you're too attached to an outcome instead your integrity! But if you look at her like a regular person trying to pass her finals, pay her rent and bleeds for seven days.

One more thing. YOu're going to be vulnerable, you know. However never convey she is in a position of power you. It can make you look weak and unworthy. Instead of can I get your number..."lets exchange numbers. " Instead of do you want to hangout later...."im doing such and such, feel free to join." Instead of, do you want to dance....let me see your moves.

The game is 50 percent mental and 50 percent physical.

While I do agree with some of your points, I think that, in most cases, you're fundamentally wrong. As we all know, women have an even higher sex-drive than most men. The "bitch-shield" they put up, is mostly to protect them from being called a slut, and not something they WANT to do. Now of course, you have bitches. The ones that act all high and mighty and are rejecting guys to improve their self-esteem, but I'm gonna overlook those for now. Usually though, when I open a set, I don't need as much value. All I need is a vague, vague reason to open them! It doesn't even have to be good, they'll accept it, becuase they want me there.

For example. I was out on town, and went over to this table with 5 HB's.

Me: "What are you doing in my spot?"
HB: "Your spot? It was free when we got here."
Me: "You sure? A couple of friends sat here just 5 minutes ago, I was just going for a sigarette." (This is even low value as fuck, as this implies them ditching me. I improvise though, so gotta shoot myself in the foot from time to time)
HB: "Yeah, we haven't seen them. But you're free to sit down with us if you'd like!"
Me: "Hah, now you've done it! Know what? I'm gonna take a quick tour, looking for my friends, if I don't find them I'll come back and claim your offer."
HB: "Great!"

Now, the only value I had at this point was my self-esteem. They didn't know me, I didn't know anyone right then and there, and basically I failed the approach, but it was a success.

Approaching is not about value (unless you go MM and peacock a rockstar, which might work, but I've never tried), it's about portraying self esteem, letting them know that if they let you in, they won't regret it. Once you're in, shock them with your awesomeness and it's a done deal.


Just my thoughts on the matter.

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I would disagee because if you are convey charisma and confidence you are also convey value. What I mean is that when you approach confidently and dominantly people make certain assumptions about you. They assume you are tough, strong, accomplished, good in bed...all this may not be true but your charisma gives the impression that its true. None of those things may be true, but its just a part of being human to do that. I use stories more than personality, thats just my style.

I do agree that approaching confidently conveys value. No doubt about it.

My point is that value is not the main factor of whether an approach will be successful. OK, so they assume that I am tough, strong, accomplished and good in bed. Even though all of these have value in common, and that these work for approaching, doesn't nessecarily mean that Value = Good approaches. For example, if I were a body builder, I mean HUGE. This indicates the exact same traits as before. In other words being a body builder = Good approaches. Which again is not necessarily true. It becomes a "post hoc" argument, I'm sure you see why that doesn't work.

Having some trouble explaining this in English.. Hope I managed to get my point through though.

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