| Hey guy's,
I'm currently doing a 90day self improvement thingy. I am writing a daily diary and i would like to put it up here. Just to share it with the world. Who knows, maybe it can help some of you guys. I would also appreciate any support/ideas from you guys..
If there are any problems with me posting this (in the wrong section or something) please let me know and i will correct it/remove it.
Regards and have fun,
Btender.
CHANGE YOUR LIFE IN 90 DAYS>>
Fitness,
Fitness is an important part of everyones life, improve your fitness and you’ll improve your confidence, your lifestyle, well being and in turn you will attract confident people into your life.
Follow a strict routine, slowly build up week by week, look at doing a sport ie martial arts.
Diet,
Diet goes right in par with fitness, eat healthy and you will feel healthy, no drinking, no smoking, junk food only once a week on a designated binge day (Sunday). Lots of raw veggies, rice, fish, chicken, try to stay away from sugary foods, red meat, soft drinks, breads and pastas.
Women,
Actually try with women, always push boundaries, follow ‘rules of the game’ daily and stick to it. Don’t take rejection personally instead see it as a learning experience and think of what you did wrong. NO GIRLS ARE BITCHES because they reject you, there was something wrong with you approach so fix it!! In short it is time to be a slut, review your standards are you claiming to have high standards when in fact your making excuses to not approach girls or take a chance?
Confidence,
Stop caring what people think about you, don’t feel scared to approach someone about an issue you have, Stop worrying if what your saying will be accepted or not, don’t think about what other people are thinking about you, take chances, be yourself, if people don’t like you who cares, don’t be afraid to get into fights, It is apart of life and something your going to have to deal with sometime. Bruises heal, so do broken bones.
Intelligence,
Start reading more books, listen to what people say, be open minded, to be proved wrong should be celebrated, it means your learning. Listen to ‘different’ music. Read the paper, Watch the news, read magazines.
Style,
Get someone stylish to help you pick out some stylish clothes, Pick a style an build a wardrobe around that style. Don’t be afraid to try new things.
Key personality traits I want to change;
• Be more expressive, Talk about my feelings. If something is bothering me, Address it.
• Be honest with yourself and others. Everyone has done embarrassing things, It makes for a good story. Anyone that is going to judge you is not worth knowing.
• Don’t buy into rumors, don’t spread rumors, don’t talk about anyone unless your saying stuff your willing to say in front of them.
• Be open-minded and willing to admit our wrong. Being wrong should be celebrated, It means your learning and human. Be willing to listen accept and learn from failure.
• Listen to other people, Open up and give people the benefit of the doubt. Learn to trust others.
Key Physical traits I want to change.
• Improve general fitness, Make a training plan and stick to it. Push yourself
• Defined arms and chest, Loose noticeable fat when wearing a t-shirt.
• Be constantly well groomed, create a routine, get a haircut once a fortnight.
• Create and find a style for yourself, I want to appear more sophisticated.
• Buy clothes and accessories to suit style.
Realistic goal settings.
Week One;
• Be able to stick to routines, have them set and in place.
Week Two;
• Be approaching at least 10 girls a week, record the interaction, responses, descriptions etc. Not only approaching attractive girls, any girl will do for practice.
• Up to day 13 in rules of the game.
Week Three;
• Be able to successfully approach girls. Have at least 3 new numbers from girls.
• Up to day 19 in rules of the game.
• Physical fitness noticeably improved.
Week Four;
• Be going on dates with girls.
• Up to day 25 in rules of the game
• Have at least 2 new shirts, 2 new pants and 2 accessories.
Week Five;
• Finished rules of the game.
• Confidence with women noticeably improving.
• Noticeable weight lose, and definition in arms showing.
• Personality traits starting to become a unconscious.
• Able to approach, demonstrate value and create an emotional connection with women.
Day One:
So I followed the stylelife challenge, had a look at new clothes and spoke to some people about ideas. I can’t start my 9 week fitness challenge until Issac gets back. So instead I am going to continue to do stuff on my own until he gets back, Today I did 10reps of push ups, squats, leg raises and sit ups, then another 15 reps of each, then a 15 sec hold of each. The sit ups are becoming a slight challenge. Other than the style life challenge I was talking to a bloke and a girl in the bar and they loved me, I didn’t try to fit any material into, I did practice being more enthusiastic with my story telling and projecting my voice. I noticed a big difference in the way they responded. Also spoke to chris and puma and they are both trying to set me up, which im not interested in. I told chris to give the girl my number, If she wants to call so be it, if not I don’t really care.
I ate really well today, had 2 pieces of toast with honey (no butter), aprox 270ml of v8 veggie juice, 200ml of smart milk, a piece of crumbed fish with salad and coleslaw, then a subway wrap with chicken strips, avocado, lettuce, cucumber, tomato, carrot, pickles, s&p and honey mustard sauce (ment to be in the low fat?). I also had a few olives at work until I found out there pretty fatty :-/ Something I ate gave me the shits in the morning though.. I’m thinking it was the olives.
Day Two:
So today I have done 15 pushups, 10 dips, 20 situps, leg raises and quats. Then a fast 10 push ups, dips, squats, situps. Then 5 burpees. So far I have had 540ml of v8 veggie juice, a protein shake (200ml water, 200ml milk, 2 scoops) and 60g peti miam. Subway wrap, double chicken strips (the girl gave it to me for free), lettuce, tomato, cucumber, carrot and pickles, s&p, honey mustard sauce. For lunch I had lots of salad, coleslaw and left over fish and chicken schnitzel.
Stylelife, so todays challenge is to not shower or shave which sucks, and get 3 movie reviews from random numbers, so far I have called 49639521, 49519839, 49518964, 49528964,49519854, 49519743, 49519632 and only spoken to 2 people. I am going to type this as I call people to try keep track of the numbers. 49576852, 49576854, 49576855 success!! Recommended racket ralf and Hansel and grettle!!! 49576858, 49639524 (the second Thomas and coffee number :-/ lol),49432152, OMG no one goes to any movies anymore!!! Ok, I’m going to try another two, and I want to really pursue the person for a movie recommendation, I want them to give me one or hand up..49999651, 49999655 success!!! He recommended the hobbit… 49514197 (spoke to her briefly, then the phone was cutting out ) I guess 2 outta 3 aint bad. Just finished the stylelife hypnotize look into your eyes task. Wow I feel refreshed!!. Last night ended up being a good night, I met up with Sylvia again and ended up getting her number. I only had one drink, Got some audio of me in conversations to go over and listen to today to see where I can improve with speech, working last night was an awesome night to start implementing some of the stuff I’ve been learning. Although I didn’t approach anyone after work. I was hanging out with some girls that were pretty attractive and when I left I had them begging me not to. I would’ve looked like the king of the club. Also, I spoke to Amy and Sarah from work and we are “hopefully” going to go shopping Saturday morning for clothes for me!! I am proud of myself for being able to ask her in the first place and it did seem quite comfortable..
PROUND MOMENTS-
• Asking Amy and Sarah to come clothes shopping with me
• Pround I managed to get Sylvia’s number and go to the club with a bunch of attractive girls.
Day Three:
230ml v8 veggie juice, protein shake (2scoops, 200ml water, 200ml milk), subway wrap (chicken strips, let, tom, cuc, car, pickles, s&p, honey mustard), Ham wrap from nightowl.
So today I’ve done 20* push ups, sit ups, squats, leg raises, dips. Then 10 fast * push ups, dips, sit ups, squats, leg raises. Then a 90s ec plant. I am already feeling a lot better just from doing simple exercise over the last week or two.
Stylelife;
Ok, so after going to the shops for approximately an hour and a half I have not yet completed todays mission 2, approach 3 girls to get them to recommend a clothing shop. I am disappointed in myself for not doing this and I am going to endevour to do it on the streets before work. This is where my confidence is failing and this is exactly where I need to pick the ball up and slam dunk that mother bitch!! The problem is I am thinking way too much. So to counter this I am going to utilize a method I read in my “9 weeks training plan”. As soon as I see someone I want to approach I am going to repeat over and over in my head till I have approached them “Don’t think, Just do”. This will distract my brain from thinking too much and I WILL approach. I need to get one reference, but approach 3 women. I can leave immediately after I have approached if I want. I am going to do the hypnotism again today and everyday for at least the rest of the week. I also need to analize my speech I have recorded from yesterday. OK so I didn’t end up doing the mission, which I am disappointed in myself for but I am proud because of my efforts last night with the girls. I kept Krystal entertained for about 2-3 hours and she wasn’t drinking, then Sylvia came in, then I had 2 gorgeous girls going after the dj comp from rabbit hole. I think I was almost to the point of getting a phone number. Maybe I could’ve where I was at. I need to work at taking it in stages and taking note of IOI’s and moving to the next “phase”.
PROUD MOMENTS –
• Proud of myself for stepping up my training.
• Proud for my efforts last night
• Proud for setting a date with Sylvia
Day Four:
270ml v8 veggie juice, protein shake (scoops, 200ml milk 200ml water), 2* subway wrap (chicken strips, let, tom, cuc, car, pick, s&p, Honey mustard)
20* Chinese push ups, squats, dips, reverse crunches, leg raises. 10 fast * Chinese push ups, squats, dips, reverse crunches, leg raises, burpees.
Stylelife: Ok so the stylelife challenges that were set for today I was already planning and I aced, I went clothes shopping and invited Sylvia. I surprised myself with how comfortable I was, I can notice my social anxiety going away and my confidence improving with leaps and bounds. I was flirting with the staff in shops, I was generally happy and playful, I utilized some qualifying techniques, which she actually asked me (after she was answering) why do I have to impress you. I just said cause I’m picky with who I keep around me. I still have not finished the approach in a shopping centre/street to get advice on good places to shop. I intend to do that today, I find it interesting that when I am approaching girls that are working I’m absolutely fine and have no hesitation. I think my AA is there because of social fear, I am afraid that if I approach a complete stranger within a social gathering when I have no apparent reason I will be laughed at, I’m also fine if I’m out with someone cause I palm it off as me just being a fun/dickhead. Work wasn’t too eventful for girls, It was too quiet, there was none around.
I also spent $650 on clothes today, I bought a whole new set of stuff that I would not usually wear, some new shiny black shoes, a hat, 2 belts, a vest with a hoodie and a little chain thingy.
PROUD MOMENTS:
• Got asked if I had lost weight.
• Flirting with the staff in shops.
• Getting new clothes!!
Day Five:
V8 veggie juice 270ml, Protein shake (200ml water, 200ml milk, 2 scoops),2* subway wraps (chick strips, let tom, cuc, car, pick, s&p, honey mustard sauce, small piece of fish and salad, sandwhich (ham, salad from nightowl)
10* Chinese push ups, push ups, dips. 20* sit ups, reverse crunches. 30* squats. 10* Chinese push ups, push ups, dips. 10* sit ups, leg raises. 20* squats.
Stylelife:
So I did the compliment 2 people I don’t know but it wasn’t an approach to compliment. It was people serving me, I am really having some trouble with this and it is frustrating me.. FFS, all I’m doing is going up to a random girl and telling her she has a nice smile or something. I’m in a shopping centre that is not exactly full.. But there are girls in there that I could easily approach. I need to have this done tonight or early tomorrow to progress with this book. I sit here and psychic myself up then once I get out it is so fucking hard. It’d not like I go to, it’s like I’m stuck in the same routine of seeing a girl trying to make eye contact, (if she does I have been looking away). I need to pick someone, think in my head, don’t think just do. Then walk right up and open my mouth. If I can’t do this tonight/tomorrow early I am not going to have my rest/binge Sunday. I will go to the shopping centre all day until I do it. BUT I AM GOING TO DO IT TONIGHT!!! I WILL FINISH EARLY COME HOME, GET CHANGED THEN GET BACK TO THE CLUB AND APPROACH THE SHIT OUTTA EVERYONE!!!
LOL, well I completed the compliment mission, and did ask a girl for advice with clothes but I don’t really class it as an approach so I am going to get warmed up and go to the shops to finish it so I can move onto the next challenge.
Day Six:
V8 Juice 270ml, 1 cup special k with protein shake (200ml milk, 200ml water),
25* push ups, dips, 20*sit ups, reverse crunches, 30*squats. 10 fast* pushups, sit ups, reverse crunches, dips. 20* squats.
Stylelife:
FUCK YESSS!!!! Just smashed out the missions I was having trouble with. Took me 20mins if that, approached total strangers, got nothing but love. I feel so much better!! Although I don’t think I’ve gotten rid of my AA, it is definitely a big step. WHOA!!! Now I’m not behind with rules of the game, but I have a feeling todays mission is going to be a challenge...To top it all off I am going to go out to eungella tomorrow with sylvia to do some photography. Tonight is going to be a good night!!
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