Picking up women with husbands. Wrong or right?



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PostPosted: Thu Jun 30, 2011 7:56 am 
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Every now and then when i do daygame i encounter a hot girl who already has a husband or an entire family even. I've had one who told me she has a husband when we were already going out(i knew i could f close her but i didnt), and others who i realized have tied the knot through the course of the conversation. I know they are not just making that up because they are very receptive. I keep thinking it is wrong to actually try and hook up with them.

The most one bothering me is this hot asian chick i opened at a shopping mall. I mean seriously hot but i could tell she has a husband by the fact that looks to be around late 20s and she was talking with her husband on the phone before I opened her. We started having a good convo and then i started kino and she responded well to it, and seriously starting to have sexual tension (i wws starting to picture her sucking my dick), but i just wasnt able to bring myself to escalate beyond that so i reverted back to my opener and i said thanks and left .I knew she has a husband i just feel that is just wrong. I originally wanted her as a warm up set but damn she wss fucking hot.

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Personally, I would be uncomfortable with it because clearly it isn't just a quick fling with a guy. As for if they had a whole family, then definitely no - I wouldn't want to mess up the kids home life just for a quick lay.

The way I always view girls in any kind of relationship is with three simple question that I ask myself:
1) Is she happy in her relationship?
2) Would she be happier with me?
3) If things didn't work out between us, would she regret leaving her ex?

Obviously, I am no saint - there are times I have broken my own rules but generally I try to stick to them as in my own opinion there are enough women in the world who I can seduce that I don't need to hit on the one who is happily already taken! However, if she is unhappy with her current BF, understands what I am offering and would be happier with it and is basically just looking for some leverage to leave her current BF then really we are both getting what we want so it is fine!

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I think if you have to ask the question, you know generally that it is wrong.

However, you can justify it in certain circumstances, for example, if her husband is cheating on her already or treats her like shit. If you genuinely like the girl then it can be hard to do what is right or wrong but if you just want to shag her a few times is it worth trying to? It's true that you can't make her do anything she doesn't want to, but would she regret it if she did?

This isn't relevant to your question - I suspect you might be thinking it is easier than it actually is to seduce a married woman. You say these woman are responding well but they might just like the attention; today I heard my mam say she'd be disappointed if men didn't find her attractive anymore (Loose Women was on the tele, subject was "do women become invisible after 40?" Women love to complain about builders and say how it was embarassing (the ones who genuinely are embarassed probably don't tell anyone) but I bet they'd be disappointed when the wolf whistles stopped!


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I'm married and my wife and I are swingers. Most of the women I am with are married but it is with their husbands and my wife's approval and consent. I may have a little different perspective here than most of the other guys but here are some things that go through my mind

Are you so desparate for poontang that you have to resort to gaming married women for fun and entertainment? Why do you want to open yourself up to all that hassle?

In some ways getting a reaction from flirting with married chicks is easier and you and you get a bigger reaction. That is because they have been off the market for awhile and don't get hit on as often as they used to so they are digging the attention and they like that it shows they are still attractive.

they will often even hook you and pull you in more than a single gal and then when push comes to shove they will put on the brakes hard and play the "I'm married" card.

There are married women who will cheat but most fall into two catagories, Catagory 1 is the ones who are truly dissatisfied and unhappy in their marriage and are open to seeing if they can upgrade. If you get involved with this gal and imply that you want to be with her, she WILL get clingy and try to get you to commit because she is risking her whole family, reputation and livelihood on the new boyfriend working out.

The other type of woman who cheats is the selfish, entitled person of low character who can't pass up having her cake and eating it too. This gal will be OK with being on the downlow but is often just a skank and is banging a handfull of other dudes and keeping them on a string too.

Either way when you get caught, and you will, the shit is going to hit the fan. YOU will be blamed and held accountable for all their maritial problems and the gal that was promising you that you were the hottest stud and best fuck she'd ever met last night will now be telling her husband that you got her drunk or drugged her and took advantage of her and who do you think he is going to beleive? You or her?

Your spouse and your home and family are simply the biggest investments that people will ever make and when you start schmoozing up to someone else's spouse they will truly do anything to protect their investment up and including severe beatings, serious vandalism, arson and murder. And if some dude beats you into next week for banging his wife, noone will feel sorry for you and most will side with him.

Little wimpy guys are an even bigger threat because they wont beat you, they will set fire to house while you sleep or just pull out a gun instead.

Here's the bad news. The time and energy that you spend gaming married chicks is often wasted. They will enjoy your flirtations and they will respond with IOIs and they know how to game themselves. But many will lead you on and on and on but never actually put out. They just like the attention and affirmations.

The ones that do put out give you an orgasm but they also bring you into all their shit. All their home problems and all their dramas will become YOUR problems and you will be exposed to some nasty shit.

The real kicker though is the time and energy you spend gaming marrieds could be spent gaming a single gal that is available and you could have a risk and dramafree time with her instead.


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When it comes to bf, i dont really care about it unless they are engaged. However I've never succesfully K or f closed a girl happy with her bf. The only ones ive f closed were ones who were obviously were attracted to me and only in a relationship just to be in a relationship. There are a lot of women like that who feel insecure if they are single.

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I have no assumption that married women are easier to close, the reason i made this thread is a recent encounter with a hot asian woman as i stated who was responding well. But i did not escalate because the fact that shes married bothers me.

Ive had an instance where the woman hid her marital status until we were already going out and flirting heavily. After the date the next day she just exploded and suddenly texted me how horny she was and how much she wants to get fucked at that moment. I had a choice whether i would ask her to meet up or not. I didnt contact her again after that. Thankfully i was already getting some somewhere else otherwise i might have caved because she had big fucking tits and a bubbly attitude.

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I dont especially target married women to game, but if its a warm up set i dont really care so i open them. The recent hot milf i originally wanted as a warm up set but went beyond what i intedned was what pushed me to ask about this particular concept.

I am always desperste for new poontang but like ive said earlier i just cant bring myself to escalate or f close a woman once ive realized she is married. Ive had the chance to f close a married woman but i didnt as ive stated to trixsta.

I was simply asking for opinions on this matter as to whether i am the only one feeling the barrier. My position in the matter was set as much i was concerned. I suggest you read the entire first post before replying.

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I usually check a girls hands for rings on her ring finger(s). Ring on her left ring finger? She's probably married. Ring on just her right ring finger? Probably engaged. Rings on BOTH her left AND right hands? She's committed most likely. Proceed with caution. She probably has a jealous husband and/or kids too.

No rings on her ring fingers? She is probably single or just has a cheap ass hubby/borefriend that is too frugal to buy her a ring. Hope this helps. (I learned some of this from trial and error and reading Stylelife)

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I do see picking up a married girl as wrong and that if a married girl wants to cheat she should get a divorce. Because the way I see it if she is that unhappy that she is willing to cheat more than likely the relationship is over and what good is it if she sleeps with another guy? The other reason why I won't pick up a married girl is by having sex with her it only encourages such behavior.


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I'm going to give you a woman's perspective on this, hope that's ok. I've watched a few of my female friends navigate affairs, some successfully, some not so much. Morally, no, it's not fine. HOWEVER: the reality is that lots of people cheat.
The bottom line is that if for whatever reason a woman wants an affair, she will find a willing partner, so why shouldn't it be you? I don't agree that all women are looking for another serious relationship. Women of all ages sometimes feel smothered and miss their carefree single days and just want to have a fun fling with someone who finds them attractive and flirts with them. This kind of casual relationship may not last long but can be fun and rewarding for both parties. And you won't necessarily get caught; this type of female will be discreet.
That being said, the married woman will always have the upper hand in an affair and will call you or see you when SHE can or feels like it. Also, stay clear from the clingy romantic types who will start seeing you as her "knight" and will fantasize about your future together. She will become attached quickly, be overly emotional and dramatic, and will practically ensure that you will get caught. Hope this helps!


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Btw LOTS of married women are perfectly happy having a one-time fling with an attractive, charming man :wink:


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I like this thread.

Firstly, because it reminds me so much of when i was younger. Early twenties and i put the same question to my older friend in his late 30's.

Before i give his slightly long winded reply.
I must first point out that destroying so called happy loved up couples with kids is not the way to go forward.

Madals does make a point.

o.K. This is what my friend said. 15 years ago.

He said.

1. Firstly married women that have been with husband for many years of LTR that are thinking of straying for a number of reasons are the best women to go for the reason listed.

A Low Aids, sexualy transmitted diseases RISK etc.
B They are ready to go straight into a relationship with somebody taking of where they left off.

C. some women like there rich boring husbands.
They just want to fuck other guys.
You get to bang her and then send her packing back to her husband who picks up the financial costs of being married to her.

D. With kids a mortgage and other problems, the partnership (marriage) could be over and they are looking for a reason to meet new people.

A LOT OF MARRIED WOMEN GO OUT REGULARY.
READ INTO THAT WHAT YOU LIKE.

E. By the time you are reaching your 30's you will find out fucking quickly that all the best women are taken.
NO FUCKING EXCEPTIONS.

If any decent single women are available in there thirties who haven't been BUSTED THROUGH. (have kids)

Thats usually because they don't want them or CAN'T HAVE THEM . FACT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I no what some people are thinking. (seriously don't go there trying to prove a point to me on this one)

I know how i used to think when i was younger. I did not agree with my older wiser friend.
That was then.This is now.

I am not saying i agree.

But i totally understand.

And then there is the (What if) approach.

Think of the film quote. ( Jurrasic park)

Geoff Goldblum said just because we have the technology to bring the dinosaur back. (SHOULD WE)

You are making out that you CAN f close this married (whatever women)
All i am saying is think about it and should you.

I trust all the above is of some interest.

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Honestly for me I don't have a problem having sex with a married girl under the right circumstances. Her relationship status is none of my business and not my problem.

Only 2 things would stop me...
1. If I knew the husband or the family in general.
2. If she required extensive gaming, F-close by day 2 at the LATEST.

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If someone is going to cheat, they are going to cheat. Why not have it be with you? Lots of great things can come from it.


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I've done this before and I have some theories on right or wrong.

There's been times in my life I was with more married women than single women.

Don't ever go in to it with the mindset you want her to leave her husband or family. She may think she can be 90% happy with you, and is 20% happy with him, but it's still not worth it. Now, if he's mean to her, and she's miserable and the marriage is doomed and shes telling you it's doomed, that's different. But when the time comes you think the marriage is over, and she tells you she's going back, wish her well and let her go on her way.

A lot of times, women will cheat b/c they aren't getting it at home. They aren't cheating to leave the husband, they are cheating b/c they want attention, self gratification, sex, etc. Maybe her husband can't get hard, maybe his sex drive is low, maybe he isn't affectionate enough for her. But, she knows he's a decent guy and she's staying for the kids. In my opinion, it can be healthy for the long term of a woman's marriage and family if she steps out and explores a different guy now and then. She's had her sex, she feels self worth, she goes back and has a sense of rejuvenation. Sometimes, the husband knows what she is doing and doesn't care. I would be very very careful with it.


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I personally don't see the wrong in cheating.


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All the best women are taken. Most hot single chicks have a bunch of meatheads buzzing around them like flies. Even the single HB5s have more attention than they deserve; I see a lot of plain chicks with ridiculous egos. I actually prefer going for taken women if I'm looking for an MLTR because its the best of both worlds. Boyfriend/Husband deals with the relationship bullshit, while you get the hottest sex.

Morality doesn't come into it. If you don't fuck them someone else will. Nobody is forcing her to sleep with you. Adult human beings make their own decisions. It's not your fault her husband is shitty in bed.


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