I have been thinking. If you are to bossy girls will say you are an asshole and want nothing to do with you, but if you are too appeasing they will say you are timid and want nothing to do with you. Then if you are trying to do both you will to either half-hearted and therefore not well. I had some trouble in the past girls calling me an asshole that does not care about their feelings. I was getting a bj one time and a girl felt I was talking to her like an animal. I've tried to change this, but when I level back the swagger its like girls think I'm soft. So I don't know.

These are the advantages I see to these approaches.

1.) Alpha male: a.) powerful and thats attractive. b.) you're a challenge and that's attractive
2.) Nice guy: a.) you're really pleasant and thats cool.

I can't quite get what you are asking here but to me it's a perceived value thing. If she thinks you are high enough value, then she will accept a being bossy or you being a bit of a chode. The benefit of being more on the Alpha side of things is it in itself suggest you high value.

But if you not convincing enough, then she'll just frame it as a bad thing and call you bossy.

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EXACTLY. If you are too Alpha she'll call you an ass. If you are too nice she'll call you a wimp. That's why you might as well just be an asshole to her and be alpha because she's going to be a bitch to you either way. What's the point in treating her nice just so she can rag on you? I'd rather show her my ass and treat her like shit if she's going to act like that no matter what I do.

How's the expression go? "Women will forgive you for being a man, but they won't forgive you for being a pussy."

Be alpha.

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