| The Essentials of Game
So you want to play the game? You want to roll with the big boys?
While its easier than you may think, you've got to let go of the PUA myths and misconceptions that you’ve spent so long studying and focus your time on the three most essential concepts in game: opening, staying in set and going for the close.
Opening:
At least 90% of students I teach have this obsession with opening.
"What do i say?"
"How shoiuld I position my body"
"What tonality should I use?"
Etc.
I have a suspicion this dates back to The Game and when canned lines were all the rage.
Luckily for you guys, times have changed, the game has evolved and our knowledge of how to get girls has improved 100 fold.
The secret behind opening is so obvious that PUAs worldwide seemed to have missed it. The classic case of making things complicated because humans feel that if a strategy isn’t complicated, it isn’t any good.
The truth behind opening is that in most situations it doesn’t matter what you say. Don’t get me wrong, there are many things you can say that will end a set before it even starts but for the most part the opening line you use doesn’t matter.
Imagine you use the perfect opening line. Your delivery is perfect, your tonality is perfect and the girl loves it; however, what next? If you don’t quickly transition the conversation onto an interesting topic, it’s game over.
Now imagine you use an average opening line. You could use something based on the situation or even simply ask where the nearest coffee shop is. Typically, the girl will respond in a neutral way; however, if you properly transition the conversation, this could be the beginning of a great set!
To summarize, it doesn’t matter what you open with as long as you open! If you cant think of anything, feel free to use my favorite line…. “Hi!”.
Staying in set:
Similar to opening, most PUAs insist on making a conversation way more complicated than it needs to be. When it comes to having a conversation, and more importantly building a connection, the single most important factor is staying in set.
If you don’t stay in set, you wont get the girl. It’s that simple.
Even better, if you stay in set and only run decent game, you may have a solid chance of getting the girl. Even better still, the majority of game is focusing on not messing up too badly. Even the best PUAs aren’t always super smooth but when they make mistakes, they only make small mistakes, which can easily be recovered from.
I like to compare game to the Olympics. In the Olympics, it’s all about getting first place. In game, it’s simply about finishing the race, even if its dead last. Finishing the race means you win and in order to finish the race, you must stay in set until the very end!
Going for the close:
If you don’t go for the close, you will never it. Even better still, by going for the close you demonstrate a number of attractive qualities.
The funny thing I have noticed over the years is that many students before they even try approaching or going for the close think that their chances of success are slim; however, once they try, they are always surprised that game is easier than they had originally imagined.
In short, if you don’t open, stay in set and go for the close, you will never get the girl but by simply doing those three steps, you have a decent chance of succeeding!
-Alexander Prime
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