| Every time I see a man who let`s me look at a glimpse of his "secret" seduction technique I don`t see a friend.
Going back to the days I`ve joined this forum I saw a lot more genuine topics and genuine guys who were in here to share the new things they thought were important with women.
I found myself connecting with some guys and a few girls who were in here only to share. And not the kind of sharing that let`s you look just to what they call a glimpse of their whole method.
You see, every time I cross a man like that I see a salesman. He`s not looking to help me really, he`s looking to make me find in he`s product the solutions to all my problems.
This had a real bad side effect on me; rather than just finding in the salesman products the answer to all my problems, I started seeking in other salesman products new approaches on the subject.
This messed up my so called "game" big time. Truth be told: the money I didn`t spent on PUA products I did spend it with my time doing research and countless hours of reading stuff that will only mess up my mind.
I`m beginning to think I don`t NEED that anymore.
Like I said before: there are still some members in here who worries about their male partners, they get in here with a new pattern to share, for free; simply because he was the one IN NEED at a time and found some answers when all he had was doubt.
I know I will forget about some nicks but girls like Roz gave me some real important advice on PUA: Become good at something.
My first thoughts was: what the fuck does she mean? I want to become good at pick up. Now I`m a bit wiser, I understand better her point at that moment.
Guido told me to be passionate about the topic that matters to me and simply talk to girls with that same passion.
Those are great advices gentlemen, those are even better than advices; those are principles.
There is no magic pill nor shortcuts to this chapter of our lifes, but know one thing: this is something we are here to get done with.
Main reason I keep comming here is because I connect with the aspiring puas in here.
My point in this topic is that while most of us men are giving some gurus our money in exchange for their "secrets", a few compiting men are selling to us their products and getting richer by abusing what we think it`s our NEED.
Let me tell you this: you don`t NEED any secret. I`m not preeching some just be yourself bullshit, couse if you are here you do have to change some things about you. On the other hand, you already toke the initiative to join in here, wich communicates me that you already recognize you need help in this area. That`s not just the first step, that`s maybe the most important.
What you need is to use your brain, to see when other fellas are trying to "solve all your problems"; and you need to share for free.
Because there is something really special about sharing, most people tend to think that if there is not any money involved it`s not worth it. WRONG.
To those men who are here with one goal only: money. I say to you: FUCK YOU! Big time.
You are not invited in this fight club. Get your membership down your ass, couse it`s MY membership you won`t get. It`s our membership you are not getting.
I`d like making this thread not a complain against the pick up industry that has arraised in our world, rather than a few guys commenting and connecting with each other. Sharing their conclusions about this crazy world we live at, and specially about this community that got our heads a bit messed up.
My first advice is to not obsess over PUA, couse it`s really easy to fall for that trick.
Some people are specially trying to leave you wondering and wanting some more, right after they offered you a few secrets they have discovered.
If someone tells you he`s sharing a secret about women with you send him to the next dude. You are not buying. If it is a secret you don`t want it, from now on you just want genuine advice; something that most people give away for nothing in exchange. Simply because they want to see you improve.
That`s all I want. I want to improve along with you.
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