ive read numerous books on seduction, alpha male, general PUA etc and I must admit that the things I've learned in those books definitely work. However, maintaining the program is more like work and isn't really a true reflection of myself, I feel like I cant relax and have to maintain this certain persona.. its exhausting!

now to this particular situation.

first off I consider myself to be a handsome 25 year old male. I am 6' 165 lbs and I am almost through with my CPA. So, I know that I have "value". I first met this girl about 6 years ago and we dated briefly. She went away to school and long story short I ended up cheating on her and she found out. Needless to say we broke up.

I recently bumped into her again and we start chatting again. Things were going awesome at first. Then, she had to move away again so we were trying the long distance thing... skyping, facebook etc. All of a sudden shes changed on me and we hardly speak now. I asked her if she was interested in pursuing our relationship and she said of course she did and that she loves me. However, her actions completely speak otherwise. I personally think she is seeing someone else.

Anyway, truth be told I am beginning to obsess about her and am losing all of my control w/ her.

A couple things: how do I regain the control and indicate to her that I am in control? I have distanced myself from here but the truth is I want to talk to her every single day!!! It's becoming truly difficult and its starting to drive me nuts.

How do I let her know how much I want to be with her without coming across as needy and desperate?

At what point and to what extent should I be able to just relax with the routine and be myself, or is being an attractive man really a full time job.

Sorry for lengthy post! and thanks so much

Sit down with her seriously in a confident vibe. Dont be too serious infront of her, internally you should feel like you dont care if you lose her. Be cool and confident and tell her exactly how you feel. Not in a weak way. But like a real man. You seem like you care for this girl, so its ok. Be honest and say you really think about her a lot and would like to be with her. But dont get an answer from her there. Just do your part and tell her, and give her a kiss on the cheek and leave. Dont tell her to give you an answer. If she doesnt get back to you or shows interest than you need to move on. No problem

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To answer your question FTOW