Dr. Barbara Keesling, Ph.D. on multiple orgasms for men
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Male Multiple Orgasm-The Secret Revealed
What exactly is male multiple orgasm? Is it anything like a regular orgasm or is it completely different? Is it better than a regular orgasm? Is it a lot of work? Is it different from female multiple orgasm? Can any man have one? Questions, questions, questions. Your head is probably spinning from all of the questions you have at this very moment. And let us not forget the most important one of all: How do you do it?
Male Multiple Orgasm: My Definition. A multiorgasmic man, quite simply, is a man who can have two or more orgasms in a row without resting. He does not experience any significant down time between his orgasms. By "down time," I mean a refractory period in between orgasms when the penis is not easily aroused. A multiorgasmic man is able to maintain his erection, even though he has already had an orgasm, and continue making love from orgasm to orgasm. Unlike most "normal" men, a multiorgasmic man does not lose his ability to stay erect after his first orgasm. He can continue to a second or even a third or fourth orgasm without resting.
This is not the same as having two or more orgasms in an afternoon of lovemaking with periods of rest or breaks in between. The multiorgasmic man does not need a rest. He might want to, and he certainly can, if he or his partner wishes, but he doesn't have to stop. He is capable of continuing to make love immediately after orgasm. HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?
There are some men, particularly young men, who are just plain lucky. These guys are naturals. Their physiology is such that they don't lose their erections after orgasm, or they regain their erections so quickly that intercourse is barely interrupted. Men like this are "born" multiorgasmic. Maybe there was a time in your life when you were this lucky too. But chances are, those days are gone. Well, the good news is that you don't have to be lucky anymore to be multiorgasmic. There is another way to acquire this ability, and it works regardless of your age, your experience, or your Godgiven talents.
The secret to becoming multiorgasmic is actually quite simple. The secret, for most men who have mastered the ability, lies in learning to have a complete orgasm without ejaculating. That's right, a full, powerful orgasm-or two, or three, or morewith no ejaculation. Without ejaculation there is no refractory period-no down time. That means there is no significant loss of erection, leaving you free to continue having intercourse until you reach the point where you are ready to have an orgasm with simultaneous ejaculation.
ORGASM WITHOUT EJACULATION! . . . AM I CRAZY? Now, I know that this may not sound as simple as I say it is. There's a really good chance that at thismoment it all sounds very weird, or even impossible. I realize that as far as most men are concerned, there is no such thing as an orgasm without ejaculation. It's a package deal, like thunder and lightning, right? Wrong. This may be hard to believe, but as most sex therapists will confirm, orgasm and ejaculation in males are two separate things. Yes, they typically occur together, and yes, it feels as though they are a package deal. But the physiological reality is that they are not inseparable. It is possible to have a full orgasm without a simultaneous ejaculation, and therein lies the key to becoming multiorgasmic. Learn how to separate them, and you're on your way. I know that this news isn't mind-boggling for every man who is reading this book right now. Many men have stumbled onto this accidentally. In fact, there may already have been an occasion or two in your life when you actually experienced the sensations of orgasm without having an ejaculation.
At the time, you may not have thought much of it, or you might have found it confusing. Most men who experience this unintentionally think that it's an accident or some strange quirk. Many worry that something might be wrong with them, but very few men think of it as an experience worth recapturing, let alone perfecting. If you did, you probably wouldn't be reading this book right now-you'd be out there doing it. But believe me, I know hundreds of men who would gladly tell you that a nonejaculatory orgasm is an experience worth recapturing and worth perfecting. These men will also tell you that if you've never had a nonejaculatory orgasm, you need to start. And that's what you're going to do, with my help.
Meet James, a Multiorgasmic Man I'd like to introduce you to James, one of several multiorgasmic men you'll hear about, a man who has been practicing these techniques for almost eight years. I want you to read James's story first because his method of having multiple orgasms most closely resembles the style we focus on in this book. You may not necessarily have intercourse for the same length of time as James does, but the techniques you use will not differ significantly. When James and his partner Sharon make love, he typically takes ten minutes or more before he has an orgasm. He starts intercourse slowly and lets his arousal build. Then the instant before he is about to ejaculate, he thrusts deeply into Sharon and squeezes the muscle that runs from the base of the penis to the area behind his testicles. This allows him to have a full orgasm-including rapid heart rate, muscle contractions, and that incredible sensationof release-without an ejaculation. James maintains his erection, continues to make love, and has two to four more orgasms this way. When he wants to stop making love, he has a final orgasm and ejaculates. James is able to do this because he has achieved good control of the pelvic muscles that spasm when a man ejaculates.
James usually lets his partner's desires guide him. If Sharon wants to have intercourse for a long time, he simply delays his ejaculation until she's had all she wants. In the meantime, he may have three or four full orgasms. If Sharon wants to make it a shorter evening, James complies happily. Some nights are marathons and some nights re quickies. The important thing is, it's their decision.
Alan's Story. Alan used to have one quick orgasm when he made love and then call it a night. Today, however, Alan is a two-orgasm guy. When he is making love with his wife, Alan's first orgasm tends to come on rather quickly-within five minutes or less. But Alan has learned to contract his PC muscle at just the right moment before his climax, and this completely suppresses his ejaculation. Alan calls this first orgasm his "dry" orgasm. This is usually his most powerful orgasm, but it is just the beginning of his lovemaking. With orgasm number one out of the way, Alan "settles in" for the slow journey to orgasm number two. What Alan likes to do here is time his second orgasm so that it occurs with, or just after, his wife's orgasm. Alan and his wife find this to be extremely gratifying for both of them. Alan's wife tends to need prolonged intercourse before she can climax, which is why she was so enthusiastic about helping Alan learn these techniques. Alan and his wife have developed a set of nonverbal signals (winks, nods, squeezes, etc.) that help them get their timing right. When it is time for their mutual climax, Alan just relaxes all of the muscles he tensed the first time, and has a second full orgasm, complete with ejaculation. Alan says, "The first one is for me ...
The second one is for both of us. "Multiorgasmic Male: Some Variations on a Theme The exercises in this book will teach you what I believe to be the simplest, most effective way for a man to become multiorgasmic. But that's just the beginning. Once you have mastered these techniques, you may go on to develop your own unique style. In the many years I have worked with men, I have seen all kinds of interesting variations on the theme of multiple orgasm. For example, while most men achieve multiple orgasms by delaying ejaculation, some are able to have partial or even complete ejaculations without losing their erections. While most men spread out their orgasms through a prolonged session of lovemaking, some men experience all of their orgasms in rapid-fire succession. There is no predicting what you will be capable of or what will feel best to you. Your body is unique, and it will respond in a nique way. Maybe you will develop some variation I have yet to see.
Wouldn't that be great? Drop me a line if you do, because I'm always interested in hearing about new things. I want to introduce you to two other multiorgasmic men whose styles are quite different from James and Alan's so that you can get sense of the many possibilities that lie ahead. As you read their stories, remember that as different as these styles may seem, all four men started their multiorgasmic "careers" with the same basic techniques.
Bob Can Ejaculate More Than Once Without Losing His Erection. Bob has a very different way of reaching multiple orgasms. When Bob makes love to his wife he tends to begin by thrusting very vigorously and often ejaculates within about five minutes. However, after ejaculating, he has learned to maintain both his erection and his arousal, and he continues to thrust slowly. Within minutes he is able to have another complete ejaculation and orgasm, as strong as the first. If he chooses, he can continue making love in this fashion, having as many as five or six orgasms and ejaculations within an hour.
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