There are 2 very important things I learnt after my time in PUA.

1) What she does, is not your responsibility. What you do, however, is.

I know this sounds obvious, but let's think about it a bit more. Most PUAs spend most of their time trying to manipulate woman's behavior, while forgetting about controlling their own.

There is one Buddhist saying I've read, "How you're treated is their karma, how you react is yours".

This had profound impact on me. Many times I felt weak, as if I had no power in a situation. I'm sure many of you felt the same way.

In my opinion, whatever we do, is reaction to our surrounding. We see a hot girl, and we either approach or we don't. yes you can go on blaming your childhood, environment and etc, but that doesn't matter. Universe doesn't give two shits about your feelings. You either take your chance or you don't, that's all there is to it.
So basically, your actions, is the only thing you should worry about. Not results, but the actions. And reaction to results. Whether good or bad.


If you think your past fucked you up royally, here's another quote, this time from Buddha (I recently got more into Buddhism).

“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.” -Buddha

Which brings me to the second point:

Although it's good to have some kind of plan of action, and take care of logistics, the most important thing imo, is adaptability.

Many famous chess players have said something along the lines of "I think only one move ahead, but it's always a good move."

Look at your present, act accordingly. You're responsible for your actions and their consequences, not for her actions, mood and circumstances, and certainly not for the way the world is whether you think it's shit or heaven.

Just take care of these 2 and your life will get much easier.