| you make things alot more complicated then they have to be,
MM is great and everything man and having a game plan is awesome especially when you are extremely certain of the plan, and it is clear to you what you are doing to the point there is no doubt
but, you can not magically generate some form of ''value'' from thin air, this attaction you are trying to create is mearly an illusion, you can create the illusion of value, but you either have value and know it, or you do not, and know it, all that is left is congruence with what is genuinely congruent, and sooner or later girls will find out, you can either spend all your time and effort learning to act like you have a lot to offer, or you can just work on yourself and your life until you truly do have a lot to offer
how to get attention?
for starters you can go up and give her your attention so that she becomes focused on you, depending on your intentions and how you are percieved from her point of view will dictate what sort of reciprocating attention you recieve
some girls will simply be attracted to you physically to begin with and you will have their attention immidiately without doing anything, they will just give you approach invites and will be very aware of your pressense, other girls want to see some perception of an attractive lifestyle (all this framing, and mystery method stuff you are trying to get a handle on is all based around framing yourself as ''socially valueable'' aka having an interesting life beyond sitting at home and marketing this concept to her), some girls no matter what you do, will just not be interested and the only form of attention you can hope for, will come from being aggressive and not paying attention to social cues at all, demonstrating a lack of social intelligence and at most leading to a friend zone situation, or a long wait until she is sexually available (but if you want to waste time on girls that are non-receptive, that is up to you, sometimes it can pan out and girls are giving negative reactions because they don't know how to react properly to an open and go into fight or flight mode with the emphasis on fight, how ever this is the exception not the rule, and the vast majority of the time a girl being rude or ignoring you, is not likely to pan out)
how do you attract a girl?
1) be physically up to her standards so sexually she can see herself sleeping with you, you don't have to be brad pitt, but the more you take care of yourself the more you will see compliance and interest in general
2) offer a situation for her to be around you that is beneficial to the both of you, a win/win, attract her into your life by having an attractive life or become an excellent actor that plays the role of a guy who has an attractive life (this has to do with status/security and the perception of lifestyle, this is what the ''DHV'' and having standards is all about, creating a perspection of a lifestyle and having standards on who will be allowed to be a part of that lifestyle)
3) the rest is building connection and trust, even if the girl is attracted to you, if she can not trust you, you may just be shit out of luck in terms of getting the logistics to lay her
when the benifit to being with you outweighs the percieved cost for her, you will have value in her eyes, but what a specific girl value's will be subjective to the girl in question
how do you isolate a girl?, just move her, say come here, or lets go do XYZ, or lightly grab her wrist and see if she will come, or point, you can justify why to her to increase the likely hood of compliance, if she wants to be led, she will follow, there isn't much more to it then that, does not really matter what you do, as long as you do something and you go first and lead, she either wants to, or she doesn't
how do you get a girl to your crib?
just invite her over, if she is comfortable enough with you that she trusts you, and there is value to the idea, she will comply
(if she finds you very attractive and doesn't think you're going to rape her and it may be fun rather then be boring or just be her getting harassed for sex, she will likely come over)
if you want to increase the likely hood to compliance with good logistics and are having trouble with this aspect, change the invites to more low investment high benefit meetups for her, where the precieved win factor is higher for the both of you (activities that seem more fun), then while in person, lead her to a venue change for better logistics so she is already in the moment, face to face it will be harder for her to say no as it will go agaisnt group mentality and girls are naturally more likely to be more passive and conformist
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