So, a while back I had a bit of a drug problem. Which I sought SPAM for and have found success in managing. During my time in SPAM I learned many many things, all of which were based off of the model below. I thought I should share, as it has as much bearing on addiction recovery as it does on pick-up.



Thoughts
/ ^ \
/ l \
BehaviorEmotions
\ l /
\ \/ /
Environment


Really shitty reconstruction I know, but it gets the point across.

So, what is the point you ask?

If you change even just one of these things, the all the rest change as well. Let's have an example shall we.



I am in a bar. (Environment) Talking to a redhead. When she just blows me out. So I am feeling a little weak, emasculated, all around AFC.(Emotions.) I think to myself. What is it about me that is so bad? What did I do? What didn't I do? So I get pissy and depressed and not longer open sets or have any fun in general. (Behavior)


So lets see what we can do about this using the model.

I could change my thoughts. Her loss. She has no idea what she is missing. Wow, her friend is super cute. So, what does this do for me. Well if I am having those kinds of thoughts, I am most decidedly not feelings emasculated, or AFC at all. And instead of acting all depressed and pissy, not opening sets, what do I do. The exact fucking opposite! While I am still at the bar, that didn't need to be changed but lets go back and instead of changing our thoughts after the blow out lets change our environment.


So, we get blown out, and decide to head to a new bar. What does this do for us. Well at a new bar the blowout has no bearing. So we are not feeling AFC. New place, new faces. I would say we are feeling pretty damn confident. Which means, our thoughts are no longer on the blow out, but on the next set of twins we just saw. Our behavior goes right back to being Alpha as we confidently approach and open.



This was a very general example, used to show the power of this particular model. Is this model going to get you laid. Probably not. Will it help you next time you arn't feeling at your best. Yes, as long as you remember to use it. So please guys, don't pick this apart about what could have been done to salvage the sarge, as there was no sarge. Only a fictitious example to demonstrate how the model works. However if you have any questions or comments regarding the model please feel free to post. I hope it helps you guys. It did worlds for me.