Background.
Was madly in love with a girl who ended up fucking one of my friends and co workers while we were on a one week "trial break". I was very young at the time 22. She was 30, I did not find out about this for a long time as she kept me away from this friend after telling me I was not to hang out with him!

She had another guy after that and strung me along for another year or so seeing me once every two weeks while at the same time keeping tight control over me.

Financially I was very successful for my age, making big bucks for a 22 year old. The company went under and at the same time I found out through a mutual friend about my mate fucking her. He had been basically my employee.

I have never spoken to him about it and nobody knows that I know, we no longer all work together but all remain good friends.

After this I was torn apart inside for a long time, I did a huge amount for her, and at work was well respected and very much a mans man. I tormented myself about the rumours that must have gone round behind my back etc, but ultimately kept everything inside.

I basically turned to the bottle for the best part of a year.

I woke up one day looked in the mirror and stopped drinking so much. I then discovered this website. Often asking questions I could really answer myself but wanted to hear from somebody else.

Here is what I consider the most important thing I have learnt>

The vast majority of us have banter and social skills already but are afraid to use them on women. Instead put these energies into relationships with male friends.

I have got a lot of really good looking female friends now and have largely turned a corner.

If your out there and having a shit time. Dont give up, work hard, change your perspective, be positive and then you will be lucky.