After lurking in the forums for a bit, I thought it was time to have a proper discussion on this topic. I have been pretty much a natural at talking to women since I was a young child. I've always found it very easy to connect with and approach random people. It's helped to form my career. It's helped me to be someone that other people enjoy being around. It's also helped me to bed women that most guys sit there all night drooling over.

Now, after phases of both being involved in exclusive relationships and dating as many women as I please, I'm starting to re-think the purpose of picking up women. Maybe I'm just tired of putting them down. For me, it's not always a contest to see how many numbers I can get or how many women I can close. Maybe I'm a fan of quality. Maybe I'm just getting tired of kicking game.

It brings me to my question: we describe the guys on this forum that focus all of their thoughts and energy on a single girl as having "one-itis," but isn't the true art of the pick up being able to weed through all of the wrong ones to get to the right one? Is there a right ONE? Or can the PUA never find satisfaction in monogamy?

Hiya, hmm ive thought about this before and here are some of my thoughts:

I guess is all boils down to choice

I don't believe in soul mates, i don't believe that everyone has a 'second-half' out there somewhere and we're trying to find each other. But i do think that 2 compatible people in a really evolved relationship are stronger together than they would be apart.

"The whole is greater than the sum of the parts" kinda thing....
So i suppose I agree with this. But deciding to stick with a certain woman is taking a risk because there could always a more optimum partner out there.

For me though I'm only getting started with my game and i don't intend to settle down with someone for a good while yet I wana get to know many woman and then i think I'll have a better idea of what the 'optimum' girl for me would be like.

'One-itis' is obsession with a girl you don't have, or perhaps cannot have, and thinking there is nobody out there who you'd like being with more.

I love relationships, I think they are great; but only if the people stay together because they CHOOSE to stay together, not because of fear of other options. The pickup arts is essentially a way for guys to broaden their choices and have more options with women. They understand that they can go out at any point and find someone interesting. It also helps them exercise power in their relationships, so they don't get pummeled into submission (which is usually followed by the girl leaving, as long as she is a woman of value).

In the end though, the pickup arts is just a set of tools; it's the artist's choice what he uses those tools for. He can stay a player for life and have multiple relationships with many women, or he can settle for one woman of very high quality and start a relationship with her. Point is, he has OPTIONS - and because of those, never suffers from 'one-itis', at least in the sense of my definition.
Interesting point of view; I personally hate to think of relationships in terms of 'optimum'. I have enjoyed being with my previous girlfriends and, frankly, wouldn't be able to say which one was more optimum for me. Interesting nonetheless, and it's something I'll have a longer think about.
I really liked the extract from Juggler's book that describes the pickup artist as a kid in a candy shop with a fiver in his hand - he has so many options, he doesn't really have a favorite type of candy. The more women you date, the more open you become as to what a good partner for you would be. Juggler's words, not mine.

I personally have opened up a lot, stopped being exclusively into Asians (can't believe I'm saying this) and actually started hooking up with blondes... I guess I no longer have a type!

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