text convo with my girlfriend from five minutes ago:

J:
They are going to put me on written coaching
I want to fucking scream and cry so badly
Seagull:
wanna give me a call?
J:
I am going I take a walk with someone
From work
That I trust
We will talk late
Thanks dude

what the fuck?? she basically told me "nah, never mind, person X is much more of a support for me than you are. have a nice life. thanks for caring dumbass"

I am very inclined to ignore her when/if she calls or texts again.
Since we are supposed to hang out tonight, I will go to her place, and if she tries to tell me anything about it, I will tell her "you have had your trusted friend to talk with about this. now forget it and let's just have fun" and shut her off.

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Plz dont act like a little bitch yourself. You can call her out about how u feel about what she did, but plz dont be rude. You will only screw things up like that

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Yeah, there are two ways to go about this: the whiny way and the alpha way. Go for alpha. When you see her, ask once if everything is okay, then drop it if she doesn't tell you much past that. She was obviously upset and probably didn't mean for it to sound that way. If she hasn't done this kind of thing before, give her a free strike for this one.

true

also no need to invite yourself to her place.

Also...is she aware that she's your gf??? If she is, you can let her know how you feel about it.

smth like this should suffice:

Hey J. I was kind a surprised by what you told me yesterday. In a bad way. you basically told me "nah, never mind, person X is much more of a support for me than you are. have a nice life. thanks for caring dumbass. Care to explain?"

If not, she's not your gf and I personally wouldn't bother with her anymore. Just go out and meet new women, still doesn't mean you can't keep her around for occasional sex.

just as a closure..
I had posted "whatever" on my Facebook. she read it and texted me saying if everything was good and that she felt better and was happy that we were hanging out tonight. then ten minutes later she texted again saying she had re-read her previous texts and realized it sounded bad and she was sorry and did not mean to be rude.
so when I arrived at her house, my task was relatively simple.. she apologized for that and I said "yes it was bad. it looked like you did not care about me being there to help you and put me aside like a used toy. it was not good. but since you know it, and you understand it was bad, I know you won't do it again, and that saves me from giving you a boring lecture". and she agreed. she said she felt bad for hurting me, and I was like "ok you did, but you know it, so stop being sad and let's go out and have fun. it's good you know so you will do better next time, and that's it. no need to be in bed crying."
so, issue solved with very minor damage.
how about I had to go pick her up for a date?
no not at all... she met my parents and I met hers.. but we just think we are fuck-buddies

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Posting 'whatever' on Facebook in my opinion was passive aggressive and not very alpha. But I'm glad you guys worked things out anyway.

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