Think before you act. Think long and hard before you act. Instead of living life so rushed, impatient, fast and needy examine the situations you are in. Take time and make sure you are making the right decisions. Regret is one of the sources of pain, and you won't get passed it until you start manning up to making the right decisions.

When you set a goal you need to work a little every day towards reaching it. You can't even consider fear if you are scared. The only thing you should consider is the answer to "Is what I am doing right now the RIGHT action for this moment. Is this what I should do. What is this going to accomplish?"

You can always become better. Never forget yourself and your dreams. You can always stay to your discipline. You can always stay to your right action.

BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ASK YOURSELF "IS THIS THE RIGHT DECISION." Always trust your gut. Your pain is coming from not trusting your self. You violate your own true internal man because you don't trust yourself. TRUST YOURSELF. LET GO. TRUST YOURSELF WITH WHAT YOU KNOW IS TRUE AND YOU WANT. LOVE FREELY WITHOUT DOUBTS.

Fear that you do not know what to do.
I don't know how to act confident!
I don't know how to act around women because for some reason I have these limiting beliefs in my brain or irrational references that I am a failure.

You just need to be Fun, Flirty, Sexual, Confident, Not needy, A Challenge. All these things are attractive. Self-Determined, Motivated, Driven. All the things you naturally are. You just naturally are attractive, you don't CONVEY that to people. You don't convey through your behavior, you expect them to just know what you are all about. The only thing people have to go by is your actions. You acted like the whiny, insecure chump you are inside instead of the all encompassing, powerful true top echelon champion.

Take all the time in the world to think through your actions and decisions. Actions themselves are what it means to be a man. Acting through your self every time. Putting yourself before everyone else.

You can never go back and that hurts the most. You can never go back and be who you are now in the circumstances that you were given earlier.

Retrospect is perfect vision, and the regret is fuel for the fire. You need to use the regret to live your perfected moment every day. Live by extreme integrity. Always do the right thing. Always be aware of what is going on and believe that you are capable of making the decision. Think about the relationships you have and that you've had. Think about what the truth is and about how she views you. Is it time to STEP UP? Is it time to WALK AWAY? Is it time to REFRAME? READ and ABSORB information about SPECIFIC sticking points and weaknesses.

Don't just read posts on a forum and use games blindly with a girl you care about. Read about the interactions of men and women. How to be more challenging. How to be more of the prize. But just be READY TO STEP UP when the time comes. Be ready to change gears from player to boyfriend by being SURE this is the girl you want and stepping up to the plate to let her know you are golden. She has to trust you fully. She has to know you are golden and you aren't playing games. You play games because your insecure, that is what games are for. If you weren't insecure then you wouldn't need to play games to confirm the other person's interest.

Don't play games if its time to stop the game playing. Don't put so much emphasis on women in your life and what they think of you. Meet, attract, close.

If you had a girlfriend and you were doing the right thing at all times, you would feel you deserve her and you would be the one she looked up to. Girlfriends need to look up to their boyfriends. It is the absolute focal point of social interaction. People look for the guy to follow when they are out and about. They feel better when you bring them into a state of security. A girlfriend wants that 100% of the time. She wants to feel like when she interacts with you, she feels like she knows you are solid. She knows she can count on you. She knows you like her through your BEHAVIOR. She knows you want her through your BEHAVIOR. But she knows that you'd walk away if she pulls some crap behavior.

Why would you convey anything differently? Games are smoke and mirrors to cover up insecurity. Maybe you can play games early on and show her that you aren't just some desperate loser waiting to jump on the first opportunity thrown at you. I don't consider these playing games, I consider them healthy social boundaries and starting to get to know someone in layer one. Moving slowly through your own layers. But after you display this then convey that you are stepping up and taking charge and you know what you want. Taking the lead and giving her that strong male figure to count on in her life. You shouldn't ever look to a woman for leadership or guidance.

Integrity. You make the right decision and let the chips fall where they may.

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Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.

You know, i used to live my life thinking out every move, planning everything, and you know what? i rearly made any mistakes. And that was the most depressing thing in my life. Mistakes are there to be made, i chose to turn off my brain, not to think, i chose to rush in and wing it, and now. I'm happy as could be!!!

Mistakes are there to be made, plowing through them is allot more fun than never making them in the first place. Trust me. Opportunity comes and goes, if you think about it, you may miss it. If you rush in, you can create your own opportunity.

Integrity is not about not making mistakes, its about having consistent character.

People with integrity are usually the ones who dictate the pace in a relationship because they know who they are and what they want.