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Good discussion topic.
I love the well-placed neg.
I also agree with Zepter... SAY what's on your mind - without a filter. I've stopped giving a shit years ago. What's happened since? I literally took last night off. I broke a date just to relax. I've been laid almost every single day last week, at least 2x. I needed the break. I'm juggling 3 different ones....
Example from last week... had a chick over, she wanted to stay the night...
her: What side of the bed do you sleep on?
me: I sleep in the middle, it's MY bed... so it doesn't really matter... you can decide.
her: I may just sleep on you all night
me: The probability of that is slim. I want you in my bed, but I'm the kind of guy that sleeps as a loner. Maybe one day, but this is our first night - it takes me a while to build that level of comfort...
Another - Had a blonde here with a huge rack....
her: (getting undressed for me) You like these don't you? (holding them up for me...)
me: You look amazing... I've just never been a boob-guy. (smile)
I target 35+, so when I neg, I don't try to insult as much as I try to confuse, disorient and remove their frame.
The easiest, most effective I've used is the "I'm sorry, I don't mean to itterrupt, but you have something.... right .... there...." and I point to her teeth...
With Age Bitches (won't date due to age difference)
her: You're too old/too young blah blah blah
me: I see your point. I'm looking for someone a tad deeper. Someone capable of finding chemistry and emotion... that 'passion' they can't deny. That's what I'm after. You prefer to look at birthdays... I wish you well with that. (smile)
You can also strategically scold a chick without scolding her... I'm the guy that always discusses 'game' with a chick if I see her more than once. I come clean, and tell the truth. I immediately assert myself as someone who is confident, capable of pulling pussy with ease, and SHE knows it... She'll always ask questions, and MOST will agree that this would work on them. It's a HUGE DHV, boys - IF you can discuss it as an authority... So anyhow, if she does something to piss me off...
I say: "You know, I'm into you... Do you honestly think I'd allow anyone else to _______________ and not take issue? (pause)... no way in hell. With anyone else, I'd have bounced..."
Also - on a side note... If you're at a D2/D3 and conversation has ANY lull time, you can use that lull time to place a deceptive comment to flip her frame a little as well... As soon as you feel it become somewhat awkward... you can control frame and say "You're a million miles away.... you're off somewhere else... what's going on?".... Or you can say "You're present, but you're not HERE. What's going on?"
I've used those as the last-gasp for a chick. If it stays awkward, the date ends. I don't dig uncomfort. If she changes demeanor and/or talks to me about it - I re-calibrate and continue.
...and my favorite, is when a chick get's "tough"... You know the type... "You don't want to see me get angry...", the type that gives herself some 'Superhero' type-temper.... I always smile and say "Awww, aren't you cute.". If present, I'll pat her on the forehead as well.
I keep control the whole time. Any moment she THINKS she is in control is a planned subliminal process just to allow her that perception (Think about "Wrapped Around Your Finger" by the Police...).
"When in doubt, make her inner-5-year old come out"
RR
great points man.
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"say what's on your mind" is so fucking important. and it all ties in with the one we've been brainwashed with forever, "be yourself".
when you're telling her to fuck off, that's she's a whore, that her body is alright but she has nothing else going for her and is boring the crap out of you, that her big tits are not something you ever really liked or mixing up her name with another chick. without flinching, that's when you're actually being yourself.
and at that point, you can vistually get away with all this shit. anyday. anytime.