THE DEAD HONEST TRUTH ABOUT HOW TO PICK UP

it's been a while since i hung around you guys. But i recently had troubles with my main girl and i'm on my way back into pickup. I took some time for contemplation and i'm about to share you all there is to know about pickup in a very simple article. This is so simple you will be shocked. So for those of you who study pickup this will be the most honest piece of advice you will ever get. I will break down how to learn pickup. What it is to be a pua and why many of us do not get the succes they want. But most important i will tell you my latest discovery on how to get good fast. You will be surprised how rediculously simple this stuff is once you take this very simple peace of advice and try my technique. The day i started pickup, i wish someone would've told me what i'm about to tell you guys now

How to learn pick up.

1. Stop listening and start speaking
I have tried about everything pickup teaches these days. Before i came to the conclusions i'm about to tell you i tried; Direct game, indirect game, apocalypse opener, stelar style, being authentic, physical game, fools mate game, my personal game, cocky funny, RSD and many more. And this is where every pu student makes their first mistake. All methods/techniques have their guru's. Mystery (Magic trics and indirect games) Neil strauss (lifestyle/cube). Although all these guru's have quality's stop listening to them right now. If you have ever watched seminar video's you see a group of guys listening to the guru like compliant sheeps, laughing at his jokes and praising him for the tough stories he tells the crowd. Now ask yourself; "who's the one feeling the man of man after that seminar?", "who's being a better leader and who's becoming more of a follower?", "Who's more sure of himself after this event?", "Who just got a mental boost that makes him feel superior?"

The man that just became a better pua after this event is the speaker (guru) himself and not the guy that starts to try his techniques and methods. He will fail, because he doesn't project himself but the method, so he will start asking for more advice in order to chase the guru's identity but never get good results. Do not ever try to become that guru, you cannot become someone else.

Why is it that all the good guys are speakers. Even the good guys on this forum. Why are most of them here to brag and do they give but never ever take advice? It's like there are two groops, the advice givers (leaders) and the advice takers (followers) but nothing inbetween. Want to know why? It's because pickup is trusting on yourself! Those guys trust themselves and like to feel good about themselves. They feel even better and more superior when they give advice. When you give them reputation points or compliment them on their wild story's they become even more convinced that they are the shit and they own pickup like no other. For some it's their heroine and they return to the forum in the role of mpua more and more frequently just to keep that identity alive. It's that self image, that self love that get's them laid and they do everything to feel a leader and be superior.

So promise me and yourself that from now on you are the guru. You love yourself and you are the one who tell's people his ideas and thoughts. You are the guy that leads in conversation, because you started to think for yourself and have your own ideas. You do not look up to story tellers, you create your own story!

2. Outer game is bullshit
All you really need to work on is your inner game. This is not some abstract statement i'm delivering to you. I will define the exact mentality you need to pick up . And even show you how to get it fast. Listen closely because there is nothing about outer game that you need to know. No technique, no line, no method, no move will ever get you laid without solid inner game. In fact learning about this right mentality and solid inner game will make you act so creative that you will never have to remember any line, because you come with stuf that is 10 times more alfa/funy/sexy/calibrated than any guru could present to you.

But why, why did outer game advice make me a little better. Let me tell you. When that guru person is telling you what to do you picture yourself doing it. And what happens is that your brain starts to feel the emotions behind it. So when you go out and you say to yourself; "i'm going to say this and that" for a moment you're in the right emotional state and things go well. But then when you are out of your story's/moves and lines you die. You feel stuck and things get weird resulting in a fail. So now you think you need more advice, you need more lines, you need more knowledge and you'll spend the next week reading the forum and watching youtube in order to "get better". The guru describes to you how he acts once he is feeling the right emotions in his body, but he will never tell you how to feel those yourself.

Stop dude. Stop. Seriously stop remembering lines/moves and trust that what you have to tell to girls is more than sufficient. The emotions behind the line are what make you pimp and not the line itself. I'm going to tell you how to get that emotional state set. Once you have the mentality you'll notice you will act acording to all the pua rules automatically. Focus on being creative in stead of reproductive.

All you need to know about pickup.
Let me describe the exact mentality you need. Or in other words, once you get good this will be the way you think when you approach a girl. So guys let me tell you this; girls/women want "a man". Dead simple a man. Some guru's will tell you that girls dont like a nice guy and that you should be dominant. Let me tell you this; girls can fall for a nice man as well as a dominant man. But they will not screw a nice boy and they will also not screw a dominant boy. Girls do not care about your personality, they wan't you to be a man.

So what's the difference between a boy and a man. Well, i'd say this; "experience". So in other words girls want experience. Sounds obvious right? You're this harmless youthfull girl that is naturally weaker than every single guy. Would you go for a unexperienced young boy or would you go for a man with experience in life. That knows what he's doing and is rock solid in his emotions

I'm now going to give you a situation where you are the man, you lead and you have the experience so that you will see how your brain starts to pick up the right emotions. So picture your in a car with a bunch of people that are strange to the area and you are the only guy who knows the way. How do you act? You'd be calm right? You'd feel the leader when everyone asks you where to go . When the driver asks right or left you'd be the only one answering and you'd confidently say; "left". You would speak slow with a deep voice and not even feel the need to convey you are right. You just know you are.

Because "the man" has experience he's not that easilly impressed. Make 100 rounds in a rollercoaster, would you still walk out with that big surprised smile or would you be cool about it? In other words when you are in a converation with a girl and she compliments you would you get all exited like "wow thank you so much" and smile like this is something special, or would you say thank you and move the conversation further. And when a girl tells you she doesn't like you, would you tell her you don't like her either just to feel better about yourself? Would you say no i'm not i am very nice, like a child does? Or would you be a man and say; "uhh oke, what makes you feel you have to tell me this?". And the conversation moves further....

When you approach a girl you do not feel like something realy special is happening because this is the most normal thing in the world. You are just calm, being yourself. You do not get that tinkely feeling in your stomach like omg what to say next. You feel like the guy you always are not even trying to convince how cool/alfa/sexy you are. You never think, is this the best answere or what should i say next. No you only tell the girl something when you want to tell her something. If you do not want to answer her question because you think it's stupid, tell her you think it's stupid. You're not hasty when you talk you only say what you need to say and nothing more than that.

Since you are a man and you have experience, you don't chase all girls. No you have options. Girls will notice you're a man and chase you. And when they do you are still picky when you select a girl. Because you only want that fun sexy gorgeous intelegent girl to join your prescence. And if she's not what you are looking for, are you going to be rude to her? No man, shit happens, you just don't like her, now just be nice to her and keep an appropriate distance.

The way to get what you want in pick up.
And now i'm going to tell you how to get this mentality right now. Right fucking now and how to never lose it again. You already notice that when you read about this mentality you're brain picks up those emotions and gives you a shot of it. Now the technique i'm about to present will transform you into "a man". Not just a shot but transform you.

Ok are you ready? Hold on tight because here we go. Visualize your front door. Yes seriously, this is not a joke, visualize your front door. Now walk to your door, unlock it and open it. Now walk into your house and see there are 10 amazingly hot girls with short skirts and perfect bodies waiting for. You walk further and you say; "hi girls i'm home". synchronously they say; "hi ****, so nice you're home again"

And now remember this little line i'm about to tell you. This line is the only line you have to ever remember for the rest of your pickup existance. Here it is; "I have 10 fucking sexy girls at home waiting for me".

So the next time your in a bar and don't know how to act or what to say. Repeat this line in your head and remember yourself that you have 10 girls waiting at home. The next time you approach a girl and you have this tinkly feeling in your gut that locks you up or makes you talk fast. Tell yourself you have 10 girls at home and you will feel relaxed again. Repeat it in you're head. THIS IS YOU! YOU HAVE 10 AMAZINGLY HOT GIRLS WAITING FOR YOU AT HOME.

Convince yourself this is you and you will feel;
- Non needy
- Relaxed
- Like the man with experience
- Open to say and do whatever you want (creative/calibrated)
- More social
- Like the girl has to convince you to join your harem
- Unimpressed
- Calm and confident

So in every situation you feel you are losing it, repeat it in your mind again; "I HAVE 10 GIRLS AT HOME" Surrender to the mindset and feel the instant change in your body. And if you feel the emotions behind my line the only thing you have to do, is adjust your brain by remembering itself to hold that emotion in every situation. Finally it will become your default because your brain will recognise the results those emotions give you.

Notes
Do not understand me wrong and start to tell girls you have 10 hotty's at home. This line is to give you the right mentality. Do not make up story's. This is about you! Not about you convincing a girl this is you.

My experience
I've been pimping in the past, but the months of working at the uni and trouble with my ex made me AFC again. I went out chasing and convincing. I forgot that i was the man. So i sat down and described the entire mindset that made me succesfull in the past. I managed to squeeze everything into one sentence. I have 10 girls at home.

The next week i wen't out and at the start of the night i felft AFC again and i started to run around chasing. I was like this little boy being all impressed. But now i stopped myself and told myself; "i have 10 girls at home" and i became relaxed again. After one hour of adjusting my own behaviour and convincing myself girls were introducing themselves to me. I acted unimpressed and started to open sets. The tinkels came back but as i was speaking to these girls i repeated to myself again; "I have 10 girls at home" and i started to flow again. End of the night i was super creative because i allowed myself to express myself in every way i wanted. All the boundaries in my head were gone and you should take into acount here that i was sober.

So now this girl grabs my arm and tells me her girlfriend wants to go home with me. I talked with this girl and after some loose convo i told her to follow me to the wardrobe. I turned my back and walk away. She grabs my arm pulling me back. I cannot go home with you she tells me. Now i didn't even tell her about going home with me but she clearly wanted to. I calmly tell her to folow me. The rest is history

But what a comeback after this period of AFCness. Try my technique and write about your results. I would love to hear your experiences

Comments are more than welcome!!!! Start writing now

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HI

You first tell people to not just blindly follow what others say...then tell them what to do? More importantly, your idea is assbackwards. If anything, I would rather think there are ten other women OUT THERE waiting to meet me. That's, of course, ignoring the fact that you are somehow able to act as if the lie you tell yourself is true.

Every single day somebody new comes here claiming to have the one fundamental truth about pickup, and so far not one of those people has convinced me beyond my personal experience: try everything, adapt game to you, don't follow one person's mantra just because they say its the secret to game.

You can't act like you have ten girls at home unless you have ten phone numbers of girls who would come over :p good try, though. It was fairly well-written, so hopefully your next post makes more sense.

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These hos ain't loyal

Okay, first of all, telling them to not listen to anyone and then telling them what to do is non-sence, just like DJ said.

Then,
Really? You are the guru?

So you would advice a sexually inexperienced guy to give advice to other people? You would advice a shy give to help people with approach anxiety?

Really?

Don't get me wrong, you're somewhat right when you're saying being a guru is a confidence boost and bla bla bla, but the sad thing in life is that you have to learn by others before you can teach anything at all.

Every math teacher went to university. Every guru learned from someone better. Even if you look at the top rated athetes, they ALL have a coach that tell them what to do. And guess what, they ALL listen to them.

Of course, the guru will have a confidence boost at the end of the seminar, but I'm pretty damn sure it's more beneficial for those who were carefully listening to him in the long run. I'm putting 5 bucks on this.




Now, lets talk about the good guy v.s bad boy.

I completely disagree with you. Women like nice guy as much as bad boy? I wish that could be true (It's not).

First of all, what is your definition of a nice guy and a bad boy? DJ_Z made a pretty damn good post about the good guy controversy.

I personally see myself as a nice guy, but I'm not. That'll depend on your definition.



Women wants a man v.s a boy?

I still disagree. Women wants challenge. And this is basically why most girl prefer bad boys. THEY ARE CHALLENGING. Their challenge is to transform them into good guy. And guess what? If they manage to do that, they'll most likely get bored and leave him.

You can be an ass, you can be immature, you can be a boy, as long as you can calibrate everything you do. Sometimes you can act like a kid, fight for fun with her, tickle her, act like a kid, but you also need to be there to protect her when she needs you.

Let's take me for example, I went to the beach with my girl. I am not ashamed to say that I was being a damn kid most of the time. Picking up clams, trowing sand or seaweed at her (everything an annoying kid would do), but when I need to be her "man", I am. If anything happen, I'll be there to protect you.

I hope you see the controversy. A man can be a boy at times, and a boy can be a man at times.

At the end of the day, it's just about not being boring (i.e, being challenging).



And as for beginners who are reading this, don't stop taking advices from other, it'll pay off in the long run.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

My my my, where to start?

Seriously. Come on.

I can see some things you say has some truth to them and that they arent all wrong, but that is reading between the lines.

What pisses me off is not that you are wrong, you are totally correct if you speak about what works for you. What pisses me off is that there is one of you each and every month. Someone who thinks he has the answer to the great mysteries of life, the general truth applicable to all of us. Some self proclaimed guru giving advice in a highly arrogant manner claiming to know the "secret". High horses is something that comes to mind.
Why do you think there are different methods out there? Why do you think people know what to do but still dont get it right? Why is it not so simple as to see a natural do something and then just copy it exactly? Because people are different. People have different skills and weaknesses. Some people are good theoretically and some people are better at the practical part. Some people have AA, others dont.

There is no universal truth that will solve the PU problems for every PUA out there. People have different needs and most dont have the basis to just do whatever the "older" PUAs tell them to. That is why Mystery is so successful, he has dumbed it down to a level where even the most pathetic guy in the world can find a place to start and then go on from there in a way that follows his progress.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

First of all
I have the best intentions guys. I know that every time someone comes up with controversial advice you all jump on it. Shall i tell you why you do that? Because my ideas contradict your own belief systems. So basically all the guys getting mad at me do not need my advice because they already belief in what they do. So you have two options. You can fight all my ideas that contradict your belief system. Or you can think out of the box (your box) for a second. Drop your belief system and now look at mine for a sec. The choice is yours.

Second
I made my words big, very big. Want to know why? Because words like sectets, instant, succes and truth are the words that people want to hear. Thats why this topic is going to get quite some views as well as debate. I did write this text in a selling guru type of format on purpose. And yes it's contradicting to tell people not to listen to guru's next.

Third
I've mainly heard you guys complain about the form in which I have casted my advice. Relax dude, do not let those words scare you and react on the content.

Fourth
I'm not afraid to tell you guys that i've had more succes with women before i started to take advice. A while ago i started a journal on this forum (journey to 100 lays) where i wrote a field report every time i went out. succesfull or not i'd share it. Reading it back i see myself k-closing 7 beautyfull girls the first week and fingering one in a club the next. But the last week where i had stuffed my head full of theory i was so uncreative and uncalibrated that it is sad to read back. I started trusting in the lines and stopped trusting in myself.

I think i can say that the only thing a guy needs to skyrocket in pickup is;
- selftrust/selflove
- a healthy mindset
- and going out of course

The mindset i describe is called abundance mentality. And every guy out here that gets laid a lot had experienced that once your in abundance the tables just flip. From that point things are just easy. I descibe a way to feel abundance mentality at the moments you need it, untill you realy have abundance. Simple right?

fifth
About telling guys to speak up. Yes do, please do speak up guys. Stop being that listener and form your own ideas. You should look at this statement in a more general way. Be the guy that has idea's about politics, his own morals and ethics, way to live your life. Do not be afraid to be controversial ever in your life. Trust on yourself instead of following the ridgit ideas of others. do not try to follow existing paths and add to that path, but create a new path and people will follow you. This piece of advice is what makes every guru a guru. Not that he gets laid. Because there are tons of guys getting laid in the community. The guru has selftrust and selflove

sixth
I've been abcent in this community for a while and i have no interest in desturbing your rituals. I only ask to take this piece of advice serious and try my technique. If you did not try please do not critisize (yet). I have the best intentions

A little more advice would be this. Everytime you feel those butterfly's in your stomach say it to yourself. I have 10 girls at home. Notice how the butterfly's go away and you open up. If you repeat this for 1 hour (in my case) your in pimp mode and your bodylanguage will automatically be good as well as your verbal game and touching.

to MrMatt
Science showed us that girls do not care about personality at all. They only want strong male characteristics.
Sorry all the rest of your answers are in my text. pls read better

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HI

^ very good! You have the right idea!

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I just think that you are at the point where you get success in which is good enough for you, and this post is just about your game, which is fair enough I'm not going to hate on it. You have obviously did listen to other guys in the past, and I suspect your game is kinda an amalgamation of all of them to fit you, and that I believe that is where the majority of us end up after a lot of experience etc.
I view Pick-up in the same way I view politics, it's important to know all the theories (socialism, Liberalism, conservatism etc) as only then can you truly make a clear and rational decision on what works for you, so it is important to have these 'Gurus' to help facilitate that learning as then the learning curve is massively reduce than if you were just going out on your own.
Your style is revolutionary my friend, I see similarities in my game to yours, so I hope your ego isn't too big.

Regards
-Wilso

'Only in a truly free market of ideas, can the truth emerge' -Edmund Burke

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Looking for fellow PUAs in the Lincoln (UK).

Although there are a couple of contradictions in the OP, I think what he is trying to convey is that "People need to get off their a$$e$, get out there and learn it the way all of the so called Guru's did it".

My opinion is that he is using the "I have 10 Hot Girls at Home" as a way to get his mind focused rather than thinking "I don't have anything else to say" "What am I going to do to make them like me", etc...

You could just as easily say to yourself "I know everything there is about the shimpin buisness" and would have the same effect.

Peace...

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Crypto...
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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood

You are damn right!

the second you feel that "oh shit", "what to do next", "how can i make her like me more" butterfly's kindof feeling just say something to yourself.

And since i belief you want to say something that makes you proud of you/relaxt/confident/feel like i have nothing to lose/sexy/open up/express myself i like to say to myself i'm in abundance.

So for me "i have 10 girls at home" does all of that. But if you are forest and you can feel that way when you remind yourself you know everything about the shimpin buisness will do that. Its ok. But maybe telling yourself all the girls like you will help you more. Just pick a line that makes you feel a way that get you laid.

This little technique of telling yourself something at those crucial moments sounds kinda childish right? But seriously, do not underestimate, i wish someone told me about this, because it works so rediculously well. Give it a try and write about the experience.

You'd be amazed!

I do not want to tell you guys how to act. Because i believe every style/personality is sufficient in pickup as long as you feel the right way. I want to shape how you feel so you will act right yourself.
Thanks for your compliments first.

I Partially agree.
I like politics, and i like to know all the spectrums as well. But i have my own opinions that do not fit exactely into any of those frames (socialism/liberalism/etc.)

This is the exact same in pu. It's nice to know about all the theories and all the guru's. But it's impossible to become a copy of the guru.

In other words when you asociate a lot with socialism does that mean you cannot agree with any of the points of liberalism? Ofcourse you can! If you are honest no one is a 100% liberal or 100% communist. So do not try to fit into those frames. Do not try to be mystery or any other guy.

Start with yourself and see who's style you can associate with. Believe in yourself and what you do first and than it's fine to hobby around and accumulate funny pu shit.

Pickup knowledge is just hobby. Its nothing but dertermining what happens once you are good at pickup up women. However handing this theory over to a student will not make him an instant pua. Because he does not have the emotions that made the pua act that way.

Same counts for driving. I can tell you how to drive a car. In every single detail and leave nothing uncovered. However that does not make you a good driver. You will start to think "oh yes now i should do this, "oh no now i should do that" and because you are all in your head following the script you do not pay attention to the traffic situation and Boom, you just made a crash because you cannot calibrate. Your concious mind is just too slow to learn something complex as driving/pua from scipt.

So i reccomend you the skip the heavy theoretical part, start doing and start to belief that what you do will get you where you want to be. And my little technique can give your mind a shot of how it should emotionally configure itself.

If you feel the emotions behild my line the only thing you have to do is adjust your brain by remembering itself to hold that emotion in every situation. And finally it will become your default because it will recognise the results it gives you.

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HI

The Idea that all Women/girls want a Confidant Man, secure in his beliefs and unwavering in his goals, is the root of all PUA!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Your post in one sentence:

Do not be outcome oriented, when you talk to a girl do not worry if you lose her or not because you have plenty of options.

yeah thats correct mindset, not sure why did you have to write it intosuch a long post

ps: oh and also - be confident man:)

Hell yeah I 100% agree! and my 10 beautiful honeys at home

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You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

Hey it's that ALLstars guy. Wouldn't have known until you mentioned your old thread.

You are right that being a man and explaining what a man is can be a pretty straight forward and simple approach to successfully picking up women, however, what Ezo was trying to explain before he read too much into your words is that everything in pick up comes in context.

For example, for some, being a man is very easy to understand and do and can probably work very successfully, but for others, they can have a damaged inner game with limiting belief which makes it difficult for them to be "a man" in which case, a more structured approach may be better suited for them starting out.

The nice man vs bad boy man getting the same amount of women comes into context as well as mentioned above. For example, you can be very dominating, be a leader, funny, exciting, friendly and respectful and still be considered a nice man. The person I described is obviously attractive even though he's "nice" that's what I mean by context.

You can read a paragraph and have your understanding then another person can read the same thing and see something else. Of course, that's not your fault, it's just the world we live in. All you can do is best describe your views so that all sorts of people can try to understand it. You did a good enough job for me but everyone is different.

hahahahah
Just came out and illustrates my point!
Same politics metafore i used. Damn i hava a paralel to tyler.
Stop memorizing start thinking, you little choads



Tyler, only guru tough anough to tell the f***ing truth

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HI

Excellent video, Rsd lately has the best material out there.

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