| I see many threads about "getting back together with ex" and "turning my ex into a fuck buddy" and "just fucking my ex for revenge or because I haven't had any in the past months" So I just thought I'd write about how I handle my ex girlfriends.
First of all I don't handle them the same way... They are different in some ways and some circumstances may be different too so it's understandable.
I know a lot of people here are against keeping in touch with your ex to not be needy. That is in fact needy, if you're keeping in touch to get back together. I don't keep in touch if I have a good reason for that, or if I have no reason to keep in touch. For example one of my relationship ended because of the distance. We've got far apart both physically and emotionally, so there's no reason for me to contact her anymore. Another relationship ended because eventhough I'm cautious with things like this, she still turned out to be a lunatic there is a reason for me not to contact her ever again.
But what if you just can't avoid contact? Say, you live in the same dorm, go to the same school... How do I handle this? Well first of all, that's why when I get into a relationship I make sure that she is a type of girl that is VERY intelligent. By this I don't just mean above avarage... I mean that if we ever break up, there won't be any inconvenience about meeting or hanging out together if our social circle is common. If I'm mistaken with judging her level of intellect or sanity and I need to see her everyday I'm avoiding anything besides "hello" for my own good.
But to get to the point. If I keep in touch with the ex, it is still possible to fuck her. I don't necessarily want it, but hey... why not? As I've said earlier she should be intelligent, and sexually experienced enough to not make an occasional fun-time awkward. How do I do it? The key is that I don't treat her differently at all than I'd any other girl. I just simply ignore tha fact that she's an ex. I still flirt with her, I still hit her ass for fun, I hang out with her if she wants to, possibly even I can ask her to do something together if I want to. Everything is there... The attraction is obvious, the comfort is there since we probably know each other better than most people, so the only thing left is sexual escalation without being needy, and with emphasizing your clear intention of just fucking. Of course this might not work with every girl because there are some who have taboos for exes, or are generally not into these kinds of relationships, but you should know your ex better than I do so it's up to you to know if she will be in for it or not.
Now for getting back together. I don't think it's a good idea... I've never done it before, and I'm not planning on it. I'm not saying it's not gonna happen, but generally I'm against it. Relationships end for a reason. Getting back together is only an option when the reason ceases to exist, however that is extremely rare.
Lastly, "getting revenge" is extremely childish and a simple waste of energy. You'd better be using that energy to step up your game and find a chick who deserves you or do some actually productive thing in your life. If you can't move on without revenge, that is clearly an inner game issue. Also if you didn't have sex for a while, it's not the ex that is best to look at for that. You can fall for her again, and it's generally not a good idea to have a sexual relationship exclusively with your ex.
Oh and I've left the most important thing for the last.
DON'T EVEN CONCIDER FUCKING YOUR EX IF YOU'RE NOT OVER HER. NOT A GOOD IDEA!!...
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