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Hmm interesting. I can definitively stir the conversation and make her talk about herself. What if she wants to know about me? Should I still make her discuss herself as long as the vibe is positive? Other puas have said it's good if she asks about you cause she's interested to know more. Doesn't she get more attracted when she hears how awesome you are? This why it's confusing to me.
I know there should be times to let her talk but how important is the emphasis on this? I also wonder if I reveal too much I won't be as mysterious.
Her asking about you is a good thing, however! try to keep it simple, give her bits and pieces then get her talking about herself again. As Slywalker was saying, the more a woman talks about herself, and you appear to be listening, the better.
Women always complain about men not listening to them, and to be honest, it's hard for us to do so.
When she asks about you only give her enough about you to keep her intrigued, being mysterious is awesome to keep her interest. Women fucking love trying to figure you out.
Women love to live within their imaginations, just look how many women read romance novels and story books ( non fiction) in general.
Humor is HUGE! in any dating situation, from my experience, humor is on the top of the list of what women seek in a man. If you already have her physically attracted to you, humor will be your ultimate power. So when the conversation gets turned to you and she asks questions or you're prompted to talk or respond make it funny, make her smile and laugh.
Hopefully by the time it's your turn, you will know enough about her desires, interest, and wants that you can show her all your qualities that pertain to what you learned of her. In a sense it is a form of manipulation but really it is just being as efficient as possible. First dates and such have so many variables, and women can shut down so easy with a bad response or misunderstanding you.
Even if you are the wittiest and smoothest bastard alive, women can still miss-interpret your words easily as they generally have a wall up within the first encounter, it's best to let them get it all out, then go from there.
If you get a boring girl that doesn't like to talk a lot ( rare but possible) Don't be that guy that talks about himself to carry the conversation, unless she is asking you, stay away from it. For some reason there is a huge double standard when it comes to this. Women can't stand men that talk about themselves to much. If she is not a talker, simply keep her engaged, make her laugh, better to be a clown then actually talk about yourself to much. Save that for the 2nd/3rd encounter once the first date guard is down.
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