This is a new series that will be a few parts long covering my entire method of picking up women at night game type venues. I originally had planned on making this into a free mini ebook but I decided to post it up here instead. The following is the first part. Enjoy


Part 1 - The Realities Of Seduction

Part 1 – The Realities of Seduction
The Truth About Looks
A Wake Up Call
Its a Numbers Game
Getting Laid is Easy

The Truth About Looks

This is something most of the commercial "gurus" in the community don't like to talk about. Why should they? If they were to be honest with everyone they would loose a lot of what their after, your money.

The truth of the matter is that looks do matter. I'm sorry if that offends you or if you have been brainwashed by the "pua community" to not believe that but it is the truth. Telling a bunch of ugly guys that looks matter is a surefire way of loosing a lot of customers and is the reason why the majority of commercial "puas" lie. They want you to believe that its possible to get any girl (more on that later) no matter what you look like. Simply go up to a chick and say their lines and act a certain way and pretty soon your dick will be getting more action that a horny rock star at a concert full of coked out groupies.

The simple truth about looks is this: As long as the chick wouldn't be embarrassed to be seen with you in a sexual way in public, you look good enough. In other words, as long as your average looking you will be able to sleep with hot women consistently if you follow all the advice in this book.

What if you're not average looking? What if you're ugly and/or fat? Good new is, there is a good chance that even if you're ugly, you can become at least average looking.

If your fat then go on a diet and exercise. Its entirely possible to loose two pounds a week easily. You don't need to follow some complex diet all you have to do is eat less then you do now and get in some physical activity. It truly is that simple! You will be hungry for the first two weeks but after that your body will adjust and pretty soon you will shed that extra weight.

Hit the gym! No matter how ugly your face is, if you have a nice body (and no you don't have to look like a pro body builder) then many women will still consider you good looking.

An extremely important part of looking good is dressing good too. An ugly guy who dresses very stylish will make himself appear to be much better looking than he really is. How to dress is beyond the scope of this book but I will outline a few simple tips below:

Get a honest, stylish female friend to go shopping with you.
Go to a GOOD salon and tell a gay stylist to make your hair look sexy
HIT THE GYM!

Pretty soon you will develop an eye for what looks good on you and you will start dressing stylish and sexy with minimal effort on your part.

Another great thing to do is to sexy stereotype. Sexy Stereotyping basically refers to dressing like a certian niche of people. Rock stars, Rappers, Skaters, Business Men... ect.

Doing the sexy stereotype look is polarizing meaning that some woman's attraction will be instant but some women will hate the look you have and wont give you the time of day. Don't be afraid to experiment and see what works best for you but also keep in mind that the way you dress needs to be congruent to your personality. If you hate rap then obviously don't dress like a rapper.

Grooming is another import factor that will determine your overall attractiveness. The best advice is to find a style of facial hair that looks sexy on you. Again, don't be afraid to experiment and ask opinions about it. Bell well shaven and don't look like a homeless man on the streets of New York City and your good to go.

Take showers and make sure you smell nice. Smelling like a pile of shit will make seducing women many times harder than it has to be. This also includes your breath! Brush your teeth, floss, and use a tongue scraper. If your teeth are stained consider going to a dentist and having them whitened.

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Part 1 – The Realities of Seduction
The Truth About Looks
A Wake Up Call
Its a Numbers Game
Getting Laid is Easy

A Wake up Call

Besides the whole myth of looks not mattering there are other dumb myths within the community as well. A big myth is that after you learn "game" you will be able to get any girl you want. This, quite frankly, is BULLSHIT. Once again, this may piss you off or offend you but it is reality and you need to face it. No matter how good you get you will never be able to get any girl you want. The best seducers in the world get rejected more than most people of the world but they also ge laid more than most people in the world. Rejection is a constant reality when your out in the field meeting women. Get used to the idea.

What you have to realize is that rejection is a good thing. I know, that sounds like a pile of feel good shit but its true. Rejection saves you from wasting valuable time that can be used to meet more women. When you approach a women and she rejects you, you are learning that you and her share no chemistry and that its a lost cause anyways. This is great because it saves you time, time that you can use to meet other women who you do have chemistry with.

A big problem new guys face is that they cant tell the difference between rejection and resistance. Almost all women will give you resistance in some form or another. This can be a shit test or anything else to try and make you loose your calm, cool composure.

How can you tell the difference between rejection and resistance?

Rejection:

Telling you to fuck off
Walking away
Turning her back on you

Resistance:

Anything that isn't rejection

If you approach a woman and start sexually escalating by putting your arm around her and she peels your arm off, thats not rejection that resistance (and valuable feedback).

Thats just one example of resistance and I'm sure you can think of a lot more. You should expect to get resistance and a lot of it. As a matter of fact you should shoot to have your escalation attempts resisted 50% of the time. 50% is the perfect number. You don't want to be to far below that or to far above that.

I know it probably sounds crazy but this 50% rule is a great way to insure your not moving to slow. Almost all new guys escalate way to slow. The truth is, most women can be escalated on MUCH faster than most guys believe.

As I said before, strive to have your escalation attempts rejected 50% of the time. Much more than that and you need to slow down and re-calibrate things. Much less than that and you need to speed things up, be more bold and escalate faster.

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Part 1 – The Realities of Seduction
The Truth About Looks
A Wake Up Call
Its a Numbers Game
Getting Laid is Easy

Its A Numbers Game

As I said above, its not possible to get every women you approach. Cold approach pick up is a numbers game. Lucky for you its a numbers game where your numbers can improve. Thats the goal of this book, to help you improve your numbers!

As you approach women you will get rejected (and remember, rejection is a good thing). You will also encounter women who like you but for whatever reason will not go home with you or in some cases, let herself become more attracted to you. This could be for a multitude of reasons and trying to figure out why is unnecessary. It will only drive you crazy! I can tell you, however, the main reasons are that she just got out of a bad relationship or that she is taken/married. When you encounter a women who is taken by another man it is up to you and your morals to decide if you want to try and get her to cheat. How to accomplish that is beyond the scope of this book and will be in my next book on more advanced seduction subjects.

However, realize that often times a women telling you she has a boyfriend is just resistance and many times is actually single. A good rule of thumb is that when she brings up her BF, simply ignore it and either change the subject or go on with what you were saying. If she keeps bringing up a BF you need to take into consideration how she is bringing him up.

If she talks logically about her and her BF such as telling you about places they go and activities they do, shes often times just trying to make you jealous or playing hard to get.
If she talks about emotions and/or feelings the BF makes her feel then she has no interest in you and is simply spewing her feelings. Move on to the next girl.

Most of the time if a woman has an interest in you and she has a BF, she will simply keep quiet about him and may never even mention him.

Cold approach pick up is a numbers game and in order to save time and improve numbers you should focus your time and energy into avoiding time wasters. What I mean is that there will always be girls that trying to seduce will be a waste of valuabe time.

Time wasters include:

Women who are newly taken. This is often called the "honeymoon phase." Don't bother with these women.
Women who are blowing men out left and right. If you see women blowing a ton of men out before they even get a few words in, avoid her. She is just there for attention and validation.
Women who are more into dancing than into being social.

Not wasting time and energy with these girls will greatly improve your success. Sure, it is possible to sometimes sleep with women who fit the above categories but there will always be exceptions to the rule. Its simply not worth your time to try and create an exception to the rule. Simply avoid those women and focus on better opportunities.

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Part 1 – The Realities of Seduction
The Truth About Looks
A Wake Up Call
Its a Numbers Game
Getting Laid is Easy

Getting Laid Is Easy

It always baffles me when I hear about a guy who has been going out and has racked up hundreds, sometimes thousands, of approaches without getting more than a single lay or two. Sometimes they do all that and get no lays at all! A lot of men like to complain that getting laid is hard, which is complete crap.

As men they like to believe its hard in order to not hurt their ego. By accepting that getting laid is not some Herculean task they also have to accept they have been doing something extremely wrong all their sexless years. Many men's egos cant handle the blow this simple truth delivers to them.

If you are to ever get good with women you have to accept, right now, that getting laid with hot women is easy.

I'll break this truth down even further to demonstrate what I mean exactly. The following applies to any sort of night time party venues. Bars, Night Clubs, Concerts, House Parties, ect. I also assume that you have followed my previous advice and have taken care of your appearance.

About 10% of the women you meet will like you within the first seconds of the approach no matter what.

You could remind her of an ex-bf she has always loved.
Perhaps your the sexy stereotype of her fantasies. For example, she has a thing for bikers and you happen to be dressed as a biker stereotype.
Many, many other reasons.

Around 60% of the women in these places will be neutral to you. This is where "game" comes into play. The better at seduction you get, the more women from the 60% will turn into a "yes" instead of a "no." Make no mistake, pretty much every neutral women will eventually fall into a "yes I can see him as a possible sexual partner" or a "no, I cant imagine sleeping with him" category.

The final 30% will dislike you on the initial approach. This can be for whatever reason and ultimately its not of importance. Though it is possible to sometimes change a women in this categories mind, its not usually worth the effort. Simply move on to the next woman.

A big part of making getting laid a much easier process is to find your niche. Some guys do great in bars but horrible in night clubs. Other guys do great at concerts but not so good at house parties. This can be broken down even further: Different nights of the week at a same club will bring in different crowds, especially if different nights have different themes.

Basically, you have to do some experimenting and find which type of crowd you do best with. If pulling women at rock concerts always seems to come easier than pulling chicks on Techno night at the club then you should spend most of your time at the concerts.

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It's a great read, love to see the rest of it.

Some in depth info on how to turn interested girls into sexual partners would be nice. Approaching, getting numbers and k-closing is childsplay, but getting those girls home seems a lot harder and doesn't happen that often to me.

Even though I'm great in building sexual attraction, these girls just refuse. It's either me or the retarded girly girls I meet... I'd like to hear your story on how you handle things to seal the deal.

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Optimistic?

That will all be covered in Part 3 which will be put up tomorrow night. Part 2 will be up later.

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I do not care what people say, i love wm posts... Anyways, wm i do and i know you do too(your dtf post), use some reads and logistics as part of you numbers game, or not always??? I know sometimes i don't, but most of the time i do.. Wm Check your pm i got a question for you...

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i'm gonna have to put some time aside to read Jeffs newest warpedness.

@Skills, thanks man!

@Detox, lol. Thats a new one...

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I liked your take on woman with some interest (60% having some interest but not like the 10% obvious interest). I do tend to bail/eject earlier then is needed expecting to just get with the 10% higher interest chicks. This is likely the next big step I need to make myself, hanging in the set when shit isn't popping.

I had that problem for a long time too. Like reallllly bad. Once I got over it though my lay rate went way up. Keep pushing and force yourself to stay in "set" longer (within reason).

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Sounds exactly right, Ive even developed some more material to prevent any rationalizing for bogus ejecting. Really focus into turning those lukewarm responses into attraction.

I do not agree with the % stuff, there are too many variables and it varies from person to person, from city to city, i can go on and on and on for almost a page, for example when i went out in Miami it was so easy to pick up, compare to where i am now, anyways, the whole point is that there are variables... Then the easy part is true, after hundreds of failures, but it take a while to make it easy...I can do back tuck for example, it is a very easy move, but to make it easy takes a lot of babie steps, a lot of falls, and a lot of practice, so you can do it as second nature...

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This is a good point Skills. While the numbers will vary depending on the person, location, and other variables, the overarching message still holds true. Some women will like you right away, some will be neutral, and some will simply dislike you. Its best to screen for the ones who do like you, avoid the ones who don't and if you run into a girl in the middle, seek to move her to one of the other two categories as quickly as possible (preferably the "like" one) so that you don't waste time.

I probably should have left the actual numbers out because they are so subjective.

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The numbers are okay. These will serve as baselines when we're field testing so we know how to calibrate.

Scientifically though as in most things on this planet, Pareto's 80-20 Rule/Principle is generally accurate with some exceptions. There's a pattern to everything. We may not be able to explain why or how at the moment but patterns do exist to the very observant eye.

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