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Lately there has been a lot of talk about shunning traditional 'game' in favor of simply looking for women whose body language and other social cues indicate they are in the market for a one night stand and then being doggedly persistent in your pursuit of them.
Been a lot of talk about it because it makes sense. Lets say there are two hotties in a club. Once is just dancing and hanging with her group of friends, the other is checking you out, which one would you approach? I like to make my life efficient and easy so I would go for the one checking me.
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After all, what if you misread her cues? What if she really was just brushing that hair out of her eye and not trying to signal you to approach? What if she's looking around the club for a friend and not for a potential fuck buddy? What if she's wearing that low-cut shirt and those six-inch heels because she likes the attention that comes with them and not because she actually intends to go home with any of the guys she's attracted?
I wouldn't consider her touching her hair or her wearing her "club costume" to be signs of her being DTF. "Warm" eye contact (where she looks at just a bit longer than she would if she had no interest), continual eye contact, overexertions, giving you proximity, and open body language towards you are all pretty good cues for a woman who is interested in you. Most women who are interested in you will often display more than one of those signs.
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And if those who are experienced are so focused on finding the most 'dtf' woman in the club, who says they're not ignoring or overlooking someone who is equally 'dtf' but less obvious in their exhibition of it? And what if that girl happens to be cooler, freakier, hotter, smarter or just better than her more ostentatious counterpart?
You're probably saying, 'But 870, if I approach a girl like that, won't I have to work harder to win her affection?'
My answer? Maybe, but probably not. And even if you do, it will be be more rewarding than simply shuffling up to the object of your desire and staring at her until she jumps your bones (or whatever it is you numbers game guys do).
While you may have had a few people in mind when you wrote this I'm gonna take a guess that Stelar was front in center in your thoughts. Just because hes the most vocal "numbers game" person on the forum don't assume were all like him.
Personally, instead of blowing threw women like a tornado in an effort to find one that will go home with me in 30 seconds after just looking at her (slightly exaggerated but thats basically Stelar's style) I like to actually have fun and enjoy my night and the woman. So yes, I do look for "DTF" women but when I approach them I run pretty standard game. Have fun with them and share an adventure, create and emotional connection between the two of us, and cause a shit ton of sexual tension. Whatever type of game you run will be more efficient on women who displays some interest in you and thats why I look for these women.
Some guys seem to care more about having "game" then getting women. they somehow find that screening for these woman doesn't take any game once you approach them. It does but who cares. I don't care about game, i care about women. I'm not actually taking about you 870 but just thinking of what some others have said in the past.
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The simple truth is that all women are 'down to fuck.' They may not be in the mood this instant. They may not even know that's what they're after. But I assure you, Will Smith's words in Hitch are true ... no woman wakes up - or goes to a club - hoping she doesn't get swept off her feet.
I disagree that all women in a club are "DTF." Some women come to the club specifically to get fucked, most come to the club to unwind and have some fun but are open to it if they meet the right guy. Some women, however, only come for validation and are actually closed off from being seduced. I call this "auto rejection" because no matter how awesome you are, if you approach her you will not get anywhere because shes simply closed herself off mentally and emotionally from being seduced. If you spend a shit ton of time and effort on them it sometimes becomes possible but its simply not worth it when there are so many woman in a club.
In regards to pick up being a "numbers game" I feel that when I use that term people get the wrong idea. The picture a guy simply meeting a ton of women, not really having much game, and just blowing threw women until they find one that likes them.
Thats not what I mean by "numbers game" at all. the fact is, unless you fuck the first chick you approach every single time, your playing a numbers game.
Lets say you get to a club and approach the first hottie you see. You slide up and introduce yourself. For whatever reason she doesn't really like you and you sense that so you reject. Maybe your vibe was a bit off, perhaps you simply wasn't her type at all, doesn't matter.
You just laugh to yourself and go approach another hottie. She likes your boldness and thinks your cute but shes there with her BF who shes in love with. You talk with her for a minute until her BF comes and drags her off to the dance floor.
You then spot a hottie giving you eye contact so you go over and meet her. She responds warmly. You flirt with her and find she had good logistics. You talk a bit, keep the sexual tension high, and pull her out of the club 45 minutes later.
Took three approaches which makes it a numbers game. We all know that sometimes we just happen to be able to get the first chick we approach but usually not. Usually we have to approach more than one.
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