I don't know if this counts as a sticking point or in the midgame section. So I chose the lounge. Yeah!

So if one of the mods can decide where to put it, it's not really as if I can stop you.

Okay basically I don't know how to go about this really..

When I go out at night I meet a lot of girls. Not just me opening but I have a group of friends as well pulling girls so at the end of the night we all meet a lot of girls.

Now when I'm out usually near the end of the night I can simply say to the girl lets go to my place and she will come ,knowing what this implies, getting a same night lay is not that hard for me..

OKAY!

When I don't close a girl on the same night, I find it hard to close her after that. I always get their numbers(or bbm. In South Africa everyone has a fucking blackberry) so it's not really flaky, but more unrewarding. I usually spark attraction... ButI don't know if is enough to set me apart in one night(Please don't tell me to spark more attraction...This is fucking obvious) I know that every girl has at least 3 guys also trying to get in her pants.. I think my problem is that I don't really stand out way above the other guys in the amount of time I get to spark her interest.

Usually I can get a girl to hang out and we have fun... But I find escalation is harder for me then. I'm not afraid to kino... But sometimes it just feels awkward or weird and since I usually do everything that comes naturally I just don't kino and taking it further as I just have the feeling she will reject me and I've learned to trust my gut(although this might also be my ego saving me)

I also realised I am struggling like hell to make a real connection with the girl!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(!= emphasis. I NEED HELP WITH THIS). Sometimes I get them to open up but that isn't a lot.

So if anyone can help me with this... Basically making emotional,romantic and sexual connection with the girl and also going from some guy she knows to some guy she wants. Basically the whole fucking process in amazing detail. This is the main thing holding me back at the moment.

Why I think this happened is that in high school I was part of 'THE' group. I never really had to work for the girls and it was quite easy...I am so used to not doing anything to get the girls. But now there are a lot of guys competing for her attention, and not doing anything basically just takes you out of the race.

So any philanthropists out there willing to write me detailed essays of advice?

Usually I can get a girl to hang out and we have fun... But I find escalation is harder for me then. I'm not afraid to kino... But sometimes it just feels awkward or weird and since I usually do everything that comes naturally I just don't kino and taking it further as I just have the feeling she will reject me and I've learned to trust my gut(although this might also be my ego saving me)



That is your problem, also use more text game, i would focus on your text game, finally "lets go to my place" is kind of weak you have to find and excuse like very casual, "oh shit i got a show you something" hb what? don't worry is really cool is a surprise, when taking them home, you have to help them save face... I also like the time constrain like you got a wake up early... but dude if you escalate and turn them on right, that is all you really need, focus on arousal instead of being in a competition with other dudes, that is a terrible frame to have... the guy to ask about this is sexaddict..

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The getting to my place generally isn't the problem. What I mean by go to my place is just to illustrate that that usually is enough to get them to my place on a night out..