When I first entered the wonderful world of getting vagina 5 years ago, this was the first material I found while looking to become successful in life and with women. This is not the original document, it is reworded. If I am breaking some copy right laws, please remove.



1. Accept everything the way it is

* Don’t live in a pretend world


2. Take Responsibility

* Be someone that makes something happen
* Can’t control outside yourself


3. Go to work on yourself, not women

4. Evict your inner Wussy

5. Build a powerful self image that you love

6. Make your frame of reference inside

* External frame of reference – Worried what others think and if you’re pleasing them
* Inner frame of reference – Make your own decisions to make your life better


7. Stop making indentify meaning out of external events

* Don’t think “I’m a bad person” because someone said you are


8. Failure

* Failure is a made up thing, don’t apply meaning to failure, learn from it


9. Compare your progress and success only to yourself

* Everyone wants to be a winner
* 2 types of winning:

1. Achieving what you want
2. Beating someone else

* 2 is bad because you don’t get what you want
* Run your own race


10. Evolve constantly and consciously

* Always seek the next level
* “We’re all on the train tracks and the train is coming, most people look down and try to occupy themselves”
* You can’t evolve longer than your lifespan


11. See yourself as “high Status”

* Build yourself a high status self image


12. Stop Apologising when a apology is not required

13. Stop seeking approval

* Approval seekers - Does things so the social group will accept them
* You don’t need approval from others


14. Stop giving approval to get it

15. Stop trading status for approval

16. Untangle things like present and future

* Past, present and future
* Physical, emotional
* Sit down for 60 seconds and consider the short, medium and long term status
* Human are terrible at predicting how we’re going to feel in the future – Fear of something in the future


17. Surround yourself with success people

18. Know your purpose or path in life

* “Man, who chooses 2 rabbits, catches none”


19. Travel

* If you’re not regularly leaving your bubble you are limiting yourself, not much development


20. Everyday find your centre and then make yourself centre

* Make yourself the centre – Notice it’s all your reality
* Notice your breathing


21. Focus on the core skills

* Focus on core skills and techniques, rest will handle themselves


22. Accept and embrace transition anxiety

* Transition anxiety comes on when you start new things – Fear of looking stupid or incompetent


23. Teach others something great you’ve learnt

* Makes you learn what you teach much better


24. Never whine or complain

* Never criticise or complain about anything or anyone


25. Objectify your dreams so you control them

* Objectifying is to witness and understand what is happening


26. Become selfish so you can become generous

* Make yourself important first as main priority, this way you can fill your mind with useful things so you can give them back


27. Surround yourself with successful models and eliminate negative models

* Areas in life that are pulling you down – failure minding people
* Your sub-conscious absorbs negative stuff as well


28. Keep doing what works and stop doing what doesn’t

29. Maintain your composer

30. Prove to yourself over and over that you can cope with “rejection”

* Realise you’re ok
* Realise them rejecting you does not need to effect you


31. Learn how to always enjoy yourself

* You are responsible for generating your own focus of reality


32. Learn to sacrifice short term gratification for long term gratification

33. Value yourself and your time more than any woman

34. Develop your awareness

* Notice everything you see


35. Learn to control your emotions

* Emotions are miracles – Control motivation, learning ability – Everything
* Emotions are the most addictive chemicals in the universe


36. Become unbelievable honest and direct when needed to

* More you do it the more people will respect you and value you as a high status person
* Tell them right or wrong i their doing something


37. Learn to identify social status by communication and body language instantly

* A high status person is looking away while talking


38. Become an expert on your own self-deception

39. Balance learning, practicing and doing

40. Constantly improve yourself

* You’re not done when you achieve something


41. Stop projecting your strengths and weaknesses on to others

* Characteristics you hate in a person are what you hate in yourself – What you like in others is also what you like in yourself


42. Eliminate deconstructive habits

* Notice negative habits before they happen then change their directions to positive


43. Recognise when you’re losing control over yourself and just stop

44. Make your territory yours

* We don’t really get a chance to use our territorial instinct so we tend to use it in a negative way
* If someone says something or is annoying tell them to leave


45. Lead

* Definition of leadership isn’t controlling people and stopping them screwing up, it is to find effective people and organise them
* Study leading and leadership
* Leaders naturally attract women


46. Stop idealising women when you interact with them

* Stop making her into the perfect woman with no flaws


47. Stop idealising relationships

* A relationship isn’t perfect and won’t make other areas of your life perfect


48. Let her problems be her problems

* Lets her mature better
* Her problems aren’t your problems – She made them
* If you help sort out her problems you are robbing them from their opportunity to mature


49. Don’t try to control her by giving money

* If you give gifts etc and she doesn’t appreciate them, you will resent her and it will be bad
* If you try to control a woman, you have a problem in yourself to sort out


50. Stop trying to impress women

51. As you learn pay constant detail to your hygiene, dress and posture and all details

* Keep doing it until it becomes a habit
* Respect yourself and constantly look at your details


52. Eliminate nervous tics and unconscious behaviours

53. Make yourself into the most interesting person a woman has ever met

* Look into the world and see what are the most interesting things in the world – on average, not what you think
* Learn how to tell stories


54. Setup your life so you are constantly meeting interesting, attractive, available women automatically

* How could you setup your life to meet them automatically?


55. Behave as if you have a 100 women calling you every day

* How would you act if 100 women were calling you daily?


56. Don’t be boring or predictable

* Don’t let other people guess what is going to happen
* Boredom – When nothing interesting is happening around you


57. Learn how to tell an interesting story about anything

* Interesting stories are like operas


58. Make friends with attractive women by becoming a guy women want to be around

* Have them the same as the women you’d like to attract


59. Learn how to turn a woman on mentally, emotionally and physically

60. Learn the entire mating process of humans

61. Learn how to read situations before acting

62. Tease in every way

* Don’t tease in a mean way
* Don’t tease predictably
* Give something and take away


63. Be honest, authentic with women at all times

64. Set a boundary as soon as possible

* “Don’t touch me” – Says your aware what’s going on
* If she does something that isn’t acceptable tell her to stop
* Let women know you are an aware individual


65. Look past the content to see the true meaning of what’s going on

66. Engage her emotions and her body, not so much her mind

* Using logic to turn her on is bad


67. Turn everything into an adventure

* Take a woman to run errands even if you’ve just met her


68. Convince yourself that what is going to happen is going to be unbelievably fun and convince her of it

* Have fun always


69. Always act and communicate to leave her wanting more

* What to do – End everything she is enjoying and end it on an up note


70. When you hit a challenge or setback, go back to the basics

* Do not act out of desperation


71. When you find yourself losing power with a woman step back and get her to come to you

* When you think the relationship is going to fail, stop the relationship – End on good terms, you end it


72. Always have 3 female friends around you who are similar to the ones you’d like to meet

* Get 3 female friends


73. When you find something she really likes, stop, pull back until she really wants it

74. Learn how to make conversations interesting for the woman

* Listen to conversations women have
* They don’t want a male girl-friend


75. Learn what it is to be a “renaissance man” then become one

* Renaissance the time period

This is a check list. If you do not know the means of accomplishing these things, do some fucking research. If you need clarification, I will do my best to explain.

Definitely the best list I've seen. Everything on there I either practice or aim to in the future.

Big respect SmoothOp! Do you have any particular resources you've found useful in putting into practice that list?

Also, could you clarify the following perhaps with a couple of brief examples?

14. Stop giving approval to get it

15. Stop trading status for approval

Cheers mate

"Do some fucking research?"

If you're not going to tell people how to go about acquiring these traits then this entire post amounts to nothing.

Everybody has heard this stuff, improve it by being more concrete in your newbie guide - remember it is for NEWBIES - and ways to go about it.

If you want to genuinely help, guide and improve others lives.

This.

Solid list, but not really a 'newbie guide' if the answer to learning is "do some fucking research"

Most points are really straight forward... It isn't really that hard to understand.

14. This is when men put up with bullshit from women hoping that in return the women will like them. Typical AFC behaviour. Example: Going on date while women sits on the phone texting other guys. The AFC might pretend it's fine or basically approve of the behaviour.

15. This would mean lowering your own status to gain a women's, boss's, friend's approval. Example - acting as a taxi cab for a girl you met because you fear she/he may not like you if you don't do as asked. Doing rediculous hated tasks for your boss, ect..
It was a joke but not really, some points are very straight foward and I am not a doctor or theripist. I said if you have questions, I will clarify but I cannot answer how to not "24. Never whine or complain" for people.

I will try to answer any questions you have, but a lot of this stuff will take some serious thinking on your own. It's meant to guide people in the right direction, to realize faults and to make moves to fix them.

I could further explain every point, it would take me a very long time and I suck as transfering thought to paper. Let's leave it at questions for now

Thanks for the clarification on my questions!

Do you have any good resources you use in the way of books or other material? Outside of pickup I find some of Stephen Covey and Tony Robbins' material useful.

Just wondering if there are any sources I'm missing out on? As your list fits with my outlook almost perfectly.

I really enjoy self help books like you mention strickly for the human psychology. I'm currently making my way through "Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life". It has interesting concepts but pretty repetitive.

The Red Queen is an interesting book as well. I am at work right now and can't remember what's in my library at home. I will pm some other good reads and material I have studied.

I also really enjoyed the David DeAngelo product
-Man Transformation

Its a video product that has a shit load of interesting topics outside of pick up. If you have access to a good torrent site then ..........

I always am open for some good read suggestions if you have any!

Yeah I've heard 'The Red Queen' mentioned a lot so will definitely check that out when I have a chance.

The product I really want to try at some stage is Tyler Durden's 'Blueprint', I think it's called. Heard nothing but good things about it.

Richard Dawkins' 'The Selfish Gene' is a good one for understanding the human species.

Asides from Tony Robbins I really don't have that many self-development books. Definitely open to finding new ones.

Save The Blueprint till you think you've reached your limit. Its insanely advanced and nothing will make any sense till you have lots of field experience.

A lot of it is geared towards club sarging but it can relate to almost anything (in life not just pick up). And yes w/e you THINK you expect, it'll probably be about 10x as good!