So valentines day is almost around the corner, everyone is going to get your significant other something while you are lonely and bitter. Thing is you believe you aren't meant to be loved, maybe you think the right one has yet to come along, maybe you are just flat out lonely and think you need some love. If you are happy being lonely, disregard this topic, if not, then pay attention.

Who the f*ck are you?

I am a former teenage virgin, a guy who has been through the misery of being a loner in high school (though my high school rarely had enough people in it so it wasn't as bad). A guy who has gone through valentines day after valentines day being lonely in public while others enjoyed their love. A guy who has had to sit through movies alone while other couples were kissing and making out. Now I am the guy who turned it all around. Now you know me, I have been in your shoes before, now I give you advice.

Why you are in your situation.

Instead of telling you that you are a shy p*ssy, I will actually tell you the reality. Unfortunately, some guys have it easier than others, not by genetics but by situation. If you are home schooled throughout your childhood, that decreases your chance of getting a lot of numbers and fooling around with girls. If you go to a small college or live at home while going to college, that decreases your chances. The most successful people find a way to work around their circumstances no matter how difficult they are.

Chances are that something happened to you throughout life which impacted how you present yourself to others. And there is a pretty good chance your area is limiting. I have seen it to be the case often. And lastly such limitations hurt your attitude. Which I will give you suggestions on how to improve.

And now for the suggestions, top 5 things you should do to improve your situation.

1. If you are in your 20s and still living with mom and dad, MOVE OUT. Period, if you living at home, bringing girls over can become tougher than living on your own. Sure living on your own will be hard but you will develop mentally, be more active, be more responsible as you have your own duties, and it will be less awkward taking a girl home and making out with her while your parents are not that far away.

2. Give up your idea of the "perfect" girl. Seriously, it makes me mad when guys think they will find that one woman who is a virgin, really good looking, and has a great personality. Doesn't exist, even if there are some out there, they are not saving themselves up for you. If you are attracted to a girl, GO FOR IT! Again, being independent does help a lot in terms of getting a girl but you can do it even if you live with your parents.

3. WORK ON YOURSELF. PUA and "game" are good, but make it easier for yourself. Seriously, MOST WOMEN will not date a fat, smelly, and unkept guy, just won't happen. Hit the gym, try new fashion clothing, shower DAILY, and keep yourself clean, it will only help and make it easier on you.

4. Get a SOCIAL LIFE first. Make friends, many friends. Friends will be very helpful in hooking you up. I have managed to meet girls just through my friends. IF A girl friendzones you, keep it that way, she can hook you up with some girls she may know.

5. Cut off all connection from internet forums, most of the time you will be associating with people who don't have much experience with being players or whatever themselves. There is no amount of PUA, reading, or shortcuts which will beat experience. Experience is when you have learned to take a rejection and suck it up and move on with it.

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Great advice man!! Experience can never be improvised.

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Amen to that

(Although for me, february 14th is just another tuesday.. F-ing commercialism)

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Wow, reading this post made me realise I'm half the way there as I've already done most of things that's been suggested. I can already smell those hot girls round the corner But I can't bring myself to stop going on internet forums

Oh, and I couldn't really care less about it being valentine's day I haven't seen many couples today anyways (Funnily enough though it used to be the sort of thing that bothered me, seeing couples snogging on park benches etc. I think that that is just the kinda 'loser mentality' that the OP is aimed at).

Yo my friend is a major AFC. Even girls smell that shit from a mile away. My buddies gf was like "Why is AFC so serious? I think he needs to get laid." I'm sure he thought he was being an alpha male because we told him to come to a bar with us, and we could tell he was scared. So he answered our question with with a question, "I don't drink so why should I?" Neither do I faggot! So we dragged him out there and he's a fucking mute! What a bitch. I'm nervous as fuck too but I opened, got rejected, and kept it moving. I'm grinding with a girl, tried making out with her but she gave me the cheek. Her friend was just standing there by herself so I looked at AFC and grabbed his ass and threw him behind her because I knew he wouldn't do shit. So they grinded for a little bit and that's all he did!

This bitch is the biggest bitch on the face of the earth. I'm tired of being nice too him because he doesn't do shit. This faggot was the one that TOLD ME about pick up but somehow I lost my v-card first. C'mon homie! I have to literally force him to open. Like physical force. I have to push him towards a girl or grab him and throw him behind a girl to start dancing, like mentioned above.

What do you do with these kind of AFC's. He doesn't even admit he's a fucking pussy which he needs to do before moving on to the next step.

the social life is the hardest unfortunately. and i don't want this one confident guy to know my situation because then he would look down on me. he's a guy i'm interacting with on facebook. also, the gym, i plan on hitting the gym but i don't have the money to sign up right now.

Who says you need a gym mate?

http://beastskills.com/

how do i get involved in that?

Build up slowly, take the advice he gives?

You don't have to do every exercise, just make sure you hit the core muscle groups (core, back, legs, upper body).

Brace yourselves...

Paramount is giving advice now...

Alot of these points are good.

Some people have no experience talking to women and just choke up.

Luckily I am able to have had a super-hoy girlfriend as a kid, which if never happened, I wouldnt beable to talk to the super hot babes that I have complete confidence in talking too today

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but i mean how do i get involved in what he showed in that link. i mean what equipment do i need, and if i had a set of weights on my own i wouldnt join the gym but i don't.

Ah you mean the pull-up? That's tricky: a pull-up bar is cheap and should fit in your bathroom door/whatever. Otherwise before I had a pull-up bar I used to find the most convenient tree branch If you have strong fingers like me, you can probably do a pull up on the door frame. Heck only reason I stopped using the door frame was because I got paranoid about hurting my hands but I don't think that's really such an issue.

As for weights: free weights are amazing but expensive. I personally used to be into powerlifting, so in my biased opinion free weights are much better than machines. All you need is an old fashioned barbell, squat rack and bench

But those bodyweight exercises are pretty bad ass and will get you in good shape, so you don't necessarily need weights unless you are working up to adonis styled perfection