As I'm walking back to my car tonight, I see a girl I'm interested in being shown a car by some guy.

It's a brand new Mercedes C-class. This kid just got the car and is blatantly showing off. Worst thing is that he's two years younger than me, and in his final year of high school.

She's sitting in the driver's seat, looking really impressed. It's like a punch in the stomach. How am I supposed to compete with that?

I drive a 1995 VW Golf. It's old, but I keep it in pristine condition. It doesn't turn heads though. A friend of mine has a new Mini Cooper and he pulls girls just by showing them his key.

I find it so unfair... I have to work so hard to get girls interested. I mean I've spent about 7 months working on myself. I go to the gym everyday, I read the posts on this board religiously, I make use of all the principles, & I even keep a journal of all my interactions so I can track my progress.

My inner game has come on in leaps and bounds. I'm confident in approaches and great to talk to in social situations. I'm the guy everyone wants to be around. I make every situation fun. I'm the one who organizes events and get-togethers with my group of friends. My body language is great.

I have my off days, but who doesn't. I'm no PUA yet, that I'll admit.

I just can't stand the fact that some little punk immediately gets a higher social value than me because mommy and daddy bought him a new car.

I'm really negative now, and that's a shame because the interactions I had with the girl prior to this were quite successful.

I don't want to be defined by my possessions. I want people to like me for my personality. Is that so unrealistic?

Your attitude is not unexpected. But, if it makes you feel any better, rich kid is never going to get to PUA level, because he will always use his money as a crutch. He'll get through high school awesome since he can buy everyone alcohol. In college, he'll do well for himself. Then in clubs... haha, he's screwed. Any guy flashing the dollar bills doesn't build attraction that way. And he's relied on that his whole life.

Keep your chin up.

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Just because she's impressed doesn't mean she's going to pounce on his wang - if anything she'll just use him. Or do girls actually get with guys because of cars in America? (assuming you live there)

Hey buddy, it does not mean a damn thing, after all real attraction is not a dollar contest, women would be very impress to have and feel dollars notes, but when its comes to feelings and being swept off their feet dollar is not one of them.
I drive a 1993 Golf too and I get laid by women who are being hunted by guys with porch jeep, porch cayenne, ferrari, mercedes, audi etc. your frame, inner game and confidence is what count, DHVing with material stuff should not be your main priority. The guy may have every material shits but may not be sexual enough to attract a pussy.

This reminds me sometime ago, a rich boy whom his target was all over me once confronted me that (very AFC) "my paycheck is not fat enough to take care of the girl I'm trying to lay", I replied that " my bed skill is experience enough to get her to take care of me with his bank account", he was furious and told the girl what I said, still she was still over me and got laid.

Man, dont let such thinking discourage u, just be who u are and remain sexual. game on.

best of luck.

Thanks, that does make me feel better.
I actually live in South Africa. Being rich and having a nice car certainly does impress girls yes.
As I said in my original post, I don't want to be defined by material possessions. However, it annoys me that other people use it to their advantage. I've heard it so many times... "I'll take you for a spin in my car... etc".

The guy closes and ends up dating the most attractive girls because he had a little personality and a whole lot of money.

First watch this:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5ZRflz-93JA[/youtube]

Then read this:

http://www.girlsaskguys.com/Articles/Fl ... ed-it.html



Seriously dude why are you making a big fuss over girls that are materialistic and the guys using this to their advantage? Girls that are materialistic are shallow and only good for a one night stand and be toss aside. They are not relationship material at all.

try selling your gold and getting a motorcycle.

Motorcycles are bad ass and cheap.

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+1

Money is their drawback, whilst your a true man.

Money is what they fall back on, it's their comfort, when friends, family, women ditch them, fall back to money, fuck that.

He is the one who will be taken advantage of, if I were you keep doing what your doing, lead a normal life, drive your 95 Golf, I've got a 98 model with some bumper damage but fuck it, a car is just to get me work and back not for women, it's for me, and you rely on yourself and the people who are true to you.

Keep being yourself man, head up, and when a woman does this shit, runs to someone with dough, it tells me, get away from her, her loss, I don't want her.

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Nicely said

If the rich boy's also got game then you might have a problem there. But i've found that most of them don't and they tend to rely on their money to get laid. Thus you find that they can't get a girl to be so attracted to them that she doesn't have her eyes elsewhere. She has to stray, into your arms if you can get her. So if you're willing to share, it's all good. But you can try you hand at a takeover.

Agreed, but it goes beyond game, it goes into being a natural alpha male kind of person. Be the best you can be I say, if these bitches want money, let them have as much as they want, just not yours.

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Thanks for the links, it helps put it into perspective.
Very nicely put. It makes me feel a whole lot better. Thanks.


Just as a side not I'd like to mention that I never let these feelings manifest themselves in my outer game. As far as the girl knows, I couldn't care less about this type of thing. It is completely an inner turmoil that I seem to have, but I don't let it show.

I've sat in plenty of nice cars, usually of AFCs who expected me to slather all over their dick just because they pull up in a Ferrari. I order the lobster, and then I stopped return their phone calls. Why? Because they didn't challenge me. They thought that them being rich was enough.

Instead I dated the smart, cocky guy who made me laugh and called me on my bullshit. He didn't even have a car. But he was a challenge, and interesting, and we had a great time together. Oh and the sex was amazing.

Of course all things being equal, I'll take the guy with the Mercedes. All things being equal, I'm sure you'd take the one who looks like Jessica Alba. But all things are usually inequal. And rich guys have nothing on a confident man who knows what he wants.

If they are rich you can wipe them from their women by simply going up to them and saying...

"wow I live your car, mines not so great but at least I have one right? How much did mummy and daddy pay for it?"

Embarrass him, make the girl laugh then say something to the girl about going with you to the club or bar or whatever

Actually, money does help.

I mean, it is sort of a social status, it shows that you may be a fitting partner that can make her life easier...

Good looks help too.

However, those two components doesnt raise your value more than what you could do with a two minute DHV story.

I dont drive. I dont need to. I never ever heard that a girl would care. If she does then tough luck. Instead of getting a car, build up your game. It is cheaper and will get you further in life.

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