If there is one thing that constantly amazes me with men in general is the way the majority walk around ASSUMING no women are interested in them. I honestly can't imagine what this must be like, depressing to say the least. The good news though, this majority are simply blind to the obvious; well guess what - This post is going to be your new glasses!

Sitting in the gym today - I was hot, sweaty and hadn't bothered sorting out my hair! When I go to the gym, its to work out; end of. Regardless, a cute girl walked in and stepped right up to the treadmill facing me and started running. After a few seconds, she made eye contact with me - I smirked and she quickly looked away. Then, less than 10seconds later - she adjusted her hair and glanced back to see if I was still looking.

Now, that isn't much - but it IS something. As anyone who knows anything about body language will tell you, there were two little signs she was interested in me on SOME level:
1) The eye contact and glance back to check I was still looking
2) The hair adjustment - trying to look the best she could

Things like the above situation happen ALL the time. Literally hundreds of situations just like that - small indicators that women are interested in me.

So - why am I telling you this? BECAUSE YOU SHOULD BE NOTICING THIS TOO!

Little glances, hair fiddles, blushes, smirks etc etc etc (too many to list - google IOI's). These are ALL signs said person doesn't find you repulsive; they may even find you attractive!

Sure, some of these actions may just be innocent - they may be friendly or perhaps doing them out of habit. Regardless, a large chunk will be from attraction and irrespective of how you act upon these situations you can feel good knowing SOMEONE JUST FOUND YOU HOT!

Now, get out there and start observing people (don't stare, creepy isn't cool ) and realise it feels good to be DESIRED!

/Madals

I never realized this until I looked up ways to boost your confidence one day a few years back. One of the suggestions was to tilt your head up and never look down because the body language displays insecurity. Ever since then, I've noticed A LOT more women who try to catch my attention by looking at me. And I reply by holding that eye contact and smile. Can't really notice who's looking at you when you're looking at the ground, no?

This works almost anywhere you go. The gym, the mall, supermarket, you name it.

I've never had a problem triggering attraction in these ho's. The trouble has always been in building off that attraction.

It's easy for me to talk myself out of an approach with those kinds of signs.

What are a few of the classic, near-guarantees? So far I'm seeing if she brushes her hair, you are clear, and if she looks at you again after making eye contact, you are in the clear. I'd rather just keep approaching rather than waiting for a green light, but it wouldn't hurt to know who's already at least curious to meet me as I walk into a room.

What do you mean talk yourself out of an approach? If you see these signs then it just means she is probably attracted to you. If you DON'T see these signs, still go over and say hi! You can always get her attracted to you even if she wasn't initially!

Amen! The best IOI for DJ_Z: her not telling you to fuck yourself when you start talking to her. Read up on AA, there's plenty of material. Go out and observe what Madals wrote above. Walk up to strangers in bars and strike up a chat. You'll notice that doing the same with hot women is no different. I've had countless approaches that went nowhere, but I cannot remember a single time where the girl wouldn't at least entertain a quick chat. Don't you want to find out which girls will have you? Not curious at all? They'll all give you a chance to find out...

You will never know until you engage.

And by this I mean that some of these IOI's are instinctual. If a girl thinks that the Hunchback of Notre Dame is checking her out, she'll still flip her hair and 'subconsciously' make her self more presentable. No girl wants to look ugly to anybody. Every girl wants to feel attractive to EVERYBODY. That's the just way it goes.

Now once you engage, that's another matter. If you are closing the physical gap, and she's still tossing IOI's, this is a good sign. If she's still looking at you as you're closing the gap this is a good sign. If you're chatting with her and she adds the IOI's instead of losing them, game over(meaning she's already in the sack). . . .but you've got to approach and open as opposed to the fly-by.