| Ive recently moved to London from up North and my game for the past month has gone to pot because of this whole different setting and starting up a new life. This unique oppertunity has allowed me to rediscover what made gaming girls easier for me as Im trying to reach the level of what I was use to.
The most important part by far is comfort and how comfortable you are with yourself because at the end of the day your level of comfort is equivelant to your confidence level. You need to start asking yourself questions and getting to the route of anything inhibitory such as .....Are you comfortable with the way you look ? can you be chucked into any socail situation and still be feeling as comfortable as you would in your own home having a shit ? Are you bothered by what other people think of you ? What makes you uncomfortable? Is it hot girls ? Is it talking to strangers in general ? why ? what can i do about that etc? Before you can proceed with any sort of improvements in your game you need to be comfortable with who you are and what your about and you should always be working on making yourself feel even more comfortable , to the extent that you could walk down the road naked without a care in the world. whether its using nlp to anchor yourself to a feeling of reduced anxiety or throwing yourself into situations that you dont feel comfortable in to the point were their no big deal anymore, its just got to be done !
Id say the ability to make your own entertainment and be unphased by how other people react to it is the next most important as this opens a lot of doors, it makes making situational openers easier ( combined with high levels of comfort), it allows you to have spontaneous conversations and you feel happy the majority of the time.What I mean by this is, are you the type of person that laughs randomly in public when a funny memory pops into your head ? Will you laugh openly in public on your own if you see a funny situation ? How do you view the world, what observations do you make of the current enviroment ( definatley got to learn to be more observational !) Can you entertain yourself even at the expense of others ? ( by this i mean will you give strangers you have low levels of comfort light humoured banter? without a care of what their reaction is as long as it entertains yourself) It all adds up and falls into pieces.
From comfort and the ability to entertain myself by being observant and being able to give a little light humoured banter I can create openers and have a conversation flowing in minutes.
E.g. Me on a bus today
Me : Aha ! Oh my god! did you see that ? ( pointing at some little kid who got their scooter stuck on a speed bump)
Girl : Yeah haha !
Me : aaa thats too funny
Girl : Yeah I know !
Me : Aaaaa poor kid , I feel mean now ......
Girl : ...... yeah I know ..........
Me :........ actually no its still pretty funny haha
Girl : I feel mean now
Me : So you should poor kid
Girl : you cant say anything you were laughing at him also
Me : Oh I know I'll admit im an ass whole , Its just I expected a bit more from someone like you ........etc etc .
There I was comfortable enough to open that girl and brought her attention to a situation i found funny , whether or not she responded to my question, I wasnt botherd because I was still creating my own entertainment and i became un phased by the outcome.
Ive been in at points where conversation doesnt flow that smooth but its all experience and picking up by how people react positvely or negatively to the things i say and learn via that ( classical learning theory).
Until youve reached them two main places of being able to be comfortable anywhere and being able to create your own entertainment, dont even try and pick up girls.
Recap
Comfort !Entertain yourself, Be unphased by out comes, be observational, give banter, be happy and enjoy yourself
Last random point (more of a small rant) stop going for the n-close of a night time guys go for the fricken k-close and f-close before the n-close I see too many people being over the moon with numbers, they're nothing unless collected of a day time or after a k-close !
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