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Fin, I'll address both of your statements, starting with Style. Style is currently single, and I know this because a friend of mine actually met him a few weeks ago when Style was traveling to New York.
Now to your comment about "common misconception". Its not a common misconception, its a common mentality that many people who are in the community possess. Because, they don't know how to balance being alpha and being a caring person. I will agree to the extent that there are guys who know the difference, but most new guys don't. Because of the precepts they are taught, they don't understand what it means to be a confident man.
In my opinion the real misconception here is that of being a "alpha male". It takes certain innate qualities to be a true alpha male. All of the AMOGing and "alpha" techinques aren't the qualities. They are the things true alphas do naturally that anyone can immulate. The major goal is to be a confident comfortable person, rather than a "alpha male". The two are mutually exclusive.
An example of a true alpha male is leadership. Being able to effectively lead people is a quality that you are born with, not something you can just learn. There are ways to immulate this trait, but to be a leader it must be innate.
1. Socially, you don't get natural alpha's. Your taught how to act in society, whether you grow up to act with an alpha mindset is entirely up to how you were raised, and what you were TAUGHT. And we lare developing cognitively, socially and emotionally, all the time. Even the naturals had to learn how to interact with society.
2. Style's single, eh? Fair enough, although their are many PUA's in LTR I am one of them, granted it's with 3 different girls and they are "Open" relationships. But I know them deep down, they aren't statistics or robots that are being manipulated, I've evolved, women aren't a "game", they're humans. Many of the succesful PUA's on this forum think that way.
3. Wha? A while ago everyone was, "aww man monogamy is for losers who wants an LTR they are relationships created by a modern society so entrap men!!!"
Now it's all "man no stings attatched sex is for immature kids who watch to many reality dating shows!!!"
Balance, anyone... No..... have we forgotten about it?
4. Thier is no perfect relationship or effecient relationship, however you kid yourself, their is NO set way for running the show.
Sleep with every girl in town if it makes you happy... Or settle down with a beautiful wife.... I honestly couldn't give a fuck, this is about you and the people around you NOTHING... FUCKING... ELSE! Truth, Lie, reality, bullshit doesn't come into this.
5. Anyway back to Jsqred you talked about balance between compassion and alphaness.
That's the misconception, like they are seperate...
Situation "Plane crash on a desert island"
(B)Alpha male: "man I gotta get through life and survive it's about me!! I'm top dog people should respect that" *goes and collects water and food and announces to group that he is going to lead everyone and they should do what he says*
Alpha male: "Oh shit, hang on am I ok? Yeah. Thiers alot of smoke around, FUCK, ALICIA, she's got a weak lung..." *pullls her from reckage and begins helping others, at one point taking a water bottle he bought at the beginning of the flight and handing it to a man who is coughing and spluttering thanks to the smog*
Being considerate, and looking out for and taking care of others, is pretty much the embodyment of "Alpha".
6. Someone above (I think it was stealth) made a refrence to cavemen, I'm not sure at what point you meant but....
Back when the alpha male was a lone muscular brute, most male-female sexual interactions would be more akin to rape than anything else. Luckily times have changed.
CHAT
