This title of this thread interested me a lot. Being Indian myself, I am generally quite curious when it comes to race and various cultures.
When I first got into game, the very first thing I did was The Newbie Mission. I still remember my first day, I was nervous as fuck. Could feel butterflies in my stomach as I froze there on the spot. Regardless of how I felt, I smiled and said "Hi" to every girl that walked past. I was surprised when a few would stop and talk for a while. I continued till I completed it. I actually lost my viginitiy to a woman from this challenge. She was European.
^ This was the very foundation my success rate. It was the turning point in my life. My internal beliefs and insecurities I had began to vanish reliasing that women are only human, just like me and everyone else here.
I began to look into Inner Game. Reliasing I was trying too hard to please other people I took a step back. I sat down and thought really hard about my passions, my likes/dislikes, what makes me happy etc. I then implimented all of these factors into my life. I removed friends that weren't a beneficial addition and replaced them with new friends, who were.
This all took place in the space of 3 weeks, give or take a week. PU to me then turned exciting. It was fun talking to new women everyday, even men. Being blown out or rejected wasn't so bad anymore, it was funny. I started to do things that made me laugh. Even opening women in an Indian accent. It was a new emotion I hadn't felt in ages, I was having fun.
I soon reliased having fun was projecting a vibe that attracted all types of people. I would act silly and do random things, I didn't care. Along the way I made better friends, met gorgeous women, had one night stands and met an incredible girl who soon became my girlfriend.
Being Indian I felt my ethnicity did not affect my progress. I still continueed going out, no matter the circumstance, and pushing past my comfort zone. As stated in my 'Introduce Yourself' section, I have broken the so called belief that Asain can't get good at PU. The only limiting factor is yourself and how you handle situations where your race is brought up.
I remember a woman in the past telling me that this was the first time she has ever been with an Indian. Naturally curious I asked 'What attracted you to me?'. She repsonded with 'You didn't make it an issue and was just comfortable in your own skin'.
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see, my main issue is this now, how can I achieve the same results as my White friends in mostly White areas, is such a thing even possible now?
I question why you feel the need to be as your white friends. I feel you are not pleased about the fact you are Indian and your skin colour is brown. For me, I am proud. Without a doubt I always use my ethnicity and culture during an interaction, whether it be a joke, food related, religion, teachings etc.
I'm very passionate when it comes to my culture and the women I speak to sense this. As long as you're comfortable with it, other people will naturally be comfortable too. Judging by your statements you have not reached this stage yet nor do I sense you want you.
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I had to be SURE to avoid other Indians as they would cripple my self esteem and say "a white girl is too much out of your league". I had to set an example because there was no Indian guy to set an example for me here in America. We got UNFAIRLY stereotyped, we wrote the Kama Sutra yet we get the geek stereotype and all that crap.
This paragraph greatly confuses me. Having been to America in 2011, I was quite successful in terms of picking up women who were of different races. I wear glasses. According to your statement above that makes me the perfect stereotype. I question why you would listen to people who say you can't do it. If you wanted to be an Architect and someone said you couldn't, would you let that stop you? No, you wouldn't care.
It sounds very much like you're the only Indian in America who has to set the bar for others Indians. I've been there and proven this theory wrong already and so has many others before me.
As for the Karma Sutra part, I love it! I bought a copy just to keep at my house. It's on a shelf in the living room, clearly visible. 95% of the time the girl will always point to it, or pull it out. Couldn't work out better.
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It was tough for me, it was really really tough to hear all that crap about my skin color and people telling me I couldn't do it because they had never seen an Indian player before or whatever.
Just because the odd person says it's not possible, doesn't mean it's not. I feel you have a very ambigious idea of what you want from women and how you want others to precieve you. At the end of the day the question I ask you, is if you got the same success as your 'white friends' would you be truly happy?
As a final comment, if you are not comfortable with your ethnicity, women will pick up on this before you even open your mouth. It reeks in your body language and the whole interaction comes of awkard. She will sense your intentions are not genuine or even fear you'll pull the racist card if she rejects you. From previous comments my advice can only so so far as how much you are willing to accept. You don't need to reply only reflect what I've said.
- Kang
I've never wanted to high five someone so much. But yeah bro, you're totally right. I experienced something roughly familiar to you in terms of realizing that skin doesn't matter heck I use it to my advantage!
OP: Dude, aslong as you love ur skin and proud of where you're from then those friends of yours can go do one buddy. I know exactly how you feel in thinking that your skin colour puts you in crutches when you try to game but the only thing putting you in those crutches is you thinking your skin is doing it. I'm african and even though some people may think that being black helps because of stereotypes, I know thats bullshit and I say that from my experience with women. There will always be a few things that girls don't like about a guy, sure a few women may say skin colour is their no-go but hey, so what? Long story short, shut up and keep gaming, the only thing preventing you from being successful is you, not your skin.
p.s: If you've heard of simple pickup, check em out. Theres an indian dude out of the 3 and he's probably the one with the most game out of the 3 (all still great), If he's successful why can't you be?