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So I'm at a large campus and there are a ton of people in most of my classes. I'm not 21 yet so I can't go to the bar or club scenes. I am able to sit down next to a girl and just start talking about the class but at the most we will get in 10 minutes of conversation before the class begins.
After this point I'm not quite sure how to progress. Should I make comments to her throughout the class? Should I just stay silent? Should I ask her to go to coffee right after the class or try to sit near her for multiple days and gain her 'trust' to go?
Any advice on where to go from the initial conversation before the class begins would be helpful.
To be honest, my social circle is pretty small in my sophomore year so it's hard to be introduced through people. I am trying more clubs just to broaden friends, acquaintances, etc.
Newman, I'm same situation. I'm a freshman at a 30,000+ university. But I'm suprised that you can't at least enter the bars, here I can get in at 19 and in some places 18. Anyways your not at that much of a disadvantage. Mind you, I'm by no means a PUA, but I've found a lot of "luck" just in the past few months I've been in college.
First off, if you're in a large university there are parties every day of the week... find them. Parties are very good social environments where women tend to be more open to new people coming up to them. This is for multiple reasons I suppose: 1) there are no boundaries for personal space like a booth in a bar or a table at a club. You have just as much right to be standing in the spot next to her as she has to move. 2) Parties are meant to meet new people so they expect it. Just remember that no girl with half a brain goes to a party by herself, so make sure you befriend any obstacles or see if she's dating anyone that owns the apartment/house (easy way to do this- ask her who told her about the party). 3) The girls are looking for a good time, and sometimes they enter the party with the same mission as you... to get a close.
With that in mind, work your game from there. Make yourself the center of attention. Parties ussually have drinking games, be good at them. make the games fun and exciting so HB's want to join you or at least start observing you. From there you may even realize that the girls will start to open you. If not, ask your target to join in on the game or to be your good luck charm. A classic move has never failed me yet: we play beer pong alot at my school so I've made sure that I'm fairly good at it. Whenever I play I like to move around alot, be a little loud, and always congratulate my partner in a showy fashion if they sink a cup (and expect them to do the same for me). This will draw the attention in the room to me, then I'll start gettin the IOI's from HB's and they'll start to work their way across the room to see what all the rucus I'm making is about. From there I start a side conversation with them while I'm playing. This means I'm only giving them part of my attention which is kind of like running multiple sets at the same time. Anyways, once you've got her intersted, ask her to blow on the ball for luck (in a smooth manner). Something about it I think triggers something and makes them evencrazier for you.
From here, once you have her hooked, you're basicly golden. Parties are usually loud so it gives you a good reason to move her. Just ask her if she wants to go someplace more quiet to talk. This can be a corner of the room, a bedroom at the house, or even your place (just read her signals and give her a chance to respond, she may just say "can we go to your place").
CHAT
