Saw this thread, and realized this can be considered something I struggle with.
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Summary of this "PUA" conference
Damn. I figured that was the case. Tools.
I've seen it going out on my own. I saw the VH1 show. I saw that dude Mystery (Looked like some superhero magician), and what he taught those guys. Idk man. I kinda saw where Mystery was coming from, but most of those guys were trying to BE Mystery, instead of using what he said to make THEMSELVES at the same level as Mystery.
People can't be themselves. They hold onto false ideals and gimmicks, in an order to deceive. Girls want a guy, not a fucking clown. Man, if you think getting your own self figured out is tough, try competing with the scumbag vultures out to steal every girl you connect with.
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Well, are you? Now I’ve seen the community first hand and not just from some forums, how do I know that you guys are not all keyboard jockeys? I don’t, but you do.
This is why I was hesitant to join a forum. I wasn't sure if I was in the company of fellow guys who knew how to mingle. Some guys swallow information, and regurgitate it, deceiving the masses.
I swear, I've read some of DeAngelo's shit, and some other stuff on websites, and most of it, I already knew of growing up in NYC (I didn't like my life when I was younger. I always thought everyone was a jerk, and I saw firsthand how the world worked, as most of my earlier "friends" were these said jerks). I already knew most of this stuff. It's just dealing with others. All I know is the fist. Talking is my weak point (I had ADD since I was born, and I just found out 3 weeks ago. I went undiagnosed with ADD for over 18 years (I'm 21 now), and after taking medication, I realized that I had something missing; which was being able to relate to others).
I knew, but I couldn't apply. It hurt; watching all my friends get what I wanted. It fucking hurt.
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Another interesting question to ask is this; is game a crutch for social retards a way to talk to women?
In my own life, I realized game isn't everything. You need a positive attitude to move forward. A combo of positive attitude, and the wisdom of those older than you, who've been around the block. Listen to those who have what you want, and use their advice in a way that is being "you".
Everything stems from a positive attitude. Listen to Lil Wayne. He is the paradigm of positive momentum, and ANYONE can foster it. So on "game", I don't think it's the game itself, but the skills associated with game that cripples most guys. Game is all attitude. Attitude is everything. Attitude saved my life, and, now, it's threatening to destroy it.
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In some ways yes. A guy I met and become good friends with, we talked about loads of stuff until he found out I’d read The Game and from then on it was all he talked about. After that he forgot why he was friends with me in the first place and we eventually stopped talking, because I don’t want to be friends with a leech like Tyler Durden.
Shit man. Sorry to hear that. I guess he found, what he thought was "the holy grail", and wanted to let the world know his goodness. It happens bro. Push forward.
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Remember, if girls ARE your life, then your life SUCKS. Girls are there to enrich your ALREADY special life, and you don’t need any girl to make it amazing (Sharplin made a decent point in his thread about something like a VIP lifestyle).
THANK YOU!!! Someone preaches truth!
Girls like you not because of what you have, or how much you have, or who you know. They like you because of your attitude. Gotta have swag. Attitude, for girls, is what a big ass and titties are to a guy. Attitude gives girls invisible "boners". Attitude is tough to maintain, as you are bogged by life shit everyday. Gotta push; gotta move. Life waits for no one.
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I barely ever approach in clubs, now I don’t know why that is – maybe because uni accomm supplies me with several girls and I’m always seeing at least one at a time, and I have high standards so I rarely see a girl out that I would consider gf’ing if she had an amazing personality.
Clubs are a place to dance, pop pills, smoke weed, and have guilt-free club sex. If you're looking for a girlfriend in a club, you might as well be looking for a diamond in a pile of elephant shit. If you hook up with a club girl, there are three things to remember:
1)Alcohol is your friend. Trust me. (But make sure you got swag, or you're fucked).
2)Wear a condom.
3)Don't trust anyone. And watch your beer. People spike shit.
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I go out with all of my friends at uni, not to pull girls. I go out to have fun.
My whole life is fun. Everything I do I make fun. Fun is what I am about. My time is precious, and I’m not about to waste it trying to get into some average girl’s knickers.
My man! High Five!
Go out, have fun, drink, be merry. If shit happens, shit happens. Do not live for women. You will lose.
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How precious is your time?
Never though about that. I live in the moment, and I spend my time making sure that, wherever I'm at, I'm comfortable, and can make others comfortable. When people fuck with my comfort, I avoid them. I like my world.
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The other question is: How confident are you of yourself and how much do you respect yourself?
I try to be confident in myself, because I, as a person, am a very nice guy (Not kiss ass, but someone who holds to a code of honor and morality).
Everyone around me is a dog. I cannot be like that, and I know that dogs, in this instance, will always beat me. I'm trying to look for the answer to beat them. The nice guy can win. Positive attitude kills all demons. But, how do I shine brighter than dogs?
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PS. I felt compelled to post this because I am very surprised at how desperate some guys are to get their dicks wet. I thought PUAs were different because we have choice, yet when I met a bunch that ‘claimed’ to be, they were just as desperate as any other guy, but using PUA to give them more of a chance.
I’m no PUA by the real definition; I can’t get any girl I want, but I know HOW to. And because of that, I just assumed we would take our pick then choose, not hit on anything.
Guys with low value hit on anything. Guys with REAL value hit on who they want, not what they can GET.
Opinions?
I feel you Trixsta. Too many guys focus on the pussy. It's all about having a good time. Pussy is a bonus. When you're having a good time, oddly enough, girls WANT to come up to you. They wanna have a good time too, and if you're having a good time, you're the good time guy. Good time guys are awesome. Good time guys get pussy, and if not, HEY, you still had a good time.
There is a famous Japanese Edo-era poet named Matsuo Basho. He said this following quote:
“Every day is a journey, and the journey itself is home.”
Home is a state of mind. Home is comfortable. Everyone loves a home. Anyone can buy a house, but it takes a real person to build a home.
If you're having a good time, being comfy, and not being pressured to make a statement, are you not at home? Girls love home. They tolerate being held prison at home. If you give feelings of homeliness, you will succeed (The problem is the dogs. The dogs scratch at your home, and threaten the good family. What do you do then?)
My two cents. I like to be deep. I have time to be.
CHAT
