I was watching something earlier by Adam Lyons, and it sounds a little bit like what you said. He said ''I'm every one of my girls' gay best friend... that's straight''. He was talking about when he walked into a bathroom full of his girlfriends friends all naked, and he was talking to one that was having a piss. They didn't even care that he was in there. When another guy asked to come in they said no. The guy said ''but Adam's in there!''. They told him ''Adam doesn't count''. He's the guy that doesn't count. That's fucking powerful.
Here is a link to the vid, listen to it from 39:35 into the video.
http://www.the21convention.com/2009/05/ ... -2-1-of-1/

I always tell girls that I'm gay in a cocky way with a little smile. It's push/pull, teasing, role play, DHV, everything good.