Good post, lots of good pointers in there.. but these dont resonate with me.

Not making sudden moves and taking small steps is the conservative way to do it. I've had a number of times where we're sitting side by side chatting about whatever, and I immediately grab her thigh and start rubbing it under the table (as we're in a group). or I will wrap my arm around her and rub her back. Its VERY easy to turn a girl on with kino if you're not all nervous/creepy about it.

Not knowing the next step is OK. IMO there are no "steps" really, because i view it as:
talk, kino, vibe, talk kino, kiss, "hey come over", lay

All that REALLY matters is that you are always escalating her escalation. 1 up her everytime.[/quote]

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@tasty

1)I do daygame

2)As I mentioned before, every rule is meant to be broken but,

I've noticed way more compliance when kino is step-by-step. Of course it depends on situation, your skill, etc. I think step-by-step simply increases your chances.

I've heard some guys here talking about light kino, before she is in your room and then going for a f-close, by escalating fast. I haven't tried this, although looks promising.

ADDING-Some staff from RSD that I really liked

49) Talk louder-Voice projection is important-this was my sticking point for a while mainly because I didn't think of it as a one.

50) either talk with a neutral tonality(like with your buddies), or a little going lowering your pitch at in the end(a bit when you are disappointed-Where the f*** are you from)

51) Firm, strong voice, strong gestures, might seem a bit not like everybody else, but it'll work better. (etc- hey who are you? *grab her hand-*Sit down)

52) Lower your standard for success(not for women)-If you approach with an idea in your head to get a threesome-you'll stress yourself out, but if you set your mind to approach=success then you'll keep your state easily.

53)Build momentum

54)Assume success-What you expect to be true will be true(If you think having sex on the 1st date is a big deal-she'll think so too-failed me so many times lol)

55) You can't HOPE that something will work-you MUST KNOW that it'll work.

56) Be persistent in a set.

57) Abundance mentality-was described in "Blueprint Decoded"- but Max Weiss' "Zen of Meeting Women" really explains it.

some games to play:(i can write detailed description if anybody needs them)-I'd like to learn some new game too-I'd love to hear what works for you.

Truth game(MM)
Robot dance game
30 second hit game
voice exercise
5 lies and then:
ask for something that is impossible

This is turning into my diary/handbook but whatever. here we go:

58) Have fun. PU should be fun-not a sacrifice of time full of stress and dead brain cells in order to get laid.

59) Don't judge people.-that's very unattractive and stupid.

60) Live in present-you can't change the past, only learn from it, so don't let it affect you

61) Come to reality, there are a lot of illusions out there-use common sense.-there is no magic-PU is simple. Much simpler than many of you think.

62) If you can't change something-accept it as it is. Be it your looks, money, anything you can't change(at least in a short time)-you should work with what you have.

63) Take good with its bad. This is very important for relationships. You can't expect a girl to live up to that perfect image of her in your head. She is just a human. A beautiful, but still imperfect. Perfection is overrated-its boring IMO.

64) Be fearless-fear is meaningless. If you simply look at some peoples' lives, at what they had to live through-talking to a girl is pretty easy.

65) Value your time.-If you have that image of yourself what you want to be like(I want to put on some muscle for example)-don't waste your time watching Jersey shore.

66) Live in present, past can't be changed, future is unknown

67) See the beauty. There are many different kinds and many ways to see it. I've known a guy who was pretty much ignoring the girls I was talking to(we all sat at the same table-these girls were my friends and we met them accidentally in the mall) and after girls left I asked him why he acted like that. He just said: They're not pretty. Don't be like that. If you can't see beauty in that person it doesn't mean it is not there.

68) Enjoy every second of your life.-old advise which is greatly useful in PU

69) Keep peace in mind. Once when I was in the bus, I saw a little child sleeping in her dad's arms. She was sleeping peacefully, and didn't bother with the world around her. That unshakable state, when nothing can really throw you off balance is what I'm talking about.

70) Stay true to yourself.-will help you to deal with all the shittests, and in relationship, girl might try to change for what she thinks is "better" but if she achieves that, she'll lose interest in you. It doesn't mean you should never compromise(please use common sense) it simply means knowing your identity, and living with it. Remember, girl falls in love with you. If she changes you while you're in relationship, she'll lose interest, since that's no longer you who was that attractive person. That's why:

71) honesty is crucial.

72) Range of emotions-important while on a date. You can talk about fun staff, change topic to something serious, or may be sad, then fun again. Main theme should be fun and easy, but adding different emotion to spice things up will create that connection.

73) Conscious>self-conscious- this is something I learnt from RSD. Being conscious about world around you instead of being in your head-works magic, and makes your life fuller.

74) Stop over thinking and over analyzing. This only adds up to stress, which will only drag you down. Trust me I've suffered a lot from this particular point.

75) Tyler Durden's 25 most common mistakes.(this is gold btw) http://puarticles.blogspot.com/2008/01/ ... urden.html

76) See best in people.-this will "magically" boost your game.

P.S. Thanks to everybody for responses. Really appreciate it.

great post man , now i remember some stuff that i already forgot .. thanks!

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Sometimes when i'm with my chick on the low, I'm a flirt.

Something so simple, but so important. I actually just realized it.

I'll call this 77th rule my "Golden" rule. Since it's THE most important for me.

This is a simple solution to many problems.

77) Keep approaching

Here is why this is so important.

If you feel hurt because of flakes-keep approaching
If you need help with your "inner game"-keep approaching
If you're hurt because of your one-itis-keep approaching
If you want to get better at PU-keep approaching
If you want to find the woman of your life-keep approaching
If you don't want to tun into KJ-keep approaching.

I think these reasons are more than enough to drag your ass out of the computer.


Well if you have AA, I can only share how I got rid of it. I started watching Korean movies. (Mostly drama's.) Some of them describe really sad stories. In one movie "Millionaire's first love" (great movie btw) This girl, was like "I'm scared." (I'm not gonna tell you why-just watch the movie) But she really had a legitimate reasons to be scared. Just a teenage girl. After that every time I feel anything similar to AA, I just remember it, and approaching isn't a problem.

There is one thing about Korean movies though-they're more romantic than Hollywood movies, so some of you might be tempted to act like the characters in these movies-don't. I told you already, that you'll end up in a very stupid/pathetic situation if you do(been there, done it).

This is the single best post I've seen since joining the forum and PUA community. While all the advice out there is useful, putting it together logically can be tough. For a beginner, this gives awesome organization. So thank you for creating something that can be approached in a cohesive manner. The fact that you include things from all the gurus gives it a lot of credibilty.

Few more things I found out for myself.

78 ) Make a " code"- that you act by and stick to it. How strict it is, depends on you, but don't let some girl change it. If you choose to change it, change it for yourself, not because you feel desperate for sex or whatever.

79) Don't be this guy: soim-married-how-to-adapt-vp456258.html ... d75#456258

80) There is power in walking away.

81) as I already said-don't over think, e.g. in Tyler Durden's post I've mentioned, if you keep focusing on where your feet are, what your tonality and all the small details-you'll fuck up way faster. Just be cool. Its better to lean in, have your feet pointing at her and all this staff, while being cool. (nonreactive, laid back) than to freeze in the middle of approach as if you're trying to play newest COD on Windows 98. (I haven't played anything in last 2 years, but I'm aware of trends.

some more about AA.:

82) "AA will always be there, the key is that you have to act anyway."- Zan perrion on AA- this is single best advice on AA I've heard in my life.

83) Instead of fighting AA-use it. use it as an energizer and enjoy all the adrenaline rush that comes with it. AA can be a very pleasant feeling, if you manage to turn it into excitement.

84) If you want to sum up how you want to act - just be cool.


85) HOW TO GET OUT OF FRIENDZONE: http://www.sashapua.com/articles/get-ou ... dzone.html and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7v70uXlqk4

( 1st link-Ryan 2nd link- AFC Adam)

86) Ego vs Self Esteem: http://www.rsdwiki.com/index.php?title=The_New_RSD

87) Love women. Not the game. Some people are in love with the game and their PU-ego driven persona.

88 ) My summary of what PU is all about:

1) Confidence
2) Getting rid of self-limiting beliefs
3) Being playful
4) Correctly expressing your sexual desire
5) Not being Desperate
6) Understanding what kind of qualities attract women
7) Discovering or developing these qualities
8 ) How relationships work
9) How to be more social
10) Knowing how to have fun.

89) Self is always coming through- RSD...I've head another version from one German priest in training : " I you want a 10, you gotta be a 10."

90) When I say be 10 I'm talking about being able to bring up your best qualities and hopefully deal with shitty ones. That's good thing to do both to improve your game, relationships and etc.

91) Often times, girls actually want to meet guys, but they want guys to take actions(we are men after all) without coming across as creepy/weird and making it embarrassing for her to be with you.

92) Fast isn't necessarily best. You can get a number in less than a minute, but most likely its gonna be flaky.

93) If you want to cut your flake rate, mention during approach what qualities do you value in girls-you'll come across as a person with high standards who isn't desperate and won't take any girl who agrees to be with him-(credits to 870)

94) Actually trying to understand girl or find out what kind of personality she has. People like people who they can be honest around, who they can tell their story to.

Quick addition:

95) If there is one thing I learnt from all these romantic movies I've seen-it would be that there is no such a thing as perfect 10. IMHO you have to look for your 10. You can see a guy with an average looking or may be even ugly girl-absolutely happy, and you might think: " He could do so much better"-may be not, may be she is his ideal woman. Whether you like her or not doesn't matter does it?

96) HOW TO DEAL WITH SHITTESTS:

Since I value simplicity a lot, this is my favorite way of dealing with shittests:
stare in her eyes, smile, look away, stare back at her...keep staring until she either looks away or says something. If she looks away, you can continue talking about some different topic, and after doing this a few times she is less likely to shittest you again.

97) Don't let bunch of "guru's " make you think in certain way. Take advice-try it, if it works-cool if iit doesn't-it doesn't. If 99 out of 100 advices by a guru work, it doesn't mean that he is going to be right about the 100th one. Trust your gut.

98 ) Jealousy, hatred and etc. Remember the time you hated that guy with a girl you like and since he was tall, or better built, or different race, age or social status? I've had bunch of these moments. In my experience., all these moments I hated mostly myself, I just didn't realize that. If I hated a guy with a girl I liked, in the end it was hatred towards my inability to be with that girls, which was rationalized in my head and turned into hatred towards that person. When I was kid, I got beat up by some kids from the street (now my best friends lol). I though I hated it, but only now I understand that I hated my inability to stand up for myself. The same can be applied to almost every single time I hated something or somebody. If you can realize that, its much easier to deal with anger, hatred within which in turn will make you a better person.

99) Every girl you approach, can turn out to be either boring, or very special. if you don't approach-you will never know. Now, if you do, approach with open mind, without comparing her to the previous relationships you had with other girls. No matter how cheesy that might sound-every new girl is a new world which you can explore.

THIS IS FUCKING AWESOME!

best post ive read in along time.

sums a lot of things up nicely.

I showed it to my mates.

I got to say that i really really enjoyed this post. Thumbs up!!
I've noticed things that I done wrong and know realize