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hi guys, What is the best answer when a girl puts herself down e.g "I wish I was that skinny" or "i no im not the prettiest" i've had this alot and don't really no how to deal with these
Tyler Durden addressed this & I thought had an interesting take. Assuming the girl really does have self esteem issues & just isn't fishing for validation. He said you shouldn’t try to logically convince her that she isn’t fat because that wouldn’t fit into her reality.
Trying to remember but I think he said if you tried that she wouldn’t believe you & would basically see you as insulting her inteligence. You can’t really convince people that have shit like that so ingrained in their heads with words.
He said the better way is basically don’t let it register to much & say something like ok, I don’t judge that or brush it off. That would fit more in her reality & she would trust you more & that actually then she would reach more for your opinion because she would want and need your validation.
I don’t know if this is true but it makes sense. I think RSD has backwards engeneered this stuff more than anyone. Also I assume you could show her you liked her through your actions & that would be a more powerful validation for her esteem.
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